With All This Talk About Christmas . . . A ? for mommies born in December (not the kids, the mommies)

DD is an early December baby. While TTC I said I didn't want a December baby b/c I didn't want to lose out because a birthday fell the same month. While PG I convinced myself that as the parent I wouldn't let that happen. Now with DD's b-day and Christmas a mere 3 months away, I'm starting to worry.

Finances are tight right now (and will continue to be for at least the next 3 months if not longer). I want to find a way to make DD's b-day special, but I'm not sure my idea will make it special.

So, for those of you born in December, what do you think of starting the following tradition:

On DD's b-day I would like to go out and get a Christmas tree, then come home and do the cake and presents thing, and then decorate it.

I should add that DH & I have already decided we are not doing the big first b-day party for a variety of reasons (the least of which is financial).

Re: With All This Talk About Christmas . . . A ? for mommies born in December (not the kids, the mommies)

As a december baby born 9 days before christmas I think that as a great ideal!!!!

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I think that is a beautiful idea!

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I was born on 12/15 and - I don't know how I feel about it.

I think it's a great family day and a wonderful family tradition to start - I think that's what getting a Christmas tree and decorating a tree already is - a nice tradition. To me - a December birthday is still seperate from Christmas and should be celebrated that way.

I don't think you need to do a big thing at all - but just acknowledge the day with something special that your child wants to do (obviously when they can tell you) - whether it's go to Friendly's - or to go bowling. I think if you set up this tradition your DC may not feel as if it's about their birthday. KWIM?

My parents always had my family over for dinner and cake. I always got a ton of presents. They never mixed my birthday with Christmas ever. Not that you need to do a ton of presents - I was just saying that the two never conflicted!

I'm not saying it's a bad idea - I just personally like keeping the two seperate! I hope you don't take offense to that!

Message edited 10/1/2008 7:58:14 PM.

Re: With All This Talk About Christmas . . . A ? for mommies born in December (not the kids, the mommies)

Posted by Diana1215

I was born on 12/15 and - I don't know how I feel about it.

I think it's a great family day and a wonderful family tradition to start - I think that's what getting a Christmas tree and decorating a tree already is - a nice tradition. To me - a December birthday is still seperate from Christmas and should be celebrated that way.

I don't think you need to do a big thing at all - but just acknowledge the day with something special that your child wants to do (obviously when they can tell you) - whether it's go to Friendly's - or to go bowling. I think if you set up this tradition your DC may not feel as if it's about their birthday. KWIM?

My parents always had my family over for dinner and cake. I always got a ton of presents. They never mixed my birthday with Christmas ever.

I'm not saying it's a bad idea - I just personally like keeping the two seperate! I hope you don't take offense to that!

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My birthday is 12/27.. it is 2 days after Xmas. I would love to start a tradition like that.. maybe start going into the city to see the tree or something.

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My birthday is the 11th.....Tradition was that we always put up the Christmas tree the weekend after my birthday.

I would let her birthday be her birthday..she has to share it already as it is..

Re: With All This Talk About Christmas . . . A ? for mommies born in December (not the kids, the mommies)

I'm born 12/19...I think that is a great idea and a wonderful way to start a tradition

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I see your DD's birthday is 12/4, which is a solid 3 weeks before Christmas (my bday is 12/7), which gives you plenty of time to celebrate her birthday as a whole separate entity from Christmas.
I personally think you should start some sort of tradition that DOESN'T have to do with Christmas and then perhaps, the week after her birthday or something, go get a Christmas tree together. Let "Christmas in your house" begin AFTER her birthday. JMO.

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I am 12/9 and I am not a big birthday person but I always said christmas starts after my birthday. I don't decorate or anything until after that - I like to keep them separate ....although recently we have broken the rule just when it falls on the weekend/Sunday and we just need to get it done. It is up to you - I honestly prefer separation but tradition is nice too.

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Posted by Diana1215

I was born on 12/15 and - I don't know how I feel about it.

I think it's a great family day and a wonderful family tradition to start - I think that's what getting a Christmas tree and decorating a tree already is - a nice tradition. To me - a December birthday is still seperate from Christmas and should be celebrated that way.

I don't think you need to do a big thing at all - but just acknowledge the day with something special that your child wants to do (obviously when they can tell you) - whether it's go to Friendly's - or to go bowling. I think if you set up this tradition your DC may not feel as if it's about their birthday. KWIM?

My parents always had my family over for dinner and cake. I always got a ton of presents. They never mixed my birthday with Christmas ever. Not that you need to do a ton of presents - I was just saying that the two never conflicted!

I'm not saying it's a bad idea - I just personally like keeping the two seperate! I hope you don't take offense to that!

Re: With All This Talk About Christmas . . . A ? for mommies born in December (not the kids, the mommies)

I am 12/10 ans my parents ALWAYS made sure my b-day was special and not jumbled up with Xmas.

When I was little we always got out tree on my b-day weekend but my parents always celebrated my b-day seperate. We would decorate another day.

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I am not a December b-day but my DD is and I like her birthday to be completely distinct from Christmas. I don't think I would ever do Christmas-y things on her b-day.

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Posted by hbugal

My birthday is the 11th.....Tradition was that we always put up the Christmas tree the weekend after my birthday.

I would let her birthday be her birthday..she has to share it already as it is..

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My birthday is December 25 and it was always celebrated from I was born and still is celebrated. It was celebrated differently from the christmas holiday because my parents wanted it that way.

I would say celebrate your DC birthday separately form the christmas holidays. You don't have to keep a huge party but make sure it is celebrated.

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We did both actually.

My birthday is 12/02.

We always decorated for Christmas on my birthday (or my mom would save the tree ornaments for me to do when I got home from school).

Then, either the weekend before or after my birthday, my mom always threw me a party with my friends. Always in her basement, always with a homemade cake.

It was our tradition and I felt it was the best of both worlds.

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I think it's a great idea!!! I love traditions...you always remember them when you look back on your childhood and how very special to incorporate a tradition for her birthday.

My birthday is Jan 5th which falls the day before the epiphany (as an Italian we recognize this "little Christmas"). We always keep the tree up until 1/7 or the weekend following so my birthday was always spent with the tree lite up and presents underneath. I loved it and DH and I still do it

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My birthday is 12/8 and the rule always was in my house, no Christmas decorations until after my birthday. Growing up I didn't want to hear anything about Christmas until after my birthday.

Now that I'm an adult I actually like having the Christmas decorations up before Christmas and don't mind my birthday being near Christmas.

IMO, I wouldn't do the tree/decorating thing, because you are still kinda sharing DC's birthday with X-mas. I would do something totally unrelated to Christmas. This is the child speaking in me.

As an adult, I think it's a great idea and may ask DH if we can start doing that on my birthday!

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My bday is Dec 22nd and I think its a verrrrrrry nice idea.

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My brother's bday is early Dec. My mother would always wait to put up the tree until after his birthday so that it wouldn't be overshadowed by christmas. I dont think my brother cared and he probably didnt realize that the tree wasnt up for his birthday.

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Posted by InShock

I see your DD's birthday is 12/4, which is a solid 3 weeks before Christmas (my bday is 12/7), which gives you plenty of time to celebrate her birthday as a whole separate entity from Christmas.
I personally think you should start some sort of tradition that DOESN'T have to do with Christmas and then perhaps, the week after her birthday or something, go get a Christmas tree together. Let "Christmas in your house" begin AFTER her birthday. JMO.