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Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

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Bridex100
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Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

DS 1 and 2 were born a day apart. We were planning to have a joint party for them. I can't help but feel bad for DS#2.

We went all out for DS#1's first birthday. DS#2 continually gets shafted.

I don't think our guests would want to attend 2 parties though.

Would you do separate parties or just keep the current joint party?

Posted 2/6/12 12:18 PM
 
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ali120206
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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

I would keep them joint.

Posted 2/6/12 12:20 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

Is this DS #2 1st Birthday?

If so, I would do a big party for him and then maybe just immediate family for cake on DS #1's birthday.

Then following years do joint, when it's not a "milestone" birthday.

Posted 2/6/12 12:40 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

Posted by ali120206

I would keep them joint.



ditto!

Posted 2/6/12 12:41 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

Posted by TreAnt427

Is this DS #2 1st Birthday?

If so, I would do a big party for him and then maybe just immediate family for cake on DS #1's birthday.

Then following years do joint, when it's not a "milestone" birthday.




I like this idea!

I would go to both, especially if I lived close and it was immediate family, but I think I would probably still complain about having 2 consecutive weekend day parties for the same family.

Posted 2/6/12 12:43 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

Depends on the age
real young (except for the 1st b-day) I'd do a joint one and invite family and friends
As they get older I'd do separate parties b/c they'll have different friends anyway.

DH and his sister are a week apart. My MIL said she always gave them their own party.

Posted 2/6/12 12:46 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

My oldest daughter is a month before the twins' birthday. I have a joint party for all 3.

Posted 2/6/12 12:59 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

i would personally attendand i see your point about your second DC getting shafted. However i would probably make them 2 weeks apart just so it doesnt feel to much right after another.

Posted 2/6/12 1:05 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

Joint

Posted 2/6/12 1:08 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

Posted by TreAnt427

Is this DS #2 1st Birthday?

If so, I would do a big party for him and then maybe just immediate family for cake on DS #1's birthday.

Then following years do joint, when it's not a "milestone" birthday.



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If you feel bad for DS #1 not having a party though, I would have one party the week before their birthday, and one party the week after their birthday so they are 2 weeks apart from each other. Depending on how far your guests are driving for the party would probably determine your rsvp's. If I were to do it this way I would probably do DS #2's party first.

Or you could do a joint party with a big 1st b-day theme for DS #2 and a related but separate theme for DS #1.

Posted 2/6/12 1:34 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

Our youngest were born in the same month. For the 1st birthday we did seperate parties. They were 2 weeks apart. From now on we're doing joint parties.

Unless it was a scheduling conflict, everyone came to both, they're weren't any major issues.

Posted 2/6/12 1:41 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

I probably would not attend 2 parties a week apart. I'd bring the gift for the other kid with me to the first party.. so I say joint parties.

Posted 2/6/12 1:49 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

Posted by TreAnt427

Is this DS #2 1st Birthday?

If so, I would do a big party for him and then maybe just immediate family for cake on DS #1's birthday.

Then following years do joint, when it's not a "milestone" birthday.



This is what I'd do...

Posted 2/6/12 1:54 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

Posted by TreAnt427

Is this DS #2 1st Birthday?

If so, I would do a big party for him and then maybe just immediate family for cake on DS #1's birthday.

Then following years do joint, when it's not a "milestone" birthday.



I like this idea best!

I would also separate the celebrations - one a week before and one a week after so there's a week break in between, as suggested above.

ETA: Not the same, but my DS and my niece (who is 7 years older than DS) have birthdays one day apart.

This year I am doing DS' party on Saturday and my niece's party is the next day on Sunday. Initially we were going to do one on one weekend and the other the following weekend, but it didn't work out because of people vacationing etc.

So this year our families will be invited to two birthday parties on the same weekend (for cousins, not siblings, but overall it's the same family members being invited). I feel bad about it, but it's the only thing that worked for us.

Message edited 2/6/2012 2:12:30 PM.

Posted 2/6/12 2:10 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

Posted by eroxgirl

I probably would not attend 2 parties a week apart. I'd bring the gift for the other kid with me to the first party.. so I say joint parties.



Ditto!

Sorry, but our calendar is already packed enough, two parties for the same family a week apart would be tough.

Posted 2/6/12 2:12 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

joint or I would just rotate years...I would do DS#2 1st bday

Posted 2/6/12 2:29 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

Posted by TreAnt427

Is this DS #2 1st Birthday?

If so, I would do a big party for him and then maybe just immediate family for cake on DS #1's birthday.

Then following years do joint, when it's not a "milestone" birthday.



I would do this too.

Posted 2/6/12 3:50 PM
 

Bridex100
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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

Posted by TreAnt427

Is this DS #2 1st Birthday?

If so, I would do a big party for him and then maybe just immediate family for cake on DS #1's birthday.

Then following years do joint, when it's not a "milestone" birthday.



The problem is that 3yo DS has friends. We are inviting his entire preschool class and playmates from a few mom's clubs I am in. We already sent invitations out and hired an entertainer. RSVPs have already started coming in.

DH thinks we should have a separate family birthday party for DS#2 so DS#2 would get the smaller party.

We are doing a pro photo shoot with cake smash for DS#2. We didn't do that for DS#1.

I just feel so bad for DS#2. He is such a good baby and is always getting shafted.

Message edited 2/6/2012 3:56:22 PM.

Posted 2/6/12 3:55 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

Posted by TreAnt427

Is this DS #2 1st Birthday?

If so, I would do a big party for him and then maybe just immediate family for cake on DS #1's birthday.

Then following years do joint, when it's not a "milestone" birthday.



Chat Icon is due a few days before DDs bday and I have (of course) already stressed about this. I think we plan on doing what the above poster suggested. Big 1st bday party then joint parties until they have their own school friends...then separate friend parties and separate immediate family parties.

Posted 2/6/12 9:24 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

I would do one party 2 wks early and one party 2 wks late so they are a month apart. I go to all family/friend bday parties that I can attend. The fact that it is for two kids in the same family would make zero difference to us - they are two separate children - if I could go I would be there. It's fine when they are really little and don't know any better but, my kids love their bdays - they love picking their own place, theme etc. They are only young once and I dont' feel they should have to share a party just b/c their bdays fall close together!

Posted 2/6/12 10:57 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

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Posted by TreAnt427

Is this DS #2 1st Birthday?

If so, I would do a big party for him and then maybe just immediate family for cake on DS #1's birthday.

Then following years do joint, when it's not a "milestone" birthday.



The problem is that 3yo DS has friends. We are inviting his entire preschool class and playmates from a few mom's clubs I am in. We already sent invitations out and hired an entertainer. RSVPs have already started coming in.

DH thinks we should have a separate family birthday party for DS#2 so DS#2 would get the smaller party.

We are doing a pro photo shoot with cake smash for DS#2. We didn't do that for DS#1.

I just feel so bad for DS#2. He is such a good baby and is always getting shafted.



In this situation I would definitely not to a joint party. I think it would be weird to have your DS's preschool class there celebrating his brother's 1st bday as well. It would be one thing if this were a family bday party or like a bday party for twins in the same class but, in this situation I don't think it works.

Posted 2/6/12 11:04 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

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Posted by eroxgirl

I probably would not attend 2 parties a week apart. I'd bring the gift for the other kid with me to the first party.. so I say joint parties.



Ditto!

Sorry, but our calendar is already packed enough, two parties for the same family a week apart would be tough.



But would you even think twice if it wasn't the same family? Time wise there's no difference.

I would have a big 1st bday seperate from the other smaller party and then in the future try for joint.

Posted 2/6/12 11:11 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

Posted by lynnd126

Posted by Karen

Posted by eroxgirl

I probably would not attend 2 parties a week apart. I'd bring the gift for the other kid with me to the first party.. so I say joint parties.



Ditto!

Sorry, but our calendar is already packed enough, two parties for the same family a week apart would be tough.



But would you even think twice if it wasn't the same family? Time wise there's no difference.

I would have a big 1st bday seperate from the other smaller party and then in the future try for joint.



Time wise there is no difference, but if we had another commitment that weekend, the family we just saw a week ago would definitely be getting the "no" rsvp. My daughter pretty much has a party every weekend from now until like the end of March, so at some point enough is enough.

Posted 2/6/12 11:50 PM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

Posted by Bridex100

Posted by TreAnt427

Is this DS #2 1st Birthday?

If so, I would do a big party for him and then maybe just immediate family for cake on DS #1's birthday.

Then following years do joint, when it's not a "milestone" birthday.



The problem is that 3yo DS has friends. We are inviting his entire preschool class and playmates from a few mom's clubs I am in. We already sent invitations out and hired an entertainer. RSVPs have already started coming in.

DH thinks we should have a separate family birthday party for DS#2 so DS#2 would get the smaller party.

We are doing a pro photo shoot with cake smash for DS#2. We didn't do that for DS#1.

I just feel so bad for DS#2. He is such a good baby and is always getting shafted.



Then I say go for it! I wouldn't care. I would go to both. Every year it may get annoying so a joint would be better on an annual basis but for this year why not?

Posted 2/7/12 12:25 AM
 

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Re: Would you attend 2 birthday parties a week apart for the same family?

My children are exactly 2 years apart. It will be DS's 3rd birthday and DD's 1st birthday. I am having one party. Since their birthdays are the same day I don't feel the need to have two seperate parties.

Posted 2/7/12 7:14 AM
 
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