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LINewbie
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
With my parents... yes, if I needed to save money.
With the inlaws? oh HELLS no!!!
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MichLiz213
Life is Good!
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
If things got really tight, then we would do it. Not with my IL's though.
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| Posted 3/5/09 5:55 PM |
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thewinterone
You make me happy
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cause you are gray.
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
I'd only do it if the alternative was that we would truly be homeless.
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| Posted 3/5/09 6:00 PM |
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drpepper318
MIR MIR MIR!
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
No, there wouldn't be enough space/privacy in either my in-laws or my mom's house, and also my in-laws live 2 hours away. Not just that, but I would go crazy living with them... we love our parents but would feel so uncomfortable.. we need our own space separate from them!!
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| Posted 3/5/09 6:04 PM |
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Domino
Always My Miracle
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
DH and I both agreed before we were married (and it has been further re-inforced with all the crapola that has transpired with his family) that we would live in a cardboard box before moving back with either of our parents (exept for my dad who is a saint).
Its funny that this conversaiton just came up recently with mom when I was discussing home costs and down payments. My mom thought that it would be an excellent idea "solution" if she bought a mother/daughter and DH and I moved in. I told her in a "polite" way, that was not an option. She is now extremely insulted
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| Posted 3/5/09 7:11 PM |
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DancinBarefoot
06ers Rock!!
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The One My Mother Gave Me ;-)
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
DH & I lived with his mother the first year we were married. In that time we were able to save enough to have a down payment for our current residence.
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| Posted 3/5/09 7:13 PM |
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skew
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
Posted by Ophelia
so...would you do it...would you bite the bullet and move in with your parents/inlaws
(or have the parents/inlaws move in with you)?
Q1 - move in with parents?
if the need arose and there were NO other options, yes
Q2 - have parents move in?
ABSOLUTELY w/o hesitation
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| Posted 3/5/09 7:39 PM |
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SweetestOfPeas
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
I think I would rather live in a box before I moved in with my MIL!!    
but if my financial situation was really bad, I would move back in w/my parents. not sure how DH feels though.
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| Posted 3/5/09 7:43 PM |
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KrisT
Two Boys for Me!!
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
It would definitely not be out first choice, but DH and I would do it if necessary.
On a related note, DH and I are looking to sell our co-op and buy a house within the next year or 2. We know that there is a definite possibility that we may have a few months where we don't have a home. Most likely, we will stay with either my parents or his parents.
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| Posted 3/5/09 7:51 PM |
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KarenG2003
My BIG man and my little man!
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
Posted by Jenn627
Never. Ever.
eta: Unless it was absolutely necessary - to the point where we'd be living on the streets if we didn't move in with them.
Ditto!
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| Posted 3/5/09 9:46 PM |
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julz33
i run for bacon
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
if necessary, yes, I guess so!
but I don't think we will ever have to do that.
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| Posted 3/5/09 9:48 PM |
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RadioLau
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
If we were in financially difficulty and had no other choice I would.
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| Posted 3/5/09 9:49 PM |
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sirk1020
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
Yes of course I would move in w. my parents if we needed to...and I would offer them our home if they needed
not saying it would all be a wonderful experience all the time, and if we were to move in w. my parents/inlaws i would definitely have a "move out time" in mind..but if one of us was down on our luck i would like to think we as a family would pitch in and help each other out
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| Posted 3/5/09 10:11 PM |
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sirk1020
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
Posted by skew
Posted by Ophelia
so...would you do it...would you bite the bullet and move in with your parents/inlaws
(or have the parents/inlaws move in with you)?
Q1 - move in with parents?
if the need arose and there were NO other options, yes
Q2 - have parents move in?
ABSOLUTELY w/o hesitation
this is how my DH feels as well
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| Posted 3/5/09 10:12 PM |
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OStewarts
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
I would, if necessary and if there was no other option. However, I sometimes wonder what we would do if/when my parents need help when they get older. I would not be opposed to their moving in with us. I think I would welcome it.
The thought of moving in with them freaks me out but not so much the other way around. Go figure...
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| Posted 3/5/09 10:26 PM |
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Goldi0218
My miracles!
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Leslie
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
My parents are deceased, but if they were still with us, I wouldn't live with them or my in-laws.
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| Posted 3/5/09 10:31 PM |
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babymakes3
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
I would live with my parents or my in-laws if absolutely necessary.
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| Posted 3/5/09 10:33 PM |
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Babe49
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
If we HAD to due to money problems, sure.
DH's friend and his wife just did it. They bought a home after living with wife's parents for a few years. Had a baby, bought a 2br home which was a fixer-upper. He and Dh fixed it up nice, they moved in, had another kid, a boy, 1st one was a girl. They are now back at her parents house, renting out their 2br house.
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| Posted 3/5/09 11:02 PM |
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ILJ619
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
Posted by MrsA714
I didn't read the link so I don't know the whole story, but I wouldn't have a problem living with my mother or my IL's if necessary ('if necessary' being the key words).
DH and I have an Italian/Hispanic background though, so living with your family for a loooong period of time  or with extended family is not unheard of. Shoot, I'd never have to cook or clean again if I lived with my MIL! I might have to speak with her about this. 
I agree with you 100%. I want my mom to live with me for (my) convenience factor.
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| Posted 3/5/09 11:07 PM |
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Jackie24
~We Did it~
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
Posted by anonttcer
Only if ABSOLUTELY necessary. Like if we had no other choice.
Not just to cut back or save some cash.
No way could I do it!
DITTO.
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| Posted 3/5/09 11:13 PM |
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yankinmanc
Happy Days!
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
Um, no, there is a reason I moved to another country.
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tourist
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
No, I would feel like I was shirking responsiblity and becoming a burden to my family if I did it to save money, or get ahead/get out of debt.
If there was no other choice & they offered, I might. I would absolutely have them move in with me, if they needed to & wanted to, although we'd probably drive each other crazy.
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| Posted 3/6/09 10:58 AM |
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bluebelle
LIF Infant
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
not unless we had no other choice. i like my independence and would rather live on our own
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| Posted 3/6/09 11:34 AM |
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photoshopbabe
wow....
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linda
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
if dh lost his job (bc im unemployed right now), we would have to move in w/my parents...it wouldnt be bad, but it would def have some disadvantages...we could do it tho
prior to getting married, we discussed livign w/my parents until we saved money for a house, but im glad we didnt..bc we truly needed to live together, ALONE, first..
i think the transition now would be more easy.
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| Posted 3/6/09 12:36 PM |
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Re: Would you do this, or a similar arrangement in these tough times?
Posted by snowbunny
Never.
Part of being an adult is supporting yourself.
WOW. I am going to hope that you did not mean this the way it sounds...
A quick background on DH, DD and I. We owned our own home, a 2nd floor co-op in Mid-Suffolk. In September we went on vacation to Texas. 2 days into vaction, DH ended up paralyzed below the waist. When we came back, we put the co-op on market, and DD and I stayed with my parents (DH joined us when he got out of the hospital).
DH couldn't stay at the co-op because he couldn't walk up the stairs. He's able to walk now, but we are in contract on our co-op and have been staying with my parents since this all happened. And we plan to stay there for another 6-12 months. In that time we can pay off 2-3 MAJOR debts, and save some money for a down payment...so when we buy a house, we are more able to afford it comfortably.
So as an adult, at 30 years (and DH is 33), we are living with parents. HOWEVER, to say that we don't support ourselves is totally inaccurate. WE buy DD's clothing and food, WE buy food for the house, do our own laundry, clean up our part of the house (and the common areas), take care of DD, etc.
Living with our parents is not something we ever though we would do again, nor something that we really wanted to do. And we want to have our own space again...but we're being ADULT about the situation and instead of rushing out to buy or rent something that will prevent us from ever being able to save enough and/or payoff debt, we are gratefully taking advantage of the opportunity...
I guess my point is you don't know what life will throw at you, so never say never. And please - don't make assumptions / criticisms of those who choose something you don't think you ever would.
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