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BunnyWife
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Re: Would you let your 15 year old...
if she's a good kid I don't see why not. The tiny scar it would leave if she decides to take it out is really not such a big deal. Even that mark will become invisible after a while. Millions of women in South Asia have nose piercing and I think they look gorgeous.
ETA: A small note about the scarring fear. I had a belly button ring for 15 years. I just took it out earlier this week for good and there is barely a scar there and thats a much larger hole than one done for a nose ring.
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Re: Would you let your 15 year old...
Posted by MrsD121011
I wanna say no as a gut reaction but I remember being a teenager and trying so hard to establish my own identity and individuality. I would have to gauge her level of maturity and the reason why she wants it done.
I agree with this.
Also I don't like piercing or tattoos in general but I can't say I would automatically shut it down...
You are the mom. From what you said she sounds like a mature young lady who is well behaved, succeeding in school, part of me says shouldn't good behavior be rewarded? shouldn't she be allowed to make her own decisions about something like this? it is not permanent. She can take it out for a college or job interview. The more I think about it the more I learn towards yes, like you I am laid back.
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| Posted 3/13/15 2:02 PM |
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Re: Would you let your 15 year old...
Yes, without a doubt.
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MissingLI
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Would you let your 15 year old...
I would. I had a nose ring when I was in college. My roommate wanted to get one so I went with her for support. She was so scared to do it (it was a place that did it with a needle & rod , not a gun) that I did it first to show it wasn't so bad. I had a ring and not a stud for a long time.
I actually loved my nose ring...but I did end up with a keloid after it was first done. That did go away with some care. I ended up taking it out after a few years and it is completely closed up. I don't even have a scar.
Like the other ladies said, if it's ok with the school and she is a good kid, why not? But you are her mom and it's really your decision.
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LuckyStar
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Would you let your 15 year old...
I didn't read all the responses, but I will say DH pierced his ears in college (diamond stud in each ear.....I've only seen pictures but he looked like such an a$$). Well, by the time I met him a few years later they were already out and now many years later the holes are still there and it drives him insane. He wishes he never did it.
I'm not a mom, but my concern would be that if the hole never closes, she will have a hole in her nose. Forever. She needs to be 100% ok with that possibility.
I'm definitely in the minority, but I think a tattoo in a place normally covered by clothes is preferable to a facial piercing. But, NOT at 15. 18 and older.
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MichLiz213
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Would you let your 15 year old...
I'm on the more conservative end. Not at 15. Maybe senior year if she's not 18 before then. I also scar pretty badly (I still have a bubble on the back of my ear from when I had a cartilage piercing, and a huge ugly scar on my forearm just from getting a beauty mark removed by the derm), so that would be a concern of mine.
My uncle has a ton of tattoos and told me whenever he saw a tattoo design that he wanted, he would wait six months before getting it. If he still really wanted it six months later, he would go get it. This is for something permanent though. It sounds, based on your responses, that you are ok with it, but if I'm reading it wrong, then I would ask her to wait a few months and if she still wants it, then you can seriously discuss getting it.
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whoababy11
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Re: Would you let your 15 year old...
my mother let me at 16, close to 17, and i believe she relented after months of me begging her because she realized i was a good and responsible kid. if your kid is mature and its something they really want, i don't see the harm.
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Jbon630
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Re: Would you let your 15 year old...
Yes I would take my daughter to a clean reputable shop rather than her going behind my back and getting it done anywhere that doesn't id her.
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KaKa2323
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Would you let your 15 year old...
I have no kids yet so I'm not sure how I would feel. But my parents were pretty strict and I got my nose pierced at 15 behind their backs. They got over it pretty quickly. It was so small it took them a month to realize I even had it lol
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Mom0710
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Re: Would you let your 15 year old...
Just ftr, my DH has his own arm sleeved, and I have several tattoos. I would probably take her as pp said I'd want her to go to a good, clean place.
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Re: Would you let your 15 year old...
Not at 15. Just to young in my eyes… maybe later in life, but not now.
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WannaBeAMom11
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Would you let your 15 year old...
Yes. I plan to pick my battles with her and this would not be a fight.
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starlitdragon
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Would you let your 15 year old...
Didn't read the responses but yes, I wokld.
I have one and got it when I was younger. It's a piercing. To me, those close up and heal and it's no big deal.
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JME78
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Re: Would you let your 15 year old...
Has anyone who said no to the nose ring pierced bc it might leave a scar or hole had their daughter's ears pierced as babies?
Not sure why one is ok but the other is not - what if she grows up and doesn't want her ears pierced? I think holes in ears are way more noticeable. I had a second hole at one point and you can still see the marks, I don't like them. I never look that closely at the side of my nose!
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Re: Would you let your 15 year old...
Posted by JME78
Has anyone who said no to the nose ring pierced bc it might leave a scar or hole had their daughter's ears pierced as babies?
Not sure why one is ok but the other is not - what if she grows up and doesn't want her ears pierced? I think holes in ears are way more noticeable. I had a second hole at one point and you can still see the marks, I don't like them. I never look that closely at the side of my nose!
IMO nose and ear ring holes aren't comparable. I didn't pierce my LOs ears as an infant but did allow her to get them when she asked. I may not agree with other ear piercing but would be more open to them. She would at least be able to cover them up with her hair. How do you cover up your nose?
MY gf that regrets hers has fair skin. The hole is still there. It stands out--she hates it! I'm sure she doesn't look at the side of her nose all day either but she interacts with other professionals and it's something that bothers her. Her's was definitely teeny tiny but she had it for a number of years.
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ohbaby08
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Would you let your 15 year old...
I would, as long as they go to a reputable place. I pierced my own cartilage (in my bedroom, with a pin) at 14, so I understand.
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Re: Would you let your 15 year old...
Posted by JME78
i would.
i don't see why its a big deal.
Seriously. I had one at 16, and it closed up when I took it out in my twenties.
I'm 41, and got it re pierced a few months ago.
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Re: Would you let your 15 year old...
Posted by DaniJude
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I am a pretty laid back mom. I will admit I am considering it. My daughter is in the top of her class, 13th out of 425 students in her grade. She is exceptional in all ways, so I didn't see the harm in it. Obviously that's the only thing I'd let her pierce besides her ears.
I understand and mom, it's your child and you know best.
BUT, consider a few things -- her future when she goes to interview at jobs. The fact that it'll leave a hole so if she ever says, hey I don't want this anymore, it'll always be there as a reminder.
The fact that it could get caught and ripped out causing injury. Ok, I'm reaching with that one but I'm just trying to think of all the possible issues.
I'm spit-balling here but is there a way to get something that you stick here, like as decor, that has adhesive but isn't permanent -- you know, kids these days put shit in their hair like that, little sparkles and such. It's not permanent and adheres to the hair. I used to put little glitter stickers around my eyes. Just a thought.
Here's the thing - there was a lot of shit I did as a kid that I am so glad didn't leave any permanent mark whatsoever. You grow up, you change a lot and that's what makes me worry about having this hole in her nose.
Sure it MAY close up but probably not. And who wants to chance that?? Not this gal!
There is no way that hole can be seen. Even without makeup, but with makeup, it may as well be a pore. It looks the same.
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Lillykat
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Re: Would you let your 15 year old...
Posted by JME78
Has anyone who said no to the nose ring pierced bc it might leave a scar or hole had their daughter's ears pierced as babies?
Not sure why one is ok but the other is not - what if she grows up and doesn't want her ears pierced? I think holes in ears are way more noticeable. I had a second hole at one point and you can still see the marks, I don't like them. I never look that closely at the side of my nose!
No, I wouldn't let my 15 year old pierce their nose. I remember a few in law school commenting that their parents said if you want a professional type job- piercings and tattoos should be in places covered up. To me culturally a nose piercing is more acceptable in some fields than for personal enjoyment. Once they are adults and they choose a career where it is more widely accepted they can make that choice. But at 15 there is a chance she might say why did I do that? There could be permanent facial scarring.
I don't think you can compare single ear piercing to a facial piercing. A single ear piercing with appropriate earrings would not be looked at twice in an interview bc it is a generally accepted item of jewelry. Versus a nose ring which could be viewed negatively depending on the situation (cultural or not, certain fields, etc).
To answer your question, no I am not a fan of piercing my children as babies. I don't care if someone else does it, but I wanted my kids to ask and be sure they wanted it. Mine asked for over a year before they got theirs at 7.5 years and my younger got hers 2 weeks ago and she will be 6 in May.
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Re: Would you let your 15 year old...
Posted by lipglossjunky73
Posted by DaniJude
Posted by busymomonli
I am a pretty laid back mom. I will admit I am considering it. My daughter is in the top of her class, 13th out of 425 students in her grade. She is exceptional in all ways, so I didn't see the harm in it. Obviously that's the only thing I'd let her pierce besides her ears.
I understand and mom, it's your child and you know best.
BUT, consider a few things -- her future when she goes to interview at jobs. The fact that it'll leave a hole so if she ever says, hey I don't want this anymore, it'll always be there as a reminder.
The fact that it could get caught and ripped out causing injury. Ok, I'm reaching with that one but I'm just trying to think of all the possible issues.
I'm spit-balling here but is there a way to get something that you stick here, like as decor, that has adhesive but isn't permanent -- you know, kids these days put shit in their hair like that, little sparkles and such. It's not permanent and adheres to the hair. I used to put little glitter stickers around my eyes. Just a thought.
Here's the thing - there was a lot of shit I did as a kid that I am so glad didn't leave any permanent mark whatsoever. You grow up, you change a lot and that's what makes me worry about having this hole in her nose.
Sure it MAY close up but probably not. And who wants to chance that?? Not this gal!
There is no way that hole can be seen. Even without makeup, but with makeup, it may as well be a pore. It looks the same.
Not necessarily true. I know people who have no visible scarring and you can't tell, but know one who could. It has to do with your skin type and healing. It isn't a guarantee.
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Re: Would you let your 15 year old...
I would consider it at 16. But I also don't have a daughter.
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Jennifer
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Would you let your 15 year old...
I don't have kids but I would say no and I know my dh would say no.
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LInMI
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Re: Would you let your 15 year old...
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