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maybeamommy
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WWYD - need thoughts/advice please!
I have a WWYD situation here.
A little background... my BIL is a Marine. He has a wife (former marine) and two children. They have lived in various places (Japan, North Carolina, South Carolina, San Diego, etc.) DH is very close with his brother.
DH and I live in San Diego. The past two summers, the kids have stayed with us for 2 or 3 weeks. They are now 15 and 16 years old - great kids, well behaved, polite.
SIL is now living in San Antonio with our niece (just moved there this weekend) because of her job with the government. BIL and our nephew are still living in North Carolina.
We just found out that as of March 1st, BIL will be stationed in San Diego. He asked if our nephew would be able to live with us and finish out the school year here in San Diego. He said they will give us money for food and whatever else. BIL will be living in the Marine barracks nearby.
WWYD?
(Keep in mind we have a newborn who will be 6 weeks old on Friday). We live in a 2-bedroom apartment. The second bedroom is Loey's room slash guest bedroom (has a twin sized bed and trundle). Right now, Loey sleeps in our room.
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Posted 1/27/10 2:28 PM  |
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JennyPenny
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Re: WWYD - need thoughts/advice please!
I would probably allow it only under the conditions that it would only be a temporary stay. Also- if he causes any trouble- he's out. It is just a couple of months and you say he's very well behaved, so he probably wouldn't be a problem.
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| Posted 1/27/10 2:30 PM |
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bonitachyc
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Re: WWYD - need thoughts/advice please!
go for it! if he's well behaved and you all get along real well, i say do it :)
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| Posted 1/27/10 2:35 PM |
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headoverheels
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Re: WWYD - need thoughts/advice please!
Yes, absolutely. He's been there before, and as long as he knows he is ONLY welcome there so long as he is on his best behavior  I would do it. I would encourage him to help out when he is there too.
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| Posted 1/27/10 2:36 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: WWYD - need thoughts/advice please!
I would let him stay for a few months as long as he continued being well-behaved.
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| Posted 1/27/10 2:41 PM |
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KateDevine
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Re: WWYD - need thoughts/advice please!
I would do it, but then again, I have an 18 year old who lives with me
ETA-Don't let the bedrooms throw you off, we only have two and Christopher is only 3, Katie sleeps on a full futon in our dining room (its a big room and she has her own space, but not doors )
Message edited 1/27/2010 3:02:11 PM.
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| Posted 1/27/10 2:42 PM |
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Ophelia
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Re: WWYD - need thoughts/advice please!
under the conditions you described, I would do it in a heart beat.
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| Posted 1/27/10 2:42 PM |
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pnbplus1
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Re: WWYD - need thoughts/advice please!
He sounds well-behaved and I'd feel bad for him (where else would he live if not with you?) Having a newborn is sooo hard but maybe he can help out. My cousin was born when I was 16 and I was over there everyday, playing with her and helping take care of her (we are still very close). It might be a great experience for all. That being said, if it starts to become a problem, then things may hve to change. BUt in the meantime, think positive. Plus, you'd be doing a great thing.
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| Posted 1/27/10 2:52 PM |
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Bella311
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Re: WWYD - need thoughts/advice please!
Have you talked it over with your DH? I would consider the amt of space you have rt now, 2 bedrooms is not too big. However, he is close family and your DC is still newborn I think it would work out ok for the rest of the school year. I agree with the other poster that I would ask him to help out in the house too.
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| Posted 1/27/10 3:01 PM |
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hunnybunnyxoxo
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Re: WWYD - need thoughts/advice please!
hmm, i guess if it's till june it should be fine...march till june is 3 months. it will go by pretty fast.
my only concern is who would pick up /drop off your nephew to school? what about afterschool activities? or sports on the weekends?
i would imagine you would be responsible for schoolwork too? i mean, at 16 you are pretty self sufficient but i guess you would have to be somewhat involved..
it would be an adjustment for 3 months but like you said he is well behaved and he is family after all!
i think he could use a familiar loving stable home with his auntie and uncle!! it will prob be a lot more fun that you would imagine! and i am sure he will appreciate the delicious dinners!
i'd say do it!
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| Posted 1/27/10 3:06 PM |
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08BabySurprise
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Re: WWYD - need thoughts/advice please!
Posted by headoverheels
Yes, absolutely. He's been there before, and as long as he knows he is ONLY welcome there so long as he is on his best behavior I would do it. I would encourage him to help out when he is there too.
Completely agree!! As long as he is well behaved and helps out, I think it sounds great!
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| Posted 1/27/10 3:09 PM |
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kahlua716
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Re: WWYD - need thoughts/advice please!
Posted by JennyPenny
I would probably allow it only under the conditions that it would only be a temporary stay. Also- if he causes any trouble- he's out. It is just a couple of months and you say he's very well behaved, so he probably wouldn't be a problem.
I agree...just make sure everyone understands that it's TEMPORARY
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| Posted 1/27/10 4:27 PM |
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