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rugratmama
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WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
DD was invited to AG for her friends bday. I was invited too. I'm assuming the mom is paying for the trip in and lunch. Not the doll, obviously, which would be nuts. But I'm not getting DD one either because she doesn't play with dolls and I'm not wasting $100+ on it.
DH thinks it is like torturing DD to take her there and then not get one. I think she should understand, but she is already pleading a case to get one. And I am not getting suckered into buying one.
I already told the mom we would go. But I'm having doubts.
WWYD?
She's 6.
UPDATE
I had decided to take her and she could bring her doll. Her other friend wasn't going to get another doll. But now the mom just contacted me and couldn't get a reservation. Oh well. Next time. 
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DeniseMarie
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
DD is 5 and does not have an American Girl Doll. We went to a party over the summer, some girls had dolls and brought them and some girls did not. They paid for a lunch and in the restaurant they have dolls that you can borrow and have sit with you. They gave out pretend snacks and tea for the dolls and DD liked getting to pick one out to sit with her. After lunch the girls who had dolls went to the salon where their dolls can get their hair done, etc. We walked around and looked at all the dolls. DD did not care that she didn't have one. You have to pay for the salon so even if she had a doll - I wouldn't have been doing that anyway.
It was fun. The store also had a craft time and scavenger hunt.
eta - For Xmas DD got the Target version of the AG doll. Generation Doll I think they are called. ($25ish)If we ever went an a AG party again then she would bring that - I wonder if I can pay for the AG salon services with that doll though. Hmmmm
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LSP2005
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
They do have dolls for girls who don't have them to borrow for the lunch experience. It really is lovely. Are you sure the parent is paying for your lunch too? It is an expensive day but it was a magical experience for us.
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| Posted 2/25/14 8:27 PM |
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Bluechristmas
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
It's wonderful! We went around the holidays and DD was happy looking at everything.
They also sell books, mini dolls etc if you wish to buy her something small.
I love it there and can't wait to go back.
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| Posted 2/25/14 8:45 PM |
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
Does she have one? Can she bring that one?
I wouldn't buy one, no way
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BargainMama
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WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
She doesn't need a doll to go to the birthday party. If you don't want to buy her one, say no, period. She can borrow one or bring a different kind of doll. It's a fun party, we are going to one this weekend. I wouldn't have her miss out due to not having a doll.
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| Posted 2/25/14 9:25 PM |
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rugratmama
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
She has the Target version and she has the Bitty Baby. But she wants a real AG doll. I can have her bring the Target one though. But I know her. She's gonna want a doll.
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| Posted 2/25/14 9:26 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
I hate to say it but I am in complete agreement with your husband. I am shocked that more moms haven't agreed with his side as of yet. Especially given that you said your daughter wants one. I'd give In and I will be shocked if you didn't come back a month from now and said she has one. I agree it's expensive but its the ride and there's more expense to come? Good luck with your decision.
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| Posted 2/25/14 10:14 PM |
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rugratmama
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
Posted by PrincessP
I hate to say it but I am in complete agreement with your husband. I am shocked that more moms haven't agreed with his side as of yet. Especially given that you said your daughter wants one. I'd give In and I will be shocked if you didn't come back a month from now and said she has one. I agree it's expensive but its the ride and there's more expense to come? Good luck with your decision.
I see where he's coming from. I just thought it would be a nice day with her friends. I need to have a talk with DD I think.
Now the question is would it be horrible to back out? It's a month and a half away.
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| Posted 2/25/14 11:21 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
Posted by rugratmama
Posted by PrincessP
I hate to say it but I am in complete agreement with your husband. I am shocked that more moms haven't agreed with his side as of yet. Especially given that you said your daughter wants one. I'd give In and I will be shocked if you didn't come back a month from now and said she has one. I agree it's expensive but its the ride and there's more expense to come? Good luck with your decision.
I see where he's coming from. I just thought it would be a nice day with her friends. I need to have a talk with DD I think.
Now the question is would it be horrible to back out? It's a month and a half away.
I bet it's too late bc that place is $$$ so I assume you have to book well in advance etcc... Is the reason you don't want to just give her the doll financial or is it just you feel she doesn't need it? I always thought a party like ag was mainly for family. I mean look up the prices of the party. It's pretty expensive.
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adeline27
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
I would feel the same way as you especially backing out of the party because it just seems easier but now knowing after reading the above posts that you can borrow a doll for the day I would have a talk with DD and say that we will be going to the party and adopting a doll for the day (only), we will have lunch etc. etc. Then I would say for her birthday or Xmas if she really wants one still she will get one. I say that cause I know for me my kids they change their mind every day and they will forget. And honestly if my child didnt change their mind i would feel better giving the doll for a special occasion. If you end up going I would use the dolls there, I wouldn't bring one. Is this place in the city? You have to pay for train tickets and such? I'm just curious what you will paying without even buying a doll. My little one is a girl 21 months now and someone gave her a newborn baby American girl doll for her 1st birthday I didn't know there was more to this like having birthday parties and such.
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| Posted 2/26/14 7:23 AM |
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Sash
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
Posted by PrincessP
I hate to say it but I am in complete agreement with your husband. I am shocked that more moms haven't agreed with his side as of yet. Especially given that you said your daughter wants one. I'd give In and I will be shocked if you didn't come back a month from now and said she has one. I agree it's expensive but its the ride and there's more expense to come? Good luck with your decision.
I agree, If I could afford it, I would probably surprise her with a doll. But I'm a sucker for stuff like that, I remember wanted a cricket doll so bad when I was six. Lol
In any case being that they supply girls with the doll for the lunch then I would definitely still go. That would've been my only concern since I know they have place settings for the dolls. I think it's cool that they have dolls little girls could borrow so they don't feel left out at lunch.
And that place is hella expensive, my sister took my nieces. Definitely go, it's going to be so much fun for you and DD. I wish I had a DD to take her. Lol
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BargainMama
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WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
If it's the cafe party then you don't pay in advance, so the hostess is out nothing. But, I still wouldn't cancel. It's a great place and your DD would have a lot of fun with her friends therer.
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BargainMama
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
Posted by Sash
Posted by PrincessP
I hate to say it but I am in complete agreement with your husband. I am shocked that more moms haven't agreed with his side as of yet. Especially given that you said your daughter wants one. I'd give In and I will be shocked if you didn't come back a month from now and said she has one. I agree it's expensive but its the ride and there's more expense to come? Good luck with your decision.
I agree, If I could afford it, I would probably surprise her with a doll. But I'm a sucker for stuff like that, I remember wanted a cricket doll so bad when I was six. Lol
In any case being that they supply girls with the doll for the lunch then I would definitely still go. That would've been my only concern since I know they have place settings for the dolls. I think it's cool that they have dolls little girls could borrow so they don't feel left out at lunch.
And that place is hella expensive, my sister took my nieces. Definitely go, it's going to be so much fun for you and DD. I wish I had a DD to take her. Lol
So funny about Cricket! We just found an old picture of my sister with her Cricket doll. I was looking them up on ebay and they are $$$ now!
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WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
Geez talk about pressure.
If you can't afford it, you can't afford it
I couldn't afford a random 100 dollar toy for a party to "fit in"
To pp, I don't find it shocking that most don't say to just buy it.
I loved the American girl books growing up - when they were just books
I also wanted lots of high priced toys that I didn't get and it's a fact of life sometimes. That's life.
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KarenK122
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
Posted by PrincessP
I hate to say it but I am in complete agreement with your husband. I am shocked that more moms haven't agreed with his side as of yet. Especially given that you said your daughter wants one. I'd give In and I will be shocked if you didn't come back a month from now and said she has one. I agree it's expensive but its the ride and there's more expense to come? Good luck with your decision.
Totally agree. If your daughter really wants one, it is going to be torturous for her to be there and not get one. If you really don't want to buy it, I wouldn't go to the party.
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rugratmama
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
Posted by PrincessP
Posted by rugratmama
Posted by PrincessP
I hate to say it but I am in complete agreement with your husband. I am shocked that more moms haven't agreed with his side as of yet. Especially given that you said your daughter wants one. I'd give In and I will be shocked if you didn't come back a month from now and said she has one. I agree it's expensive but its the ride and there's more expense to come? Good luck with your decision.
I see where he's coming from. I just thought it would be a nice day with her friends. I need to have a talk with DD I think.
Now the question is would it be horrible to back out? It's a month and a half away.
I bet it's too late bc that place is $$$ so I assume you have to book well in advance etcc... Is the reason you don't want to just give her the doll financial or is it just you feel she doesn't need it? I always thought a party like ag was mainly for family. I mean look up the prices of the party. It's pretty expensive.
The mom had said that she wanted to do a AG party for her DD and we joked about the dolls as favors. She made it clear she couldn't do that. But I'm assuming she's doing a lunch. I don't think it's a party. She's only bringing 2 girls and their moms.
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| Posted 2/26/14 10:33 AM |
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rugratmama
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
Posted by adeline27
I would feel the same way as you especially backing out of the party because it just seems easier but now knowing after reading the above posts that you can borrow a doll for the day I would have a talk with DD and say that we will be going to the party and adopting a doll for the day (only), we will have lunch etc. etc. Then I would say for her birthday or Xmas if she really wants one still she will get one. I say that cause I know for me my kids they change their mind every day and they will forget. And honestly if my child didnt change their mind i would feel better giving the doll for a special occasion. If you end up going I would use the dolls there, I wouldn't bring one. Is this place in the city? You have to pay for train tickets and such? I'm just curious what you will paying without even buying a doll. My little one is a girl 21 months now and someone gave her a newborn baby American girl doll for her 1st birthday I didn't know there was more to this like having birthday parties and such.
I am assuming the mom will pay our way to get into the city. She is doing this instead of giving her a party. I feel stupid asking her though. How do you ask that without being tacky? Honestly, I don't want this kids bday to cost me a ton of money either, aside from the doll. KWIM But at the same time, she is the type to take care of the whole thing. But she didn't say it out right. She just said no dolls. 
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rugratmama
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
We just came back from a big Disney trip where she got pretty much whatever she wanted. She is not deprived by any means. But we try to save stuff like this for birthdays, holidays, and special occasions. She's getting spoiled. So I feel like this could be a lesson for her too. Like, ok it's your friends bday and she gets a doll, and we can't get one. But maybe for Christmas or your birthday if you still want one.
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LSP2005
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
I would have a talk with DD and set up her expectations. That this is a day for your friend and it is so incredibly nice and generous of your friend to include you in the celebration. I would have her bring her bitty baby since she already has an AG doll of some kind. If not, I would explain that she can borrow a doll but that you are not going to get her a doll since it is not her birthday. I would remind her that if she really does want one, there is always her own birthday or the holidays where she could get one.
I think this is a really good life lesion for your DC that we don't always get everything immediately - even if we can afford it. At six I would also explain money, the value of money, and what $129 can buy you (multiple toys versus one toy, groceries, etc.) I would put it in terms that she could understand but I would explain the value of a dollar as part of your discussion.
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DeniseMarie
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
Posted by LSP2005
I would have a talk with DD and set up her expectations. That this is a day for your friend and it is so incredibly nice and generous of your friend to include you in the celebration. I would have her bring her bitty baby since she already has an AG doll of some kind. If not, I would explain that she can borrow a doll but that you are not going to get her a doll since it is not her birthday. I would remind her that if she really does want one, there is always her own birthday or the holidays where she could get one.
I think this is a really good life lesion for your DC that we don't always get everything immediately - even if we can afford it. At six I would also explain money, the value of money, and what $129 can buy you (multiple toys versus one toy, groceries, etc.) I would put it in terms that she could understand but I would explain the value of a dollar as part of your discussion.
I think she is old enough to understand - you can go, but we aren't getting a doll.
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
I would probably buy my DD a doll if she didn't already have one.
We have one so I would let her pick something for the doll she already has. I feel like life is short and if you can afford the doll what the hell. It would mean a lot to her and would be a great experience with a few close friends.
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Millie3
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
I would either back out from the party , or get her the doll. Doesn't seem right for her to have a borrowed doll, and what if the other 2 go to the salon? It will be 6 yo torture if she has no doll.
You can explain all you want, when it comes down to it she may feel really deprived/ think it's unfair
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BargainMama
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
Posted by Millie3
I would either back out from the party , or get her the doll. Doesn't seem right for her to have a borrowed doll, and what if the other 2 go to the salon? It will be 6 yo torture if she has no doll.
You can explain all you want, when it comes down to it she may feel really deprived/ think it's unfair
She can bring her Bitty Baby doll (MANY do, including my own DD before she had the 18" ones). Or she can bring her OG doll. If the other girls go to the salon, she doesn't *have* to after the party is over. Mom could say sorry, it's time for us to go.
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Re: WWYD? DD invited to American Girl for a friends bday.
Posted by JandJ1224
I would probably buy my DD a doll if she didn't already have one.
We have one so I would let her pick something for the doll she already has. I feel like life is short and if you can afford the doll what the hell. It would mean a lot to her and would be a great experience with a few close friends.
ITA! I personally would not go with a knock off doll, thats just me. My DD has two knock offs bc I think she is too young for the real thing. However, if invited to a party, that would be the time I finally bite the bullet.
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