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2BEANS
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WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Message edited 9/6/2008 4:19:30 PM.
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Jackie24
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Well first I think that is incredibly tacky for her to be saying that in the first place!
I may want to back out just for that reason. However if you do WANT to go I would give what you were planning on giving and call it a day
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| Posted 9/1/08 11:06 PM |
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evnme
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
ITA
Posted by Jackie24
Well first I think that is incredibly tacky for her to be saying that in the first place!
I may want to back out just for that reason. However if you do WANT to go I would give what you were planning on giving and call it a day
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| Posted 9/1/08 11:06 PM |
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Stacey1403
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Enjoy every moment at the wedding and give her some scratch offs in a card
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| Posted 9/1/08 11:07 PM |
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2BEANS
wow time is going fast.
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Tina
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Posted by Jackie24
Well first I think that is incredibly tacky for her to be saying that in the first place!
I may want to back out just for that reason. However if you do WANT to go I would give what you were planning on giving and call it a day
I wanted to go before hearing this.. b/c I felt that being invited was an honor to share in someones special day.. but if Im invited b/c this person is looking for a gift than who wants to be a part of that. The thought leaves a sour taste in my mouth... I kinda would like to confront the person on it..but dont want to be involved in drama KWIM.
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| Posted 9/1/08 11:10 PM |
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MrsMessina
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Absolutely- if you wanted to celebrate their marriage. She can 'expect' whatever she wants- but it doesn't mean she's going to get it.  I would like to hope that the person misunderstood them b/c that's REALLY tacky and foolish on her part if it's true. 
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| Posted 9/1/08 11:11 PM |
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2BEANS
wow time is going fast.
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Tina
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Posted by Stacey1403
Enjoy every moment at the wedding and give her some scratch offs in a card
 How about something from a garage sale that cost 50 cents. j/k
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| Posted 9/1/08 11:11 PM |
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MrsERod
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
first - tacky, tacky, tacky
second - i'd still go, and i'd give what i originally planned on giving
if she doesn't like it - pffffffffft to her
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| Posted 9/1/08 11:14 PM |
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Jackie24
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Posted by BabySammie
Posted by Jackie24
Well first I think that is incredibly tacky for her to be saying that in the first place!
I may want to back out just for that reason. However if you do WANT to go I would give what you were planning on giving and call it a day
I wanted to go before hearing this.. b/c I felt that being invited was an honor to share in someones special day.. but if Im invited b/c this person is looking for a gift than who wants to be a part of that. The thought leaves a sour taste in my mouth... I kinda would like to confront the person on it..but dont want to be involved in drama KWIM.
yeah it might not even be worth it......as a former bride I KNOW how consumed you can be with "your day" but those comments are unneccesary to say the least!
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| Posted 9/1/08 11:17 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Posted by Jackie24
Well first I think that is incredibly tacky for her to be saying that in the first place!
I may want to back out just for that reason. However if you do WANT to go I would give what you were planning on giving and call it a day
ITA- Can I ask - are you sure that the bride to be actually said this and the person who repeated it is telling the truth? If it were me, I would go and just give what ever my normal gift was.
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| Posted 9/1/08 11:18 PM |
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HoneyBadger
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Give what you feel comfortable giving and don't sweat it.
Sometimes people don't think before they speak.
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| Posted 9/1/08 11:20 PM |
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MrsERod
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
how close are you with this bride?
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| Posted 9/1/08 11:25 PM |
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Goobster
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
I would go and still give whatever I planned on it, not even think twice about it.
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| Posted 9/1/08 11:43 PM |
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MelToddJulia
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Posted by Stacey1403
Enjoy every moment at the wedding and give her some scratch offs in a card
LOL!!
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| Posted 9/1/08 11:45 PM |
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Chai77
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
I would still attend, but give whatever you were planning to give. That is what you are comfortable with giving and shouldn't feel pressured because of what she said. She can expect till she's blue in the face, that doesn't mean she will or should get it.
A few of DH's friends who came to our wedding literally give us nothing- no gift or even a card. I thought it was weird, but whatever. You shouldn't invite people with the sole purpose of trying to make your money back.
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Cpt2007
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
I'd go and just give whatever it was you were planning on giving in the first place. You shouldn't be responsible for covering her costs. I know its really a LI/Tri-State Area thing, but sometimes the whole "cover the plate" thing gets to me. The wedding costs $XXk. I would never expect my guests to pay for it. [/rant]
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| Posted 9/2/08 12:23 AM |
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kimbalina
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Give what you can. Just because she and her FH decided to have their wedding at a place that cost X amount doesnt mean they have the right to demand that they do.
Also it may be blow out of proportion to what the origional conversation was with this Bride to Be.
She could have been asked how much she was paying per plate and answered and said she "HOPED" she get something like that back.
Go and have a great time.
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| Posted 9/2/08 6:23 AM |
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christys0925
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Posted by Jackie24
Well first I think that is incredibly tacky for her to be saying that in the first place!
I may want to back out just for that reason. However if you do WANT to go I would give what you were planning on giving and call it a day
ITA!!!!
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saraH
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Posted by kimbalina
Give what you can. Just because she and her FH decided to have their wedding at a place that cost X amount doesnt mean they have the right to demand that they do.
Also it may be blow out of proportion to what the origional conversation was with this Bride to Be.
She could have been asked how much she was paying per plate and answered and said she "HOPED" she get something like that back.
Go and have a great time.
that could be the case, but either way it's tacky to dicuss making money on your wedding.
I would just go and give what I normally would give.
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greenfreak
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Until you hear it from her mouth, I'd take it with a grain of salt.
Even if she did say it, she was only vocalizing what a lot of people here and on LIW have mentioned and discussed in length. I'd venture to say that most of us are not saints and did consider amounts or being "stiffed" by people at our weddings. To me, there's no difference in typing it here and saying it out loud.
If it was me, I would go and stick with whatever I had planned to give in the first place.
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Faithx2
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Posted by MrsERod
first - tacky, tacky, tacky
second - i'd still go, and i'd give what i originally planned on giving
if she doesn't like it - pffffffffft to her
Exactly! This bride is going to be shocked when she sees some of her presents
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lvdolphins
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Posted by BlessedMommy
Posted by MrsERod
first - tacky, tacky, tacky
second - i'd still go, and i'd give what i originally planned on giving
if she doesn't like it - pffffffffft to her
Exactly! This bride is going to be shocked when she sees some of her presents
ITA
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| Posted 9/2/08 8:30 AM |
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2BEANS
wow time is going fast.
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Tina
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Posted by MrsERod
how close are you with this bride?
Not close, coworker but dont see each other that much b/c we move around to places and im part time now.
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| Posted 9/2/08 8:33 AM |
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EckoRed81504
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
Give what you were going to give in the first place. If it doesn't cover her per plate cost, so be it.. You are invited as a guest.. the gift is a gift. The invite doesn't say gift mandatory.
The brides a jackassss
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| Posted 9/2/08 8:36 AM |
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angnick
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Re: WWYD.. Invite to wedding related.
ewww that is so tacky. i cant stand people like that.
I would go and continue to give what you originally planned on giving.
You are not invited to cover your plate. you are invited to share in this couples special day and give them a gift.
it is not your fault they chose to have a wedding at a place as expensive as that!!
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