WWYD???-Long sorry

My mother's sister and kids are very rude/inconsiderate people.

So, Sydnie's invites (that said RSVP)went out well over a month ago. Within days I got so many phone calls/messages about how cute they were etc with an RSVP. These SAME family members still haven't RSVP'd to the party tomorrow! They are the ONLY people who haven't. Now I am using the rain date (as stated on the invite) and I am debating whether or not to call them.

I am honestly done with them but continue speaking to them for my mom's sake. I really think they have forgotten about the party (it wouldn't be the first time) and I almost WANT them to have forgotten so I don't feel guilty about cutting them out of our lives.

They cannot assume either that I should *know* they are coming (like my mother seems to think) because certain ones did not come to my bridal or baby showers. One cousin never comes to ANYTHING, my houswarming, my mom's 65th, nothing. He even called me from a bar to congratulate me when I had Sydnie, and only met her on Thanksgiving when she was 3 months old!They are all over 30, it's not like I am talking about teenagers here. But they claim "family first/we're so close/so much love". A short while ago I even posted/vented about them spelling her name wrong. It's such BS! And if I ever did what they do I would be crucified. They hold me to ridiculously high standards.

I could go on an on but what I want to know is...


Would you call them to inform them of the rain date?

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yes Id call them

Sorry but i would.

Id be brief

Id probably want mention I never received your formal RSVP. I really would have appreciated a yes or no but if you still have the invite you'll see there is rain date info included.

But knowing me I'd chicken out of that last part!

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Can you send them an e-mail? I would just say something along the lines of, we have changed the date to XX/XX. If you are able to come, please let me know by XXX.

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No I wouldnt call regarding rain date.. you can assume they are coming but you thats an assumption not a defiant. So why should you have to call about rain date. Only bad part by not telling them is they may appear on your front doorstep.. then your stuck entertaining them. But if they did this might hit them that "hey maybe I should RSVP next time".. I have same people in my life that dont RSVP.. I would just have your mom call and ask them.

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I would be very frustrated...as I have some inlaws who don't think its important to RSVP to anything. Anyway... I think you should call them and in a slightly snippy way just say you never rsvped...but just in case you were thinking about it the party will be on the rain date.

Or you could just forget about them...and if they show up tomorrow just shrug your shoulders and say...you assumed they weren't coming since they never gave an rsvp.

Either way don't let it get to you...next time don't invite them if they don't show up to your daughters party.

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Ugh! People suck! I would probably call just to find out how many people were planning on coming, if any. Just so you know. Has your mom talked to them? GL!!

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Nope!!!! And when or IF they show up tomorrow, you can tell them that it was cancelled, and you didn't expect them to be there anyway. You can explain to them that when they didn't have the decency to call you to RSVP, you didn't feel you should call them to tell them it was cancelled. .

Absolutely no way would I call them. Not to mention, if they weren't planning on coming, they'll think that they are now 'SO IMPORTANT' because you were making special effort for them to come.

No way, no dice!!!! (Putting my foot down )

Sorry-had to add-How freakin hard is it to rsvp?? Seriously, I would totally not give them the satisfaction that I really wanted them there.

Message edited 8/28/2009 3:55:54 PM.

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Hmmmm.

See I kind of feel like- You didn't call to RSVP, why should I call to tell you of the rain date.

Obviously if I included a rain date and it's going to rain, wouldn't you conclude that the party is on Sunday. so I do not expect them to show up tomorrow.

I feel like calliing them is a heads up or a reminder of the party and I really want to see if they forgot because I really think they did.

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Posted by neener1211

Nope!!!! And when or IF they show up tomorrow, you can tell them that it was cancelled, and you didn't expect them to be there anyway. You can explain to them that when they didn't have the decency to call you to RSVP, you didn't feel you should call them to tell them it was cancelled. (And don't tell them when it is rescheduled).

Absolutely no way would I call them. Not to mention, if they weren't planning on coming, they'll think that they are now 'SO IMPORTANT' because you were making special effort for them to come.

No way, no dice!!!! (Putting my foot down )

Sorry-had to add-How freakin hard is it to rsvp?? Seriously, I would totally not give them the satisfaction that I really wanted them there.

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Posted by mikeswife06

Posted by neener1211

Nope!!!! And when or IF they show up tomorrow, you can tell them that it was cancelled, and you didn't expect them to be there anyway. You can explain to them that when they didn't have the decency to call you to RSVP, you didn't feel you should call them to tell them it was cancelled. (And don't tell them when it is rescheduled).

Absolutely no way would I call them. Not to mention, if they weren't planning on coming, they'll think that they are now 'SO IMPORTANT' because you were making special effort for them to come.

No way, no dice!!!! (Putting my foot down )

Sorry-had to add-How freakin hard is it to rsvp?? Seriously, I would totally not give them the satisfaction that I really wanted them there.

Have I told you lately that I love you?

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Posted by neener1211

Nope!!!! And when or IF they show up tomorrow, you can tell them that it was cancelled, and you didn't expect them to be there anyway. You can explain to them that when they didn't have the decency to call you to RSVP, you didn't feel you should call them to tell them it was cancelled. .

Absolutely no way would I call them. Not to mention, if they weren't planning on coming, they'll think that they are now 'SO IMPORTANT' because you were making special effort for them to come.

No way, no dice!!!! (Putting my foot down )

Sorry-had to add-How freakin hard is it to rsvp?? Seriously, I would totally not give them the satisfaction that I really wanted them there.

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Posted by neener1211

Nope!!!! And when or IF they show up tomorrow, you can tell them that it was cancelled, and you didn't expect them to be there anyway. You can explain to them that when they didn't have the decency to call you to RSVP, you didn't feel you should call them to tell them it was cancelled. .

Absolutely no way would I call them. Not to mention, if they weren't planning on coming, they'll think that they are now 'SO IMPORTANT' because you were making special effort for them to come.

No way, no dice!!!! (Putting my foot down )

Sorry-had to add-How freakin hard is it to rsvp?? Seriously, I would totally not give them the satisfaction that I really wanted them there.

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Anne I am going through the same exact thing with my mom's sister and one of her kids who are also 0ver 30.

Personally I wouldn't call back. I didn't call my cousin because I felt I shouldn't have too, I was being nice in sending out an invite.


When autumn turns 1 next march I plan on not inviting them.

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Posted by neener1211

Nope!!!! And when or IF they show up tomorrow, you can tell them that it was cancelled, and you didn't expect them to be there anyway. You can explain to them that when they didn't have the decency to call you to RSVP, you didn't feel you should call them to tell them it was cancelled. .

Absolutely no way would I call them. Not to mention, if they weren't planning on coming, they'll think that they are now 'SO IMPORTANT' because you were making special effort for them to come.

No way, no dice!!!! (Putting my foot down )

Sorry-had to add-How freakin hard is it to rsvp?? Seriously, I would totally not give them the satisfaction that I really wanted them there.