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Diana1215
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WWYD Nursery School related - UPDATE
Pls. help. Would love opinions on what others would do.
Last year Jack had a very hard time adjusting to school. Freaked out for an entire month. Then he LOVED it. Loved the kids in his class. Had a blast. I loved the mothers and we all got along amazingly. Looked out for each others kids....it was almost too good to be true.
Fast forward to this year - all of his friends are in the other class. We only know one little girl and she is super shy. We walked into school and he automatically got upset when he didn't go into his old room. Got over it when in the new class but was still off.
This class is the younger of the 3s. The other class is the older of the 3s. Jack falls right smack in the middle (june 28th) but I was told to put him with the younger ones bc he was speech delayed. He has caught up with speech so it's really a non issue for me anymore.
Bottom line - I think I want to switch him into the other class. He is 3. I want him to have a blast with his friends, I don't want him in a class just because it's smaller and his speech is slightly behind the other kids.
WWYD?
UPDATE:
I called up and said I wanted Jack switched into the class with all of his friends. He is THREE and I want him to have fun. She said she strongly advises against it. his class is smaller and better for him with his speech delay. I said that she has no idea how much progress he has made over the last few months and why should he be penalized for having a delay? She then implied that he may not be able to keep up with the activities and things that they do. I asked - are they doing multiplications because I'm not sure what he won't be able to keep up with. He was always involved in everything last year, and always front and center.
She was going on and on and on about how he shouldn't be in that class. I was getting sooooo insulted and told her that. I said Switch him. End of story.
Now I hate that she is having me doubt myself :(
Message edited 9/14/2010 10:16:23 AM.
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related
If he's caught up with speech, & you aren't worried about that. I'd put him in the older class where it seems he'd be more comfortable.
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| Posted 9/13/10 3:36 PM |
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related
The older class. They will be better language role models anyway. 
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| Posted 9/13/10 3:40 PM |
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related
If you think he will be more comfortable in the other class I would switch him if there is room.
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| Posted 9/13/10 3:41 PM |
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Janice
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related
SWITCH!!
at 3 it should be about fun anyway! for both of you!!
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| Posted 9/13/10 3:43 PM |
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CrankyPants
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related
Switch-kids get more out of school if they enjoy it.
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| Posted 9/13/10 3:44 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related
This is what I was thinking. I originally liked the younger class bc there is less kids (his class has 8 now and the other class has 12) but I would rather him be with 7 friends that he loves - versus no one.
I know that when he walks into that class with all of his friends he won't even look back at me.
I hate having to make all of these decisions regarding what's best for our children. It's so hard knowing if we are making the right choice or not! 
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| Posted 9/13/10 3:47 PM |
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Tine73
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related
I would ask for him to be moved.
We are going through something similar. For the past 14 month, DD has gone to daycare 2 days a week from 8am-6pm. Starting last week, she is there back full time, M-F same hours.
For whatever reason (maybe bc I never complain or start trouble so they thought they could get away with it), all of her best buddies (most of them she started with her in the infant room when she was 14 weeks old) got moved into the pres-school class. She was so sad last week. Kept on asking me why she had to go to school again and mentioned that her friends weren't in her class. I felt so bad. She has NEVER been like this before.
I mentioned it to the director that she was upset that her friends moved and she didn't and asked when she would be moved up. She pointed out that she isn't 3 yet and that the room was TOTALLY maxed and made it seem like she wasn't going to be moved for awhile. I told myself not to make an issue about it and that I would revisit it next month when she turns 3.
A couple days later I had another casual conversation with the director about it and I just asked when she thought she would be moved. November, December..etc?? I told her that I just didn't want to have to wait until like Feb for her to be moved. She said it definitely wouldn't be that long.
Today, I go in and her teacher tells me, they are going to start transitioning her into the preschool room.  Mind you - I was never even a pain about it or tough in any way and they are already transitioning her.
Sorry this is so long winded. I guess my point is to go with your gut and that the squeaky wheel gets the grease. It never hurts to ask. 
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| Posted 9/13/10 3:52 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related
YAY! I'm so happy they are switching her. It's terrible when they are not in the environment that makes them the happiest.
Jack went from running in to school and being SO excited to literally crying on the ground. It broke my heart. I am so anxious I want to talk to the owners already but they aren't in until the morning. UGH!
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| Posted 9/13/10 3:55 PM |
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lvdolphins
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related
Switch. Explain to them you want Jack to have role models.
Over the summer, DS was the one of the oldest in his class. Now, he's "in the middle". Kids are turning 4 already.
I'd rather him have role models, then, be a role model, KWIM?
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| Posted 9/13/10 4:19 PM |
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bayla
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related
def switch it sounds like Jack belongs in the other class hands down
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| Posted 9/13/10 5:03 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related - UPDATE
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| Posted 9/14/10 10:16 AM |
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related - UPDATE
I wouldn't doubt yourself...if he seems like he isn't keeping up in that room I am sure he can go back to the smaller room. I am sure he will be happy with all of his friends and it won't be a problem!
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| Posted 9/14/10 10:26 AM |
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related - UPDATE
It really seems to me that she doesn't know Jack as well as you do. I think you made the right call and I don't know if I would be able to refrain from telling her I Told You So when he flourishes in this class
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| Posted 9/14/10 10:29 AM |
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JenBenMen
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related - UPDATE
Diana....make the switch....and dont feel bad about it
If the school doesnt switch him immediately then I would speak to the owners
end of story
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| Posted 9/14/10 10:35 AM |
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wowcoulditbe
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related - UPDATE
honestly, as the mom of a child who's always been in the middle of her age group, her daycare has typically done it for ratio reasons, and Sammie has gotten the short end of the stick because of it, she's resilient thank goodness and didn't really care...but i beat myself up alot for not opening my mouth...so good for you for standing up for what you believe in, imho its different when they are in school (like el. school and older) since its a life skill, but at three, its not, its about them being comfortable and happy!  for you and he's lucky to have a great mom!!
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| Posted 9/14/10 10:38 AM |
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Diana1215
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related - UPDATE
Posted by JenBenMen
Diana....make the switch....and dont feel bad about it
If the school doesnt switch him immediately then I would speak to the owners
end of story
The woman I spoke to WAS the owner. Which is why I was getting so mad.
I'm not sure what kind of work they are doing in a 3 year old class that she is implying my kid can't keep up with.
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| Posted 9/14/10 10:40 AM |
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Sweets13
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related - UPDATE
Ask to have him spend 1/2 hour in the other class a few times. Unless an attempt is made, no one will know for sure whether he is ready or not. Jack being in the other class and HAPPY is better than him being in the smaller class and miserable.
What can they possibly be teaching him when he is miserable? That alone should be a good enough reason for the Director to be on board with Jack joining the other class.
ETA: Do NOT doubt yourself. I would rather they switch Jack and see for myself if he does not belong in the other class than keep quiet and never know.
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Diana1215
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related - UPDATE
Posted by wowcoulditbe
honestly, as the mom of a child who's always been in the middle of her age group, her daycare has typically done it for ratio reasons, and Sammie has gotten the short end of the stick because of it, she's resilient thank goodness and didn't really care...but i beat myself up alot for not opening my mouth...so good for you for standing up for what you believe in, imho its different when they are in school (like el. school and older) since its a life skill, but at three, its not, its about them being comfortable and happy! for you and he's lucky to have a great mom!!
This just made me cry - thank you! I am beating myself up over this and really just want him to be happy. I know that life isn't about always being with your friends, but he is 3 and we are sending him here for socialization and to have fun- not to find the answer to World Peace 
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Janice
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related - UPDATE
WHAT???????????
WHAT THE HELL are they doing in this class???
don't doubt yourself!!
this kid deserves to be in a 3 year old class that makes him happy!!
good for you!
don't be insulted either...kids at 3 can't be labeled. esp boys!!!
this whole post has my heart racing!
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| Posted 9/14/10 10:53 AM |
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lbelle821
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related - UPDATE
it's very clear to me that she wouldn't want to switch him because there are too many kids in the older class and not enough in the younger.
But she's using his speech delay as an excuse.
If she wants to play that card than throw it back at her and tell her that if you are so concerned with his speech delay than she would see that having older models is really the best thing for Jack. It's not like this preschool is giving him any speech therapy as part of the curriculum, right?
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| Posted 9/14/10 11:10 AM |
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Diana1215
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related - UPDATE
Posted by lbelle821
it's very clear to me that she wouldn't want to switch him because there are too many kids in the older class and not enough in the younger.
But she's using his speech delay as an excuse.
If she wants to play that card than throw it back at her and tell her that if you are so concerned with his speech delay than she would see that having older models is really the best thing for Jack. It's not like this preschool is giving him any speech therapy as part of the curriculum, right?
The best part is, there is a kid in the older class who was just diagnosed with a speech delay. I asked why he wasn't placed in the smaller class - she said "because of his age" -- but if you are telling me the first class is the first six months of the year doesn't JUNE 28th FALL within that timeframe?
It was just beyond insulting. I am the very first person to say when my child needs help. I am very aware of things he needs improvement on. But, I am also the very first person to know what he can and cannot handle. They are not going to be teaching the kids Japanese. They will be doing the alphabet (which he knows, and can identify) etc.. The way she was talking about this other class was that they were a bunch of geniuses who my kid can't keep up with.
Ugh - I am fired up again which isn't good since I was planning on calling her back to apologize for hanging up on her 
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| Posted 9/14/10 11:16 AM |
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4PsInaPod
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related - UPDATE
I'm glad you stood your ground. Do not doubt yourself.
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| Posted 9/14/10 11:19 AM |
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lbelle821
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related - UPDATE
Posted by Diana1215
Ugh - I am fired up again which isn't good since I was planning on calling her back to apologize for hanging up on her
I must have missed the part where you said you hung up on her
If you make enough noise you'll eventually get your way.
OR, just threaten to take him to the district program that he originally qualified for and she'll lose the enrollment altogether.
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| Posted 9/14/10 11:23 AM |
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Diana1215
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Re: WWYD Nursery School related - UPDATE
Ok, I just called back to apologize. It went much better this time.
I explained the tremendous progress he has made in the last two months. I also said, of course the smaller class is better for the one on one attention, but my son thrives on chaos. Our family vacations consist of 25 people in one house. He loves it.
I said that I just want him to be happy. At some point in time I won't be able to control his schooling but for right now, I am sending him here for socialization and to have fun with his friends. I just want him to have a great experience.
She was agreeing with me much more this time, said he'll do great and have a blast.
So, hopefully I am making the right call with this!
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