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nickipa
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WWYD re:wedding (long)
so I am a bridesmaid in my cousins wedding (she is my best friend), it is in upstate NY on a saturday evening(starts 5pm), all of my family will be there. I have a friend who used to be a nanny offer to watch the baby (she is not invited to the wedding, would watch him at her home). since we live so far away she hasn't really spent any time with DS, nor will we have much time before the wedding (we are coming into town the day before, but have the rehearsal and dinner). DS is essentially EBF although he will take a bottle from me, DH & my mom.
I guess my question is, would you leave him with the friend or bring him to the wedding/reception?
He is welcome at the wedding, my cousin totally understands the situation, and other kids will be there. Apparently there are rooms I could keep him in if he is sleeping (he usually goes to bed around 7pm), but obviously I wouldn't leave him in there alone, so me, DH or my mom would take turns.
I want to have fun and enjoy the wedding, but I also want to do whats best for DS. I guess I'm worried that if he won't take a bottle or totally freaks out at the house, then DH will have to go get him and bring him to the wedding anyways....
sorry so long, but what would you do?
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Posted 6/8/08 2:12 PM  |
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Re: WWYD re:wedding (long)
I would bring him. Maybe if your friend knew him better and spent more time with him, I would say leave him with her, but since she doesn't seem to have watched him much, I would be more comfortable bringing him.
You will have a lot of people to help you if you want to dance with DH, and have a good time. I am sure that your family will love having him there too!
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| Posted 6/8/08 2:18 PM |
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Diana1215
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Re: WWYD re:wedding (long)
How old is your DS?
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| Posted 6/8/08 2:55 PM |
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Re: WWYD re:wedding (long)
Honestly, I'd leave him with your friend. But that's just me.
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| Posted 6/8/08 2:57 PM |
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Claud
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Re: WWYD re:wedding (long)
Posted by dottiemchugh
I would bring him. Maybe if your friend knew him better and spent more time with him, I would say leave him with her, but since she doesn't seem to have watched him much, I would be more comfortable bringing him.
You will have a lot of people to help you if you want to dance with DH, and have a good time. I am sure that your family will love having him there too!
I agree w/this. Seems like the least stressful option for you.
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| Posted 6/8/08 3:04 PM |
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nickipa
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Re: WWYD re:wedding (long)
Posted by Diana1215
How old is your DS?
4.5 months
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| Posted 6/8/08 3:21 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: WWYD re:wedding (long)
Are you staying over?
If not, I would leave him with the friend as long as she offered. If he freaks out, it's still only a few hours & anything is manageable for a few hours.
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| Posted 6/8/08 3:24 PM |
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bpmom
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Re: WWYD re:wedding (long)
I'd bring him. Especially since children are being allowed at the wedding and the bride has indicated there will be a separate room available if you need it...
You're lucky the bride is understanding...I'm in almost the same exact boat you're in - cousin's getting married upstate, I'm the MOH, DS could stay with friends upstate but he won't know them or their home so I'd prefer to have him with us at the wedding - BUT there will be no kids at the wedding...I'm hiring one of DH's teenaged cousins to stay in the hotel nearby with DS instead.
Good luck -
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| Posted 6/8/08 3:24 PM |
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Janice
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Re: WWYD re:wedding (long)
if he takes a bottle I would leave him as long as you trust your friend will follow all directions.
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| Posted 6/8/08 3:27 PM |
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nickipa
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Re: WWYD re:wedding (long)
Posted by nrthshgrl
Are you staying over?
If not, I would leave him with the friend as long as she offered. If he freaks out, it's still only a few hours & anything is manageable for a few hours.
we are staying in a hotel, but the plan always was we would pick up DS after the wedding anyways
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| Posted 6/8/08 3:29 PM |
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Re: WWYD re:wedding (long)
I brought Maddie to my SIL's wedding at 5 months old. My parents watched for the most part & she fell asleep in her stroller at the reception. She didn't need to be put in another room & was a complete angel.
However, I didn't relax. I know my parents were taking care of her but she was still my responsibility. If you really want a stress-free night, leave her with your friend. If I had the choice & the bride wouldn't have killed me over her niece missing the wedding, I would have had her stay with someone else.
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| Posted 6/8/08 3:41 PM |
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