Yeah, so I've worked so hard to avoid co-sleeping

and I am falling victim to it at the WORST age and time!

DH works nights, so for 5 nights of the week, he isn't here. DS has seemed to figure out that it is "OK" to sleep withme on those nights. Nights when DH is home, he has no issues sleeping in his own bed AT ALL.

He is in a toddler bed, we crack his door and our door and he comes in at some point and sleeps with me. Sometimes I have no clue when he does

He loves his room, he actually loves his bed, but he is a cuddler and likes to sleep near people

Should I just let it go until we get a twin bed, which should be in the next month or two. Or enforce it now? Part of the problem is he comes in and I don't wake up

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I want to say this.....

I am guilty of it...BIG TIME!
It started since I work f/t....DH works F/T and like yours, crazy hrs so I would let G fall asleep in bed with me, sometimes leave her until DH got home and tranfer her.

She would get up a few times and go to DH's side, not mine and get in.
Worsts nite sleep ever I get when shes in our bed.

As of today...we are putting in her bed as of a certain time and letting her CIO.
Past two nites, she gets transferrred and wakes right up and wont accept staying in her bed. its something we created and its got to end.
We are expecting twins and I cant imagine what is to come and I need to nip this now.

ugh. so hard.

You have to do what works best for you!

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It's really hard for me to offer words of wisdom since we aren't at that age yet.

But what if you just stop cracking the doors and before he goes to bed at night tell him how proud you would be if he stayed in his room the whole night? Maybe even offer some kind of bribe like his favorite breakfast the next morning?

We were co-sleepers until 7 months, mainly because I was EBF and lazy. Since then Ryan has never slept in our room - not once. I'm not sure if we got lucky or are only avoiding the inevitable.

Anyway, I don't think it is a bad idea to try to reinforce sleeping in his own room.

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I don't crack the doors until I go to bed, he is usually asleep when I do it.

I don't feel comfortable not doing it, nights he sleeps all night, he comes in and wakes me when he gets up in the morning, plus we've been doing it since he went into his bed 6 months ago, I think it would freak him out if he woke up in hte morning and the door was shut.

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Re: Yeah, so I've worked so hard to avoid co-sleeping

Posted by sunflowerjesss

Posted by KateDevine

I don't crack the doors until I go to bed, he is usually asleep when I do it.

I don't feel comfortable not doing it, nights he sleeps all night, he comes in and wakes me when he gets up in the morning, plus we've been doing it since he went into his bed 6 months ago, I think it would freak him out if he woke up in hte morning and the door was shut.

Babygate instead? LOL

Or you could just try the bribing idea

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I'm all for co-sleeping and the family bed, so I say why not let him sleep with you when your DH isn't around?!

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Posted by Mkr09

Posted by sunflowerjesss

Posted by KateDevine

I don't crack the doors until I go to bed, he is usually asleep when I do it.

I don't feel comfortable not doing it, nights he sleeps all night, he comes in and wakes me when he gets up in the morning, plus we've been doing it since he went into his bed 6 months ago, I think it would freak him out if he woke up in hte morning and the door was shut.

Babygate instead? LOL

Or you could just try the bribing idea

Is his bedroom close to yours? Maybe put a babygate up, crack his door, and explain to him that he needs to call for you when he gets up. This is what we've been teaching Kaydyn to do. We keep her door closed, but we told her when she wakes up to come to the door and call us. Her room is right across the hall and we keep our door open so we can def hear her.

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Posted by KateDevine

Posted by Mkr09

Posted by sunflowerjesss

Posted by KateDevine

I don't crack the doors until I go to bed, he is usually asleep when I do it.

I don't feel comfortable not doing it, nights he sleeps all night, he comes in and wakes me when he gets up in the morning, plus we've been doing it since he went into his bed 6 months ago, I think it would freak him out if he woke up in hte morning and the door was shut.

Babygate instead? LOL

Or you could just try the bribing idea

Is his bedroom close to yours? Maybe put a babygate up, crack his door, and explain to him that he needs to call for you when he gets up. This is what we've been teaching Kaydyn to do. We keep her door closed, but we told her when she wakes up to come to the door and call us. Her room is right across the hall and we keep our door open so we can def hear her.

I bribe for anything, so I'm not against it, it seems not to work with this

I guess we could babygate and have him call for me, but DH sleeps at such weird times that I can't really have him waking DH when he IS home...

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I'm bad with this too. Each and every night, I have SOMEONE in bed with us. At first, I was "No way, this needs to stop NOW", but as my children are getting a little older, I am realizing that the days of them WANTING to snuggle with us and sleep with us at night are numbered, so I have resigned myself to sleeping with little hands and feet entwined with mine and being cuddled ALL night long, getting little sleep, but enjoying this time, because in a blink, they will not even want to be seen in public with me, nevermind sleep in the same bed.

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Posted by MrsGmomof3

I'm bad with this too. Each and every night, I have SOMEONE in bed with us. At first, I was "No way, this needs to stop NOW", but as my children are getting a little older, I am realizing that the days of them WANTING to snuggle with us and sleep with us at night are numbered, so I have resigned myself to sleeping with little hands and feet entwined with mine and being cuddled ALL night long, getting little sleep, but enjoying this time, because in a blink, they will not even want to be seen in public with me, nevermind sleep in the same bed.

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Well, as someone who also has a husband who works overnights and is adamantly against co-sleeping for our family, I say it's time to break the habit if you don't want it to continue. We have a gate up at Ava's door because she was wandering into our room at all hours and we didn't want that, either. My suggestion is to put up the gate, then on the nights that DH is home, take the gate down so he can just come wake you up like normal.

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I have to say that if I was alone while DH was working and someone as cute as C3 came crawling in to bed with me to cuddle, I wouldn't be in a hurry to put him back into his room

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I am not at this point yet but I'll try to give some advice. My thought is to start sooner rather than later. No point in dragging something out that you want to stop. I agree that the gate is a good idea. Also, use positive reinforcement. maybe use a sticker chart (not sure if C3 is too young for that) and give him something small each day and when he has enough stickers he can get something bigger- like a toy, breakfast out, etc.

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I am bad. I just don't care anymore.

When DH works nights, Josh falls asleep with me. If I wake up, I transfer him...if not, when dh does get home, I tell him he can transfer him...he says no and that he missed him too much.