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OMG, that is awful, stealing from cancer patients Talk about passive aggressive - if she wanted the clothes so badly, why didn't she ASK you to look through them before you donated them, instead of swiping them off your porch??

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That just blows my mind!

What could she have possibly been thinking?!

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Pi$$ed and livid are the understatements of the year!

I would call up my MIL so fast and tell her that if she doesn't get those clothes back from her friend than she better be prepared to write out a check to the charity you were donating the clothes to. Ubelievable!

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I would be sooooo mad

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and oh yeah....that's a freaking TAX WRITE OFF...so now she is stealing from YOU too!

I think she deserves a set of those balls in her stocking this Christmas!

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Posted by Marcie

But my one question to you - if you don't mind, how did your DH react to her when she said she took the bags??

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I am floored! The absolute chutzpah (nerve, for all the non-yiddish speakers) of your MIL! There are just SO many things wrong with what she did...stealing from cancer patients...stealing from you, in regard to your tax write-off....

I would be beyond livid!!!

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Posted by MrsF519

Posted by Tilde

please confront her, videotape it and get back to us

I swear....you crack me up!

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I would be fuming. What kind of selfish person does that? You CLEARLY said it was for cancer patients.

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Posted by SIBride06

Posted by Tilde

please confront her, videotape it and get back to us

I would love to, but I am the most unconfrontational people you will ever meet. I ripped DH a new a$$hole though. Boy did he hear it from me!

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Posted by SIBride06

Posted by Marcie

But my one question to you - if you don't mind, how did your DH react to her when she said she took the bags??

He got mad too, but not as much as me. He was more like "Well.. thats the way she is.. what are you going to do?"

I will not be the wife that comes between a son & his mother. I try to pick & chose my battles. Im beyond ****** off right now, but believe me or not, she has done far worse things.... (If you can even imagine) I wont even get into it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by SIBride06

Posted by Marcie

But my one question to you - if you don't mind, how did your DH react to her when she said she took the bags??

He got mad too, but not as much as me. He was more like "Well.. thats the way she is.. what are you going to do?"

I will not be the wife that comes between a son & his mother. I try to pick & chose my battles. Im beyond ****** off right now, but believe me or not, she has done far worse things.... (If you can even imagine) I wont even get into it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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WHAT I would be pizzed and I definitely would confront her.

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Posted by Ophelia

Posted by SIBride06

Posted by Marcie

But my one question to you - if you don't mind, how did your DH react to her when she said she took the bags??

He got mad too, but not as much as me. He was more like "Well.. thats the way she is.. what are you going to do?"

I will not be the wife that comes between a son & his mother. I try to pick & chose my battles. Im beyond ****** off right now, but believe me or not, she has done far worse things.... (If you can even imagine) I wont even get into it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I HATE HATE HATE that answer.

I get it A LOT pertaining to a particular family member and it makes me effing blood boil

I have a constant inner struggle when dealing with things like this....

your dh HAS to give you something here...can you return HER gift if you've purchased it already OR make a donation in the amount you would normally spend on her to the foundation and put that in a card for her?

I am just not sure this can or should be swept into the "that's just how she is pile"...personally, I don't know if I could.

ETA: Janie, does Anthony know this is a tax write off for you guys? would that change his tune at all?

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what gave her the right do that?? OMG

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my jaw actually dropped when i read this!! i cannot believe the B@LLS on that woman!!

Posted by Bxgell2

Posted by Ophelia
OR make a donation in the amount you would normally spend on her to the foundation and put that in a card for her?

Brilliant, just briliant!

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It's not like it was just 'garbage' you specifically told her you were DONATING these things ........I would be beyone ****** off !

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Posted by headoverheels

my jaw actually dropped when i read this!! i cannot believe the B@LLS on that woman!!

Posted by Bxgell2

Posted by Ophelia
OR make a donation in the amount you would normally spend on her to the foundation and put that in a card for her?

Brilliant, just briliant!

i think this is a great idea!! very passive agressive in a NICE, productive way

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Holy cr@p. I can't even imagine how I'd act.

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I'd definitely lose my sh/t, in a big horrible way, I'd lose my sh/t!

Even IF she didn't already know what they were for who, the he/l is she to take something away from your front door??????

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i would of been mad too

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I think smoke would actually come out of my ears. I would go absolutely crazy!!