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that is beyond wrong.. especially with her seeing what is written on the bags.. you would think that she would have left it

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There is a way you can confront her without being confrontational and getting your point across. I would be so upset and would have to say something otherwise it would eat me up inside!!!

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Unbelievable

I would absolutely make the donation in her name to the ovarian cancer foundation and let her know you wished it could be for the value of all those clothes...but you just couldn't afford to do more since you're losing out on that tax write-off

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OMGosh I'd be beyond PIZZED!
How nervy of her! Very nervy!
Your DH needs to step up and say more than "Thats the way she is"..Uuugghh that would pizz me off too!

ITA with making a donation with what you would have spent on her! Tell Her:
"Happy Holidays..You made a donation!"

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Wooooow! I'm sorry but your MIL has some gall to take things that don't even belong to her and give them to someone who doesn't need them. Wow. I'm sorry Janie.

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so balsy...I would tell her to get the **** back and put it back on the door step where she found it...what was she thinking

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Posted by headoverheels

my jaw actually dropped when i read this!! i cannot believe the B@LLS on that woman!!

Posted by Bxgell2

Posted by Ophelia
OR make a donation in the amount you would normally spend on her to the foundation and put that in a card for her?

Brilliant, just briliant!

i think this is a great idea!! very passive agressive in a NICE, productive way

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I'd make ALL of her future gifts donations to cancer charities from now on...AND I'd play dumb and call her & say "Listen, I'm sure you didn't realize, but the clothes you took were suppose dto go to charity and they came looking for them. Can you please either get them back or give the the money they're worth to donate? I feel so badly about having the charity come by for no reason, and I'm sure you do too. Thanks!" With a big

No confrontation necessary.

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OMG - What the heck is wrong with people?!!

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Posted by SIBride06

Posted by headoverheels

my jaw actually dropped when i read this!! i cannot believe the B@LLS on that woman!!

Posted by Bxgell2

Posted by Ophelia
OR make a donation in the amount you would normally spend on her to the foundation and put that in a card for her?

Brilliant, just briliant!

i think this is a great idea!! very passive agressive in a NICE, productive way

OMG... I am sooooooo doing this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for this idea!

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I'd be so mad, thats some BS.

On another note, love avatar picture of your boo boo

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Posted by PattyCake

Posted by SIBride06

Posted by headoverheels

my jaw actually dropped when i read this!! i cannot believe the B@LLS on that woman!!

Posted by Bxgell2

Posted by Ophelia
OR make a donation in the amount you would normally spend on her to the foundation and put that in a card for her?

Brilliant, just briliant!

i think this is a great idea!! very passive agressive in a NICE, productive way

OMG... I am sooooooo doing this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for this idea!

You know what is genius about this idea? When she realizes she is not getting a gift, she will feel like someone stole somethng from her. Then she'll know how it feels.

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If thats the way she is, just dont tell your business and keep her out of the loop on EVERYTHING!

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I'd be beyond!!! That was a tax writeoff for you (in addition to multiple other points). She had her nerve, especially since she KNEW what it was for!!

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The way I see it, your DH has to tell his mother she has two options:

1. Get the clothes back from the woman she gave them to IMMEDIATELY if not sooner so you can give them to the charity;

OR

2. Make a donation IN YOUR NAME for the estimated worth of the clothes PLUS an additional amount for the gas and time the foundation volunteers wasted coming to your house to find nothing.

Anything less than one of those in addition to a sincere and heartfelt apology would be unacceptable.

I would go absolutely ape on my MIL if she did something like this.

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Posted by SIBride06

OMG... I am sooooooo doing this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for this idea!

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Posted by dpli

Posted by SIBride06

OMG... I am sooooooo doing this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for this idea!

Be sure to include HER mailing address so they continue to ask her for donations.

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Honestly my DH would've been the one to hear from me too- b/c I'm not confrontational either--- but I think your DH should tell her that you're really upset b/c ppl were depending on those clothes and he'd appreciat it if SHE wrote a check for (insert amount of $$ clothes were worth to you - in used condition here) the foundation and gave it to him for you to mail
That's really inconsiderate of her!

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has she ever donated to charity? Is it foreign to her?
Did she think it was nonsense?

WTH is wrong with her?

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That is completely RUDE!!!!!

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Is this woman insane? I think your husband needs to call his mother and get those clothes back. The embarrassment alone I think would be enough for her to never try anything like that again. Idiot

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OMG...I would be FURIOUS!!!!!

What is wrong with her?!?!?

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WOW!! She sure has a set of ballz!!

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I would be fuming. How dare she do that without asking you first too!!