Re: Your town versus your parent's town

Dh grew up on the north shore, specifically 3 Village and that's where he wanted to stay when we started to look, but we found the prices for homes was, well, out of our league.

His parent's live in 3 Village still and a few houses went up for sale around them, and I refused to look. As much as the house would be ours, my IN-Laws would be over any chance they got, and when we have children, it would be even worse!

I'm happy we were able to stay to the North Shore, but I'm even happier we found a place in a different town from them.

As for your situation, I can understand your husband's worry.....but state that any house you have will be your home, and wouldn't you want to live in an area that you love, trust, feel comfortable in?

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We live 2 blocks from my in-laws. It's very convenient, especially when we first moved in and needed lots of help setting up the house.

I love my home and don't regret living near them at all. They never drop by. It's a great situation for us.

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we live in the next town over-from where our parents live-we lived across the street from each other.

his parents moved upstate and no way in he|| would we move there

i like my parents town-but its too expensive-i do not wnt to spend 500k on a run down house.

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We bought a house in the town we grew up in. I love being by both of our families, it is great because they watch James while me/DH are at work. We both travel a little farther for work, but it's worth it for us.

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When we got married 9 years ago, my DH and I moved out of our parents houses in Queens, and bought our own house in Long Island.

About 2 years ago, my parents sold their house in Queens and decided to move to LI...5 blocks from me and DH!!


While it's a little annoying at times (drop by's, asking for rides here and there-mom doesn't drive), for the most part, it's a godsend for help with the kids.

But you said kids are not a factor, and in that case with my parents, I don't think I'd be thrilled with their wanting to be my neighbor!

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I kind of feel the same way, I don't know if I want to really live in the town I grew up in, my parent's town. I'd like to live near them, but not in the same town. I think it's a great town and all, I just want to experiece something different.

What's not helping matters is that two of my friends and their husbands just bought homes in the town I grew up in. My parent's are thrilled, hoping we'll settle down there.

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We live 5 minutes from my mother in the next town and live 40 minutes from both my inlaws...

Now that we have a son, it is great to have them so close-... If you are thinking of having children, trust me having family near by is the best thing... Many of my friends are very envious because of this...

I would definately consider it...

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We bought a house in the town I grew up in. My parents live 2-3 miles away(same town). No complaints here

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we bought in the same town as our inlaws and i regret it every day!!!

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My MIL lives in Florida now, but I would NEVER move to the town DH grew up in, way too congested for me.
My mother sold the house I grew up in years ago & moved to a smaller place. I love the specific neighborhood, but not the general area. I wouldn't want to be in my old town.
My Dad lives in Northport, we never even considered that town-not because of him though.
Now our house is 5 minutes away from my Mom & my grandma, 1 town over.
My mom does drop by sometimes & it is annoying but overall I love having them so close. They come over most weekends for dinner.

I lived in Oakdale for years though & its a GREAT spot.

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DH's mom live 20 minutes away from the house we are buying. It is a good distance. Not too close to just stop by. We live about the same distance away from her now in our apartment and she never just "stops by."

My parents on the other hand live in Texas so that is not a concern. I would love to live in the same town as my parents because I do miss them a lot being that they are so far away!

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we bought a co-op just a few blocks from DH's parents. living so close to them doesn't bother me, i'm really indifferent to it. at the time, that was just the place we found - and it was a good half an hour closer to work for me than where my parents live.
now that we've been living there for a year and a half though, i realize more and more that i want to move back to my parents town, or in the very close vicinity. i get home sick even half an hour away. and when we have kids, i just want to be close to my mom and my sister (who is even further away from me than my mom!) we will use both of our parents for babysitting, his parents and mine are retired... so the way i see it, even if we are closer to my parents - his parents will be on our way to and from work, so that will be convenient as well. DH will be happy wherever we go, i think. he went away to 2 different colleges, lived in the city for a while, he's a loaner and not much bothers him. plus i know he loves the area where i grew up.
basically, i think you guys have to do what you'll be most comfortable with. if you love the area, don't not move there because it won't be your "own". it will. any home of yours, will be yours alone. good luck!

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First of all, Oakdale is awesome (I went to Dowling and we have a summer cottage there, so I'm a bit biased!)

Second of all, it depends on the relationship you all have. It will be your house. They are not buying it, you are. If you love the area, that is all that matters. If your parents are there AND you like your parents, then score. That's even better. When we lived 10 minutes from DH's family and mine, it was easy to see them, but we still lived our own lives.

Plus, you find your own places, stores, restaurants, etc, that become 'your' places.

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Not an issue with my parents - and his now live in Florida - - but we do have a version of it. We recently purchased and moved into a house that's in the same neighborhood where DH grew up (about 5 houses from his old house). Great area, great house - - - could stay for a while. DH - however - wants to move within 4-5 years, simply because he feels like he never left. I totally understand that issue - - so we completely agree that this isn't our dream home - - - - we'll look for that in a few years.

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we're the exact opposite...we're looking for a house in either town our parents are in! we want to be close to them! we come from very tightly knit families and we do just about everything together. we would rely on our parents to help us with our kids when we have them, they always say that that's what they're there for...support! my parents are from east meadow and DH's are from westbury. we're not a fan of westbury SD so we're gonna compromise and look in westbury with east meadow schools.

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I wanted to stay in my parents town, but the house we could afford there would be a shack next to a gas station on a busy road. So we moved a few towns over, 15 minutes away.
Pretty much all of my close family lives in that same town. My mom, all of ther brothers and sisters, my grandparents, etc. Although everyone is in the same town, no one is spying on eachother or constantly showing up at eachothers houses. It is nice being close to family.
I wish I could live there, but 15 minutes away isn't so bad either.

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I would have loved to buy a house in Kings Park where I grew up!!! But we wanted a specific type of house and would neve have been able to afford it that area......