Rude Question

Almost weekly I get someone I have not seen in awhile or a stanger that asks me if my pregnancy was planned or an accident.
I assume its because my other two are a lot older. I am always nice about it but its seems kind of personal. I know they mean well. But if it was not planned wouldnt that make me feel bad? and if it was planned wouldnt that make me feel bad too.

Message edited 12/7/2007 11:14:19 PM.

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People are idiots. Period.

My Mom was almost 32 when she had my little sister & I was almost 12 when she was born. People asked rude things like that all the time. Meanwhile I can't imagine our family without the "baby of the family" .....my little sister!!

Ignore the dopes!!!

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Posted by maybeajunebaby

People are idiots. Period.

My Mom was almost 32 when she had my little sister & I was almost 12 when she was born. People asked rude things like that all the time. Meanwhile I can't imagine our family without the "baby of the family" .....my little sister!!

Ignore the dopes!!!

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Absolutely a rude question. That's why we need to invent a button to shock people when they say something stupid.

You need to come up with something to embarass them back. Let's see

"Well sex always has some purpose"

"No. Could you believe you can get pregnant in XXXX position?"

"I know. I'm like an afterschool special." then sob like a pregnant teen & cry "We only did it once!? How could this happen?"

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I'm going through the same thing...I guess after you have 2 kids they think you had an "Oops". It's annoying

Message edited 9/2/2009 9:51:07 AM.

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Those are the same ignorant people that will ask a married couple "so when are you having children" Little do they know behind closed doors the couple maybe dealing with IF issues, don't want children, or whatever.

Sorry you have to deal with some inconsiderate people, try not to let it get you down!

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Posted by maybeajunebaby

People are idiots. Period.

My Mom was almost 32 when she had my little sister & I was almost 12 when she was born. People asked rude things like that all the time. Meanwhile I can't imagine our family without the "baby of the family" .....my little sister!!

Ignore the dopes!!!

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You guys are the best. Ron told me to ask them " What do you mean?" and act confused. Like what type of question is that. I guess people are so nosey. It bugs me after I walk away that I dont say anything. I want to say
"well if it was an accident and I am not happy to be pregnant - dont you think asking me would be rubbing it in my face?" or if it was planned I might wonder if your telling me that you dont understand why I wanted more kids? " I guess we are all inperfect so I will try to not let it bother me.

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very RUDE...I dont think I would ever have the balls to ask somone that question

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The world really is full of idiots who do not think before opening their mouths!!!!

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I am nearly 30 and when people hear that my brothers are 12 and 9 years older than me I still get the comments, "wow, guess you werent planned"
You know what, I wasn't planned but I tell it just took my parents awhile to "get it right" :-P

Don't worry, people always have comments, I guess they just dont understand how to censor their words!

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People ask to many questions!

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It's none of their d a m n business!!

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Me too. I think it's a weird question and personal actually. What if it wasn't??? Should I say "oh no, not planned and I'm so unhappy about it". I'm not of course but then what - do poeple want that answer???

That would be a funny response, maybe you should try it and see how people react.

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I am sorry someone said something so unseemingly sensitive and personal to you. Not very bright.

I am the youngest of 4 children. My siblings are 13, 11, and 8 years older than I am. When people ask about my family and their ages, they assume I was a "mistake." I wasn't. My mother delivered a child and lost him at 10 weeks due to multiple health complications from Down Syndrome. After that she wanted to try one more time knowing she could have an amniocentesis. When I tell people THAT, they promptly shut up knowing they were a bit too nervy to ask in the first place.

But what's even worse, to me, is that they assume that all four of could not possibly have the same two parents. There are people who stay married and have children throughout their reproductive years WILLINGLY. It may not be so common nowadays, but it DOES happen. G-d bless my parents - they were married 49 years when my father passed away.

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Happened again tonight. Called a friend I had not spoken to in months. She knew I was pregnant and we have spoken since I am pregnant and she asks WAS THIS PLANNED? I said UH YEAH, she was like oh I just did not know. I said to her well when you were my age you had a 4 year old so I guess if my kids were younger you would not have thought anything. Then I told her my friends on LIF said I should tell people when they ask that I got pregnant in XXXXX position. I dont know why people are so hung up on this. SORRY I'm bringing this up again. I Just cant believe it.......

Message edited 12/10/2007 8:36:02 PM.

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That's SO rude and inappropriate.
I had a friend ask me the same question (and there's no reason for her to assume that - I'm 30 yrs old, been married a couple of years, own a house, etc - all the makings of "let's start a family") so it goes to show you people are stupid in general.
Honestly, even if my child wasn't "planned" I'm not I would go around advertising that - it's personal and none of their business!
I say they're just jealous!

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I get the same thing because DD#1 will be 7 when this one is born. And when people ask me, I just say this was Gods plan for my life not mine and unfortunatley, I have had four miscarriages and trouble even getting pregnant, so it just took us 7 years. The usually are shocked with my honesty and then feel like a total a$$ and go away with their tail between their legs.

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Posted by ChrisDee

I get the same thing because DD#1 will be 7 when this one is born. And when people ask me, I just say this was Gods plan for my life not mine and unfortunatley, I have had four miscarriages and trouble even getting pregnant, so it just took us 7 years. The usually are shocked with my honesty and then feel like a total a$$ and go away with their tail between their legs.

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Well i think that we can all ignore things people say, or just laugh at it. If you got mad at everything people say then you would be a very unhappy person. I also think that people don't really realize intill after it was said that they asked a stupid question, and was only trying to make conversation to be nice. Just don't take it to heart and enjoy life.

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Sorry to hijack, but you'd be shocked at the stupid things people have said because I am DH's 2nd wife...

first off - when we were planning our wedding, someone asked me, "Oh, you are still having the whole big wedding thing?" Uh - yeah...

When I was pregnant, DH has 2 older daughters - 16 and 10, people said all sorts of idiotic things, but my favorite is when they say in front of the girls, "Wow - Angelo finally has his boy!"