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heathergirl
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
I think the point is that there needs to be some common courtesy nowadays. Everyon is in too much of a hurry, too busy, etc. The OP could have called while she was shopping, or even on her way to the car. The cashier thought it was rude but her comments about it were definitely unecessary.
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
I think both set of comments were rude and uncalled for.
That being said...I also think its rude to be on your cell while in a store checking out.
If I need to make a call while I am there...I do what some other posters suggested... make it BEFORE I get on line to check out or pull over once I am done checking out.
If I have to answer a call while I'm online I just quickly pick up and tell the caller I will call them back in 5 mins...before they even have a chance to say hello.
I'm not a fan of cell phones being every where...so my opinion on their usage may be more extreme than others.
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:16 AM |
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kimbalina
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
I can understand being annoyed at the comment.
I however do not use my phone when there is any kind of service going on for me. I know she is ringing up your order.. but she is a person too.. However the comment is uncalled for.
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:17 AM |
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lovemy2boys
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
pffffft! I am always on the phone at the checkout, some of them are so nasty anyway, what difference does it make?
she has nerve saying that to you
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:19 AM |
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Kara
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
Posted by Bxgell2
Kindly go eff yourself.
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Signed,
I hope you stay in supermarket checkout hell forever more. You deserve the bad karma.
I understand you are angry, but this truly surprises me coming from you. It is just unnecessarily snobby and not something I'd expect you to write. I think people are reacting on this thread they way they are b/c they didn't expect to hear that from you. However, because it's SO uncharacteristic of you, though, I think we can all chalk it up to venting about a bad day (which you are more than entitled to do). . . and maybe overreacting to the checkout person's (unnecessary and inappropriate) rudeness due to the enormous amounts of stress in your life. I don't mean that in a condescending way. I am also under immense stress right now and know how much more easily I get frustrated and upset these days. Sometimes we just need to take a step back, take a deep breath, and realize that this isn't the end of the world. Maybe the checkout woman also was having a really bad day, week, month, year... Still, she was at work and should have been more polite about it. A polite "I'm sorry, but cell phone conversations are not allowed on line" would have sufficed and been better received.
I'm sorry you're having a really rough time right now and hope that some of your stress dissipates soon. 
Also, I think there are a lot of ASSumptions on this thread here that just b/c Beth was on the phone, she must have also done 15 other rude things to the cashier... Let's not assume facts we don't know. I've never known Beth to be rude or inconsiderate on here... so let's make sure our "general" comments about how rude people are aren't misdirected toward Beth.
The rest of this post is NOT directed at you, Beth, but is just a reaction to some other posts on this thread...
I agree with Caroline that the overuse of cell phones (and blackberries) for that matter is out of control. I think they really give people an inflated sense of self-important - like "if I don't take this phone call RIGHT NOW, the world will end." And I work in the land of the overly self-important, the land of demanding clients who want real time answers to their emails 24/7, and etc., etc. Sometimes we just need to take a step back and realize there is soooooo much more to life than answering that email in the next 30 seconds. I just think we as a society are a little too connected and available these days.
Message edited 3/19/2009 10:25:39 AM.
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:20 AM |
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seaside
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
In the minority here. Beth did nothing wrong. We don't know that she didn't acknowledge the cashier, thank her, etc., even with the call, and I can't imagine that anyone could see her in the situation she described and begrudge her what she did.
The cashier should never have been so rude. Beth is a class act, from what I've seen, who has not spoken down to anyone--not on here and not to the cashier. Her private thoughts, which she chose to make us privy to, are hers and hers alone. She has an absolute right to them. I wish more people in general thought about talking to and treating others with the class and dignity that Beths seems to display on here & in real life.
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:21 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
Ok, let me elaborate why her comments really ticked me off.
I am not one of those people she lumped me in a group with, by her comments.
I rarely take calls while on line anywhere, NEVER take calls while on the train, and never even walk the street while taking a call.
I ALWAYS greet service people, treat them with respect, help out with my groceries, thank them and wish them a good day. Always, even if they are grumpy and rude to me.
However, for this one split moment of this one really bad day that I was having, I made, literally, a 5 second call to my husband, as the cashier was still wrapping up with the customer in front of me, while I was placing my groceries on the counter, to save myself some time and aggravation for when I got home, so he could help out for 5 seconds by preparing dinner for us.
But, before I even had a chance to wrap up my call, hang up and say hello, she made her snide remarks and judged me based on her observation of me for 5 seconds.
And for someone like myself, who really does strive to be fair and kind to others, but was also having just a god-awful, emotionally toiling day, it really hurt and offended me when she said that.
And you know what? I kept my thoughts to myself. I hung up the phone, said hello, went over and packed all my groceries so she wouldnt have to, and wished her a good evening on my way out.
And yes, I apologize if my initial post seemed harsh - I fully recognize that I'm hormonal and emotional, and attribute much of it to that.
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:29 AM |
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MrsR
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
Beth - it sounds like you really need a hug. I am sorry you had a bad day yesterday and that maybe you are feeling a little overwhelmed lately.
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:31 AM |
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ml110
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
i can see both sides... she should not have made those comments to you. BUT, at the same time... that 5 second phone call could have been made in one of the aisles before you got in line to check out.
To me, you have to look at the other side,too. You have a lot of stress going on in your life right now... maybe she does too. Maybe her husband or child is sick in the hospital? Maybe she just found out her car needs thousands of dollars in repairs that she can't afford right now.
Did you ever think that the reason she was so cranky is because she has people going through her line all day who are on the phone, or just ignoring her in general? We never know the other person's situation, and she is entitled to be in an "off" mood ocassionally, just like you are.
To me, its just a matter of respect to get off the phone while she is trying to do her job.
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:32 AM |
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tiktok
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
Signed,
I hope you stay in supermarket checkout hell forever more. You deserve the bad karma.
WOW . bit too harsh don't you think? How cruel of you to even think this.... let alone post it on here....
If someone else had posted this you'd be in their throat 
So you think you are better than that person who works as a cashier at a supermarket  really WOW!!!. some people don't seize to amaze me
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:33 AM |
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JP826
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
Posted by Bxgell2
Ok, let me elaborate why her comments really ticked me off.
I am not one of those people she lumped me in a group with, by her comments.
I rarely take calls while on line anywhere, NEVER take calls while on the train, and never even walk the street while taking a call.
I ALWAYS greet service people, treat them with respect, help out with my groceries, thank them and wish them a good day. Always, even if they are grumpy and rude to me.
However, for this one split moment of this one really bad day that I was having, I made, literally, a 5 second call to my husband, as the cashier was still wrapping up with the customer in front of me, while I was placing my groceries on the counter, to save myself some time and aggravation for when I got home, so he could help out for 5 seconds by preparing dinner for us.
But, before I even had a chance to wrap up my call, hang up and say hello, she made her snide remarks and judged me based on her observation of me for 5 seconds.
And for someone like myself, who really does strive to be fair and kind to others, but was also having just a god-awful, emotionally toiling day, it really hurt and offended me when she said that.
And you know what? I kept my thoughts to myself. I hung up the phone, said hello, went over and packed all my groceries so she wouldnt have to, and wished her a good evening on my way out.
And yes, I apologize if my initial post seemed harsh - I fully recognize that I'm hormonal and emotional, and attribute much of it to that.
Beth- You really dont need to explain yourself. How many people come on here venting about things? (Myself included). We are all entitled to days like these. Rudeness or not... who really cares? If anyone has ever driven in a car with me, they would hear A LOT worse come out of my mouth in terms of cursing people out.
No need to justify your comments. I think most of the posters on here are just a bit shocked to see that those comments are coming from you.
Your human. Relax. Things happen.
Message edited 3/19/2009 10:35:00 AM.
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GioiaMia
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
You are definitely entitled to a vent!
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:36 AM |
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HeathKernandez
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
Posted by tiktok
Signed,
I hope you stay in supermarket checkout hell forever more. You deserve the bad karma.
WOW . bit too harsh don't you think? How cruel of you to even think this.... let alone post it on here....
If someone else had posted this you'd be in their throat
So you think you are better than that person who works as a cashier at a supermarket really WOW!!!. some people don't seize to amaze me
*cease
sorry. if you're allowed to have an undercover name to speak your peace, you have to take a *little* beating
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:38 AM |
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HeathKernandez
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
Posted by Bxgell2
Ok, let me elaborate why her comments really ticked me off.
I am not one of those people she lumped me in a group with, by her comments.
I rarely take calls while on line anywhere, NEVER take calls while on the train, and never even walk the street while taking a call.
I ALWAYS greet service people, treat them with respect, help out with my groceries, thank them and wish them a good day. Always, even if they are grumpy and rude to me.
However, for this one split moment of this one really bad day that I was having, I made, literally, a 5 second call to my husband, as the cashier was still wrapping up with the customer in front of me, while I was placing my groceries on the counter, to save myself some time and aggravation for when I got home, so he could help out for 5 seconds by preparing dinner for us.
But, before I even had a chance to wrap up my call, hang up and say hello, she made her snide remarks and judged me based on her observation of me for 5 seconds.
And for someone like myself, who really does strive to be fair and kind to others, but was also having just a god-awful, emotionally toiling day, it really hurt and offended me when she said that.
And you know what? I kept my thoughts to myself. I hung up the phone, said hello, went over and packed all my groceries so she wouldnt have to, and wished her a good evening on my way out.
And yes, I apologize if my initial post seemed harsh - I fully recognize that I'm hormonal and emotional, and attribute much of it to that.
Beth, you're entitled to vent. I apologize if I started a debate b/c I mentioned I think it's rude to be on a phone while at a checkout.
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:39 AM |
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babymakes3
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
I think the checkout lady should have kept quiet, period. I think that the fact that Beth didn't say anything to the checkout lady's face is indicative of how polite she is. She chose to vent on a message board.
Beth wasn't standing in the checkout (with or without toy dog in tow), holding up the line while she has a conversation with her girlfriend about the sleaze who didn't buy her flowers because it was their 2-month anniversary. Yes, those people deserve a comment. Not a harried mom just trying to get her gazillion tasks done.
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1stimemom
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
Posted by seaside
In the minority here. Beth did nothing wrong. We don't know that she didn't acknowledge the cashier, thank her, etc., even with the call, and I can't imagine that anyone could see her in the situation she described and begrudge her what she did.
The cashier should never have been so rude. Beth is a class act, from what I've seen, who has not spoken down to anyone--not on here and not to the cashier. Her private thoughts, which she chose to make us privy to, are hers and hers alone. She has an absolute right to them. I wish more people in general thought about talking to and treating others with the class and dignity that Beths seems to display on here & in real life.
ITA!!!
Beth, sorry you day such a bad day. Hope today is better foryou.
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
Posted by tiktok
Signed,
I hope you stay in supermarket checkout hell forever more. You deserve the bad karma.
WOW . bit too harsh don't you think? How cruel of you to even think this.... let alone post it on here....
If someone else had posted this you'd be in their throat
So you think you are better than that person who works as a cashier at a supermarket really WOW!!!. some people don't seize to amaze me
honestly, I see you are either "new" or in hiding, but either way, I will say this
Beth already said that her post was a bit rude, that is out of character for her so you need to chill out
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:43 AM |
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MarathonKnitter
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
ITA
i deal with the public at work, and no matter what... you never say anything like that... even if beth were wrong (which i don't agree that she was).
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:44 AM |
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
Posted by Bxgell2
But, before I even had a chance to wrap up my call, hang up and say hello, she made her snide remarks and judged me based on her observation of me for 5 seconds.
And you have judged her based on a short interaction.
Listen, what she said WAS rude. But, as she was unaware of your personal situation, you are unaware of hers. Perhaps she was having just as crappy day as you were. Should she have been more professional in dealing with you? Absolutely.
I detest cell phones. I only have one for emergencies. I have been on checkout lines at various stores when my phone rings. I don't answer. Whoever is calling can wait until I've finished my transaction.
Common courtesy (generally, not specific to this situation) has flown out the window. I always try to be courteous to checkout folks, customer service reps etc, because it is a hard job dealing with the general public on a day-to-day basis. I've done that type of work in the past and it can be brutal. I have come to NOT expect the same kindness in return (which is sad), but I don't let it bother me. I do appreciate it when I have a good experience, however.
Nevertheless, I'm glad you were courteous to her after her comments. However, to say such things as "eff you" and "bad karma" are really uncalled for--it doesn't reduce the inappropriateness because you posted it on a message board instead of saying it to her face. Yes, you were angry and had a bad day. But, really, it seems like an over-reaction to the situation.
I hope you have a better day today.
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
Posted by Bxgell2
Ok, let me elaborate why her comments really ticked me off.
I am not one of those people she lumped me in a group with, by her comments.
I rarely take calls while on line anywhere, NEVER take calls while on the train, and never even walk the street while taking a call.
I ALWAYS greet service people, treat them with respect, help out with my groceries, thank them and wish them a good day. Always, even if they are grumpy and rude to me.
However, for this one split moment of this one really bad day that I was having, I made, literally, a 5 second call to my husband, as the cashier was still wrapping up with the customer in front of me, while I was placing my groceries on the counter, to save myself some time and aggravation for when I got home, so he could help out for 5 seconds by preparing dinner for us.
But, before I even had a chance to wrap up my call, hang up and say hello, she made her snide remarks and judged me based on her observation of me for 5 seconds.
And for someone like myself, who really does strive to be fair and kind to others, but was also having just a god-awful, emotionally toiling day, it really hurt and offended me when she said that.
And you know what? I kept my thoughts to myself. I hung up the phone, said hello, went over and packed all my groceries so she wouldnt have to, and wished her a good evening on my way out.
And yes, I apologize if my initial post seemed harsh - I fully recognize that I'm hormonal and emotional, and attribute much of it to that.
I agree with Kara....from the second I read your OP, I was like WHOA bad day but it's so uncharacteristic...it's not a reflection of your true colors.
I hope today is better
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MarisaK
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
$300 is alot of stuff !!
it's one thing if you walk into a pizzeria or a bakery and basically treat the person trying to help you like a second class citizen b/c you're 'too busy' on your call.........THAT is rude, IMO -
But standing online at the grocery store ??? Watching the woman scan $300 worth of stuff?
You're not required to have a conversation with her ..........
And if she had such a problem w/ Beth's "rude" behavior, she should ahve said so to her face -
Not the irritating passive agressive comment under her breath JUST loud enough for everyone to hear
Message edited 3/19/2009 10:56:01 AM.
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
On bad days, i could find myself wishing people urinary track infections for simply cutting me off on the highway, am a horrible person? NO, IM having a bad day. HUGS
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:53 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
Posted by seaside
In the minority here. Beth did nothing wrong. We don't know that she didn't acknowledge the cashier, thank her, etc., even with the call, and I can't imagine that anyone could see her in the situation she described and begrudge her what she did.
The cashier should never have been so rude. Beth is a class act, from what I've seen, who has not spoken down to anyone--not on here and not to the cashier. Her private thoughts, which she chose to make us privy to, are hers and hers alone. She has an absolute right to them. I wish more people in general thought about talking to and treating others with the class and dignity that Beths seems to display on here & in real life.
Thank you
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:54 AM |
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seaside
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
honestly, I see you are either "new" or in hiding, but either way, I will say this
Beth already said that her post was a bit rude, that is out of character for her so you need to chill out
I agree. Despite all the self- righteous "wow"ing, Beth was polite to the cashier and the cashier was rude and unprofessional to Beth. Does that make Beth better? I think so.
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:54 AM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Dear checkout lady at the Supermarket,
Posted by theburbshereicome
On bad days, i could find myself wishing people urinary track infections for simply cutting me off on the highway, am a horrible person? NO, IM having a bad day. HUGS
OMG, I so needed that laugh - thanks!
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| Posted 3/19/09 10:55 AM |
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