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soveryupset
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Angel321
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Re: can your baby hate you?
emma LIGHTS UP when she sees dave....and smiles at me when i'm with her, but not the same way...
she doesn't hate you....please don't feel that way. we are seen more often than DH is (in most cases)....the baby is more 'used' to your face....
at least that's what i tell myself!
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maybesoon
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Re: can your baby hate you?
Does she see you more than DH? my baby loves when his dad comes hom he gets a huge smile. I'm home w/ baby all day so I don't get the same reaction
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| Posted 10/19/09 11:24 AM |
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soveryupset
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Mere09
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Re: can your baby hate you?
My DH can get our DD to smile in a way that I cant. Don't take it personally. Like everyone else said, she's probably just more used to seeing you.
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SweetTooth
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Re: can your baby hate you?
It is normal for babies to do this.
However, you stated you were losing your patience sometimes. I remember you posted about a month ago about the same thing. Is this still going on?
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| Posted 10/19/09 11:55 AM |
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LoriH
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Re: can your baby hate you?
Your baby does not hate you, she is just used to you always being around. If you do not already, try to get out of the house with DD during the day and take some time for yourself when DH gets home from work. I think you may just need a bit of a break.
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| Posted 10/19/09 11:57 AM |
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kerrycec03
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Re: can your baby hate you?
Posted by SweetTooth
It is normal for babies to do this.
However, you stated you were losing your patience sometimes. I remember you posted about a month ago about the same thing. Is this still going on?
I remember your posts too. Have you spoken to somebody about PPD yet? These feelings may all be related to that.
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| Posted 10/19/09 11:57 AM |
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pinkandblue
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Re: can your baby hate you?
she is too young to hate you, give it 12-13 years 
sorry to make light, just wanted to make you smile.
NO, your dd does not hate you...children always favor one parent in the beginning, at least in my experience.
my 6 w/o ds always smiles for dh and NEVER for me....it is just one of those things
and also, we have ALL had times where we lose our patience.....don't beat yourself up over it
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SweetTooth
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lakadema
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Re: can your baby hate you?
Posted by maybesoon
Does she see you more than DH? my baby loves when his dad comes hom he gets a huge smile. I'm home w/ baby all day so I don't get the same reaction
I thought it was just me! When my husband walks through the door, he gets the biggest smile in the world.
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JennyPenny
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Re: can your baby hate you?
When my DH is with my 8 week old in the morning I hear her laugh out loud for like an hour. I am lucky if I get one or two smiles all day.
I try not to take it personally. She just gets sick of me, I think, since i'm with her all day.
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| Posted 10/19/09 12:42 PM |
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cjik
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Re: can your baby hate you?
Posted by lakadema
Posted by maybesoon
Does she see you more than DH? my baby loves when his dad comes hom he gets a huge smile. I'm home w/ baby all day so I don't get the same reaction
I thought it was just me! When my husband walks through the door, he gets the biggest smile in the world.
No, I wouldn't take it personally. DH used to get BIG smiles from DS when he came home at that age (I'm also a SAHM). DH still gets big smiles a lot of the time, but DS also gets mad at him for leaving sometimes (at 22 months). When that happens, everything needs to be done by Mama, and honestly, I kind of preferred when he was delighted with DH.
As far as losing your patience, I'm not sure I recall your other post. I know there were a couple recently that I read and responded to along these lines. Definitely talk to your doctor to rule out PPD or any other health issue like a thyroid disorder. If all is well and you are just overwhelmed or need more time to yourself, try to find a way to get it. MY DH works long hours and commutes and I don't have family nearby, but I found a couple childcare options. Plus, DH and I both try to get a little time by ourselves on weekends, even if it's only half an hour or an hour. It makes such a difference, and I know I feel much more patient with DS after some time away from him. These little people are beautiful, wonderful, and also draining, so some time away is key IMO.
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Re: can your baby hate you?
No they can't hate you - they just sometimes prefer daddy. Cailen called me dada until he was 15 months old!  He was such a daddy's boy, and then all of a sudden he turned into the biggest mommy's boy!!!
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| Posted 10/19/09 3:53 PM |
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JenBenMen
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Re: can your baby hate you?
this happens...they switch who they like
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keepinmyman
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Re: can your baby hate you?
Posted by maybesoon
Does she see you more than DH? my baby loves when his dad comes hom he gets a huge smile. I'm home w/ baby all day so I don't get the same reaction
My situation was the opposite. DH works nights & I mostly days so she was with him more & she would cry when I tried to take her from him, which usually made me cry. This is one of the reasons i went part time. And it may be a coincidence but she is much better with that now. It went on like that for several months so i can't say I think it was a phase.
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Xelindrya
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Re: can your baby hate you?
I hate that.
AJ not only smiles for Jim, but laughs and basically just enjoys him more.
I have no patience, I know that. I try to spend quality time with her but she’d rather spend it with Jim.
She will walk PAST me to go into his arms.
They have their own private jokes and she doesn’t even speak! How did that happen?
Still I don’t think she hates me. I hear later on she’s going to change that opinion and frankly I kind of like that they have such a close bond.
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Candy Girl
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Re: can your baby hate you?
Sometimes I feel that Chloe prefers my DH to me. She says Dada, but not Mama and she cries and cries when DH leaves the room. It upsets me a little, but I know it's not meant to be personal.
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bonitachyc
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Re: can your baby hate you?
no, they can't hate you. poor DD, i lose my patience every now and then, yell, give her a "time out" (when mommy needs it!) and i feel like i am just so mean to her, but in the end she still needs mommy to console her. your DD is probably just a daddy's girl...from the beginning!
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