am i overreacting

ok i need a outsiders opinion.
Today is dh and I one year anniversary and we had plans for the while day then he comes home from work late last night and says dont be mad but i have to go into work at 2 tomarow (witch means he has to leave here at 1:30) He wont be home till maybe 9 or 10 at night. I amj 9 months prego so i may be over reacting w.all my hormones but im just soo mad at him. I was realy looking foward to getting oiut of the house with him n having a nice day apple picking going out to eat n a movie but no now ill be alone all day n night....

Ugh what would u say or do should i just drop it or stay mad?

Message edited 10/9/2010 7:46:39 AM.

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Of course it's OK to be upset.... but try not to hold it against him. It's not like he made plans to go play golf or hang out with friends.... work is a different story.

Believe me- when DH drops on me that he has to work when I was expecting him home it makes me CRAAAAAZY, but I try to think of the extra $$$$ and the fact that he would never choose to be at work over being at home.

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It's ok to be upset over it, but it's work. Like the PP said, it's not like he made plans with his friends of anything.

Listen, today is my anniv too, so happy anniversary wedding date twin, and we had planned on going to Lake George for the 3 day weekend but my DH is going on a business trip this coming week, so we had to cancel our plans. Then we had plans to go to Atlantis Aquarium and apple picking today as well and dinner too, but I just came down with an absolutely terrible cold and I wouldn't enjoy doing anything except laying down watching tv and on my comp since there's no effort in that. So, he's out getting his haircut and I'm at home. It's not the ideal way to spend our anniversary, but you can celebrate at anytime! I absolutely understand it's a total let down, but you have many many many years together, so there will be more.

You can even go out and spoil yourself a little bit today because it is your anniversary!

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i would be upset as well but like the other girls said its work.....its not like he went to hangout with his friends
..........im sure he will make it up to you

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Yes I agree - It is work and not like he is out having fun.

Did he feel bad canceling on you? I think sometimes tone of voice plays into these situations a lot. He should at least be understanding of your feelings of being upset about canceling the day.

But I don't think you can be really mad at him since it is work and hey in this economy we all have to be greatful about that.

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aw!
I would totally be upset. but like the other girls said, he is at work not hanging out with his friends. I hope he has something big planed!

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I would be mad and I would probably overreact...

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its past but ill nswer anyway-i would be mad but than i would have planned a day to do things for myself when he left for work
dont stress yourself out when your that preg get some relaxation

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It TOTALLY S*CKS that he couldn't be home for your 1 year anniversary. I would be mad but I'd get over it. You look forward to this first year for so long so it's understandable. HOWEVER, I think that if it was like "don't be mad but I made plans to go watch the game with my friends" I'd be P*SSED BUT he has to work. Especially with a baby on the way, working is a BIG thing before he/she comes.

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i would be super upset! but i would also understand since work is important right now.

our anniversary is two days after christmas and i'm hoping dh plans something for it. but i'll also understand if we just stay home and watch our favorite movie. (i'm unemployed and we just had a baby so going out is rarely an option)

hope your dh made it up to you with a nice dinner and a footrub for those swollen ankles