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This wasn't a poll option but I cried some happy tears; found out the sex at 11 weeks (after taking a CVS test). My age skewed the odds for chromo abnormalities so hearing the "all clear" got me teary, then when the doc said "it's a boy" I let loose My dad's death was less than 3 months prior, and he had 6 granddaughters and only 1 grandson, so I knew he would've been sooooo excited to know another boy was joining the family. It might be dumb but my "story" is that DS's body was with me for 9months but his soul hung out with my Dad up there while he was 'cooking' here.

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I didn't cry, but I admit feeling slightly disappointed for DH that DD#2 was a girl. Even though he *said* he didn't care- I knew he was dying for a son. Personally I was happy because I wanted my DD to have a sister and I knew this was leverage to go for #3.

I KNOW if #3 had been a girl *I* would have been a bit sad because I knew that #3 was our last baby regardless of sex. I always envisioned myself having a son and it would have been hard giving up that dream. I cried tears of joy when I found out I was getting everything I wanted.

God was very good to my family and blessed us with healthy babies- which was MOST important, but I didn't feel a lick of guilt for feeling any disappointment.

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Not for myself, but for my DH. I knew he really wanted a boy because of the special relationship he had with his father. We were supposed to be but I accidentally found out at 21 weeks. I was sad for DH until I saw the picture of him holding his baby girl for the first time. The look on his face told me it was OK.

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We (me, DH and everyone!) were convinced it would be a girl!

At the 20 week sonogram when she said I was like "Are you SURE? Are you sure what looks like a penis isn't an extra leg?"

It took me a few weeks to wrap my mond around and not girl but that beibng said....there were no tears of sadness at all.....just surprise.

And I don;t think it's strange for one to feel sad though....we all have expectations & visions of what our lives will be ......and moments of sadness when things are not what you pictured seems normal to me

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No tears here. But I had a feeling she was a girl....and we only found out when she was born, and at that point, I had just pushed a baby out of me, so hearing she was a girl barely even phased me.

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I wouldn't say they were tears of "sadness" More like tears of "OMG I was SO WRONG this WHOLE TIME"

I was 10000% convinced it was a boy. Had the name picked out (would have had my grandfathers name ) had bedding/nursery all figured out. So when I opened the envelope and it said It's a girl...I just paused and tears came out.
More out of shock b/c I was obviously very wrong.

That feeling lasted about 10 mins then I got excited to pick out girly things. Now I can't imagine her being anything other than her crazy self!

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Nope, I knew itt was a boy from day 1. Just my gut feeling. I was thrilled as I preferred to have a boy. I think if I got pg again, i would want another boy. I know how they operate. I'm prepared. I honestly don't ink this house could tolerate another moody chick. I fill that position very well.

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I know how awful it must sound when people shed tear of dissapointment when finding out the sex. But sometimes people can't help the way they feel. I'd think for most it doesn't mean they love that baby any less.

In my case I really thought I was having a girl. And in many ways would have preferred a girl. I'm just being honest. I predicted shedding tears if this pregnancy was a boy. For one main reason...having another boy meant that the liklihood of him experiencing the same developmental delays as DS1 was high. And that scares me.

Low and behold two weeks ago I found out I was having a boy. And I had no reaction of sadness at all. I'm still surprised to this day. I immediately was so in love with having another little boy. A brother for DS. I try not to think of any challenges we might have in the future. Quite frankly DS1 keeps my mind busy enough to have to think of the what-ifs.

I still do want a girl. And maybe we'll try for #3. But more than likely I think my fear of having 3 children outweighs my desire for a girl. Time will tell.

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not at all.
I really did not care either way with both pregnancies.
healthy and happy

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I found out with my first 2 kids what the sex was # 1 was # 2 was my 3rd was very unexpected & i was not ready to have another kid. I REALLY wanted another girl, DD reallly wanted a sister, i didnt want to be disappointed if i found out it was a boy, so i kept it a suprise. I also wanted to have that "suprise" experience just once. Well # 3 turned out to be another - i cant tell you how wonderful he is, from the minute he entered this world, he is just the sweetest baby (20 months now). I cant imagine it being any other way. there are days were i still want another baby girl, and i look at the little girl clothes in the stores- but i get over it. So i can understand why you feel you may be disappointed, but i can assure you, that will pass.

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Absolutely not. I know that when you go forth in life and make the decision to get pregnant, the gender of the baby is not up to us-it's a 50/50 and i was just THRILLED to see healthy babies on the screen.

I really really am not trying to direct this at you although i know it might come across this way...but I feel like today people are getting so caught up in what THEY want...when the very best gifts in the world are not always what WE envision.

I can't imagine not having my sons. They are amazing. I DO understand when people think "oh i would love a daughter" or "having a son would be so wonderful..". But I can't understand crying over not having the one of your preference. It's usually the people that are most distraught over the gender that end up being head over heels for their son or daughter...

Maybe i sound harsh. I probably do. But i've been around so many families that would have just loved to hear "your baby is healthy" and that is that. Our society takes too much for granted.

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Nope.
I was shocked- I thought I was having a boy- everyone thought I was having a boy.
All those old wive's tales predicted I would have a boy by the way I was carrying, my lack of morning sickness, etc.
When the amnio results came back and they said- It's a Baby Girl, I nearly fainted. So did DH!
But deep down I was thrilled!!

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DOn't feel bad for how you fell. if I were to have a 2nd DC I'd want it to be a girl since I already have a boy. I really want a girl....and if it doesn't happen I know myself well enough to know I'll be dissappointed and sad. Will I love my next DC less though...no....but it doesn't mean I can't experience disappointment.

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No way! I didn't care about the sex at all... I was just so happy to BE pregnant. (Took about 15 months.)

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doesnt make you a bad person at all

DH wants a boy and I want a girl- we decided to stay we figure that going the full 40 weeks not knowing has built the excitement and after being in labor and wondering all this time, we would be too excited to find out the gender to be upset

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I didn't but i thought i was having a girl and i had a boy- but that is also why i waited to know till i had him in my arms

my cousin was verry sad when she found out she was having a boy at her sonogram - but he is the perfect match for her personality so it works out in the end

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I will be finding out the sex this time around. Part of me is nervous that I will be upset. And then I get upset at myself for even thinking that.

I have a son already, and I know for a fact, this is my last pregnancy. I come from a family of very strong, great women. I would love to be able to add another girl to that mix. So, if I am having another boy, will my first thought be disappointment? I don't know. I would love for my son to have a brother, but I always imagined my self with a daughter.

I try not to think about it too much or judge myself too much. That day will bring what it brings. At the end of the day, as long as baby is healthy, that is the most important thing.

Don't beat yourself up about how you feel.

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No, but I was very happy with the sexes as well. I was convinced #1 was a boy, which would have been fine. But I didnt realize how much I wanted a girl until I heard the tech tell me she was a girl. I kind of preferred girl for #2, just because we were broke and it would be convenient to use all of DD's clothes, but I was very happy to hear boy. #3 I did not care either way, or so I thought, And I was happy to hear girl!

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I think gender disappointment especially in 2nd or 3rd or more pregnancies is normal.

I know with us, this is our last baby. Gender doesnt play a role in that. So we have a DC of one gender and knowing its my last I would love the opposite of DC. But on the other hand I think how nice it would be to have 2 of the same gender to play together and be friends! (although my niece and nephew are best friends, they do EVERYTHING together)

This is one of the reasons I want to find out what I am having this time around. (we were the first time) but I havent told DH that I feel this way. I feel like I want to know so I can adjust to whatever I am having and be ready come delivery day. I dont want to be disappointed when he/she is born because I dont want to taint that day at all!

GL!

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I never, ever pictured myself having a girl. I was a Tomboy growing up and just saw myself always being a boy mommy. When we found out the first time that we were having my son, DH and I both cried in the office because we were so elated to be having a son.

This time around, I so wanted a brother for my son in the worst way, even though I knew from the second I POAS that I was having a girl. When it was confirmed officially, I was not upset per se, but just had to adjust the vision I had for myself. Then I went shopping...and all was good!!!

It's amazing what little pink UGGS for infant girls can do for your psyche!!

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I didn't.

I actually got the gender that I was hoping for both times.

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I cried.... but for different reasons....

I originally wanted to find out the sex but dcided to hold off since DH did not want to know.... By the time I got to the middle of my pregnancy, I was so happy that we did not find out because I was looking forward to the surprise.... of course, my doctor slipped 4 weeks before my due date and told me. I cried hyasterically and was so upset because the surprise was ruined for me.... I wanted a girl and was told i was having a girl so I was happy BUT I was really looking forward to that moment of suspense and surprise in the delivery room when the doctor says "IT"S A...............!"

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Posted by JennZ

I honestly don't ink this house could tolerate another moody chick. I fill that position very well.

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