Feeling so anxious (long one here)

My c-section is scheduled for Tuesday, May 10 (I'll be 38 w. 3 d.) (if we make it.) Everyone keeps saying how ready I must be. On the one hand, the itchy belly that aches from stretching and the swollen feet make me ready, but I am so anxious about how I'm going to manage 2 + my 4 year old DD. My mom is here visiting until 5/18, but to be honest, she stresses me out a little bit too. She has been helpful, but she has some habits that drive me nuts. My DD has been acting up, which I guess is "normal" considering all of the changes coming at her. I'm so glad we are team because that's making me excited. I feel guilty for not feeling more happy about their arrival. I am looking forward to holding these precious little ones and snuggling with them, but my DD was a very tough infant, so I'm nervous about all of that. It took us so long to have these babies (tried for 2 years, then got pg on round #2 of IUI) On top of everything DH's job has been very stressful and he's super unhappy with that. He technically is not even taking any time off, although he works from home and he won't be scheduling any meetings for a couple of weeks, so he will be around.
Please, ladies, talk me off this ledge and tell me it will all be ok.
TIA.

Re: Feeling so anxious (long one here)

everything will work out.... it always does even though it might not seem that way.....try not to stress and just enjoy the last few days of being alone with DD until the twins get here....Then your life will be OVER!!!!

Just kidding you will make it through...hell if I can handle it anybody can.....


Good Luck keep us posted.....

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you will be ok!!! the beginning is nerve wracking, but you will figure out a routine and be fine!!
my DH got no real time off either. when i was in the hospital he would go to work in the am and then leave early to see me, or come see us quick then go back to work.
when the babies first came home he took 2 day off (the thurs they came home....which wasn't til 9pm and that fri)

it is so overwhelming before they are born. but for me, the anticipation was way worse then when they were actually here. my DS adjusted well (he was just over 2 1/2) and right away became very protective of "his babies"

good luck

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You will be OK
We closed on our new house a week after the twins were born, so even though DH took some time off work, he was at the new house f/t getting it ready for us to move it. Honestly as I think back now it is all a blur and I have no idea how I made it through. No sleep, feeding babies around the clock, chasing after a 2 yr old, and moving! I went into each day with low expectations... not trying to do it all, so I wouldnt let myself down. If anyone offers help TAKE IT and have them entertain your older DD. That is the best advice I can give. I got used to taking care of two babies, we all got on the same schedule, and they got used to napping without being held. My grandma would want to sit there and hold a baby all day, but that would be of no use to me... the baby is fine sleeping in the crib. But having someone play with Landon outside and let him run around and use up some energy was priceless.
If I could get through it, and want more kids... you will be just fine. I am so unorganized and not the "natural" mother type and I survived.

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You'll be fine. I moved in with my mom and she also totally stressed me out, biut I tuned it out and kept things in perspective- like she was available to hold a baby or letting me run to CVS solo for 30 minutes, etc. I'm not going to lie- my DH and I were at each others throats CONSTANTLY!!! DH wasn't dealing well at all in the beginning- with the entire thing- living with my mom, the kids, and LACK of sleep.

Now, 10 months later we are in our dream house, my mom is 7 miles away- whom I see very often, the girls are sleeping thru the night- as of 8 months, and we don't fight nearly as much now. It gets better.


BTW, lovin that you remained so did we and its the best!!!!!!!!!!

Way to go- making it so far along- you are amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Thank you all so much. I knew you'd make me feel better. I remember how tough the beginning was with DD and I guess I'm even more anxious from that experience! I do keep telling myself that it's only temporary. We got through it with her (& she was born in November and I made it through my first Chicago winter with an infant who cried ALOT)
We'll see how this week goes. Hopefully I'll make it until May 10, but I know at this point everything would be fine if they decide to come earlier. I'll keep you posted.

Re: Feeling so anxious (long one here)

We are 4 weeks in. It is hard. No lie. But I love it! DS (almost 3) actually adjusted pretty quickly. He adores his little sisters, but behavior otherwise can be challenging. Only I don't think it necessarily has anything to do with the twins but more so the terrible 3's

I haven't ventured out with them on my own...yet. But the lovely mommies on Parenting have given me a whole new sense of motivation that I can do it.

And, for the most part - actually taking care of the twins isn't so bad. I feel I am more laid back overall since they aren't my first. And I know they are my last so I am really trying to enjoy them more than ever.

They typically only tag team me for 4-7 which is the worst time since I am trying to get dinner, bath, and bed done for DS (DH works 10am-10pm), but my mom helps me a lot.

Not going to lie. She annoys the crap out of me. And I often wish she wasn't up my butt so much. But at the end of the day she is a huge help, so I bite my lip.

Hang in there. You will get through it. And for those moments where you feel you may be at your breaking point, we are all here for you!