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summerBaby10
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feeling anxious about hospital visitors
I am a very private person & am starting to feel anxious baout visitors coming to the hospital when DS is born.. nurses will be coming in & out to examine me & have me BF him & I don't need an audience for that.
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Posted 1/21/10 11:50 AM  |
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jennarose023
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
all you have to do is lay down the ground rules early and i would let both family and your nurses know when you do and don't feel comfortable about visitors 
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| Posted 1/21/10 11:52 AM |
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jgl
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
Posted by Dani10
I am a very private person & am starting to feel anxious baout visitors coming to the hospital when DS is born.. nurses will be coming in & out to examine me & have me BF him & I don't need an audience for that.
i feel the same way
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| Posted 1/21/10 11:52 AM |
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
I agree with you. If you are uncomfortable, tell people that you will let them know when it is good to visit.
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| Posted 1/21/10 11:52 AM |
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NervousNell
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
Posted by Dani10
I am a very private person & am starting to feel anxious baout visitors coming to the hospital when DS is born.. nurses will be coming in & out to examine me & have me BF him & I don't need an audience for that.
I feel the same.
I don't want anyone there but my mom, dad and sister.
I really dont' even want DH's family there to be honest- but I really don't have a choice.
I just feel like I will NOT want to be entertaining visitors. You aren't even in the hospital that long- can't they wait until I get home and settled?
I am sure I will be feeling and looking like cr@p and I don't want people there to see it all...
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| Posted 1/21/10 11:55 AM |
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GioiaMia
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
I actually want people to visit me in the hospital so I don't have to worry about entertaining them when I get home! 
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headoverheels
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
Posted by Tilde
I actually want people to visit me in the hospital so I don't have to worry about entertaining them when I get home!
Me too!! I was BFing and it wasn't bad at all. I just asked everyone to leave when it was time for the baby to eat, they would go and get coffee or lunch or something, and make sure it was okay before coming back in.
It was nice to have visitors, I would have been sooo bored otherwise. The hospital is not a peaceful place to sleep during the day
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| Posted 1/21/10 11:58 AM |
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maybesoon
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
I had soooooooo many visitors , id idnt' even get to try to BF DS. It was crazy from 11 AM -9PM every day. I was so exahusted but I didn't have the heart to tell people no. I hope this time around is not as bad. I aslo had neighbors that had the same situation as I did. there was no privacy at all
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| Posted 1/21/10 12:00 PM |
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Michelle1123
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
I am going to request people visit me not as much as they have in the past. At St catherines the baby must stay in the nursery during visiting hours (not sure if this applies if you dont have any visitors) but since they cant see the baby anyway, I will take advantage of the time to rest. If the baby IS allowed in the room if you have no visitors, I want to spend that time bonding with my new baby instead of having people visit that I see all the time.
We are going to have a baby's "coming out" party a few weeks after comng home.
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| Posted 1/21/10 12:00 PM |
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MamaB17
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
I agree. I don't know how to juggle wanting my mom there but not MIL. KWIM? I am anxious about dealing with when we get home too for this same reason. Also we live OOS so it isn't like they can just come over for a quick visit.
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| Posted 1/21/10 12:01 PM |
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summerBaby10
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Dani10
I am a very private person & am starting to feel anxious baout visitors coming to the hospital when DS is born.. nurses will be coming in & out to examine me & have me BF him & I don't need an audience for that.
I feel the same.
I don't want anyone there but my mom, dad and sister.
I really dont' even want DH's family there to be honest- but I really don't have a choice.
I just feel like I will NOT want to be entertaining visitors. You aren't even in the hospital that long- can't they wait until I get home and settled?
I am sure I will be feeling and looking like cr@p and I don't want people there to see it all...
This is me exactly.. DH's family is larger than mine & they don't know when to leave. I may make some enemies those days. ugh, and I just read that Winthrop visiting hours are from 1pm - 8 pm so I'll have to be prepared to "entertain" for 7 hours.
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nferrandi
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
Posted by headoverheels
Posted by Tilde
I actually want people to visit me in the hospital so I don't have to worry about entertaining them when I get home!
Me too!! I was BFing and it wasn't bad at all. I just asked everyone to leave when it was time for the baby to eat, they would go and get coffee or lunch or something, and make sure it was okay before coming back in.
It was nice to have visitors, I would have been sooo bored otherwise. The hospital is not a peaceful place to sleep during the day
I had the same experience. It was once I was home that I wanted to be left alone to relax.
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| Posted 1/21/10 12:02 PM |
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summerBaby10
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
Does anyone know what times the baby is allowed out of the nursery during visiting hours at Winthrop Hospital?
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| Posted 1/21/10 12:04 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
When visiting hours were going on, nurses never came in to examine me or the baby. I bottle fed, so that wasn't an issue with breastfeeding either.
But if you do need to feed, or a nurse does come in, usually 'most' people are smart enough to leave the room. If not, tell them to leave.
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| Posted 1/21/10 12:07 PM |
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azoodie
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
I feel the same exact way
I don't want any visitors at all but I know that I can't avoid having both my family and DH's family there. I just feel like the whole process is overwhelming as it is. I want time for DH and I to bond with the baby just the two of us without an audience.
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| Posted 1/21/10 12:09 PM |
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bluekat16
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
I want visitors..but I think when the time comes for a private moment people will understand to leave and if they don't I will ask them too.
There is nothing wrong with no wanting visitors so if it's causing anxiety already i would talk to DH about limiting who can come visit.
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| Posted 1/21/10 12:25 PM |
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
This doesn't respond to ur post, lol, but-
I can't believe u have less than a week to go!! When I first came to this board u always posted a lot and I always thought of u as a little ahead of me- and I'd read about stuff u did (like registering and going to ur level II etc) and think oh I'll be doing that next month. Haha now ur giving birth!!! AHHHHHH!! I'll be doing that next month!!!
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summerBaby10
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
Posted by BrinaEsq
This doesn't respond to ur post, lol, but-
I can't believe u have less than a week to go!! When I first came to this board u always posted a lot and I always thought of u as a little ahead of me- and I'd read about stuff u did (like registering and going to ur level II etc) and think oh I'll be doing that next month. Haha now ur giving birth!!! AHHHHHH!! I'll be doing that next month!!!
lol - I know, I can't believe it either!
hope you are feeling well!
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| Posted 1/21/10 12:47 PM |
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lc214
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
Posted by Dani10
I am a very private person & am starting to feel anxious baout visitors coming to the hospital when DS is born.. nurses will be coming in & out to examine me & have me BF him & I don't need an audience for that.
I felt the exact same way. If you don't want visitors try and start mentioning that to people now. I was afraid extended family would assume they were coming to the hospital so I told closer relatives that I didn't want visitors at the hospital so that they could relay the message. Also, if you do have visitors, when they come in to check you, or you are ready to BF it's a good excuse to cut their visit short.
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munchkinbugs
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
I was BFing, and when the time came, they would just pull the curtain around. Same thing for examinations, although I think they might have done this during non-visiting hours.
Your family and friends will be excited to see they baby. They won't expect too much from you. And people are generally understanding. Try not to stress about it. You'll be happy to have visitors after sitting in the hospital all day long. It's pretty boring and the baby doesn't do much but sleep.
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ali120206
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
Posted by neener1211
When visiting hours were going on, nurses never came in to examine me or the baby. I bottle fed, so that wasn't an issue with breastfeeding either.
But if you do need to feed, or a nurse does come in, usually 'most' people are smart enough to leave the room. If not, tell them to leave.
Same here. I only saw a nurse during visiting hours if I called them.
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OrganicMama
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Re: feeling anxious about hospital visitors
Posted by Tilde
I actually want people to visit me in the hospital so I don't have to worry about entertaining them when I get home!
My friend said she recommended EVERYONE to come to the hospital so they don't come to the house. At least the hospital has visiting hours where you can kick people out once they've overstayed their welcome!
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