Worrying. Normal?

I'm trying to be optimistic about this pregnancy but in the back of my mind I find myself worrying a lot about my symptoms. I keep thinking, "maybe I should feel sicker for almost 6 weeks" and I worry that something might be wrong if "I'm not as tired as I was yesterday" and if I feel cramps I pray that something bad isn't about to happen.

I'm sure that it's normal to worry more after having a miscarriage but I'm so afraid to get excited about the pregnancy. My first sono is in 21 days. It seems so far away. I think a lot of my fears are because I had a missed miscarriage and I had no idea that I was walking around for days and the baby was already gone. I'm afraid that is going to happen again. That I'll think I'm pregnant because I "feel" pregnant but no heartbeat when I get to my 9 week appointment.

I guess I'm asking for prayers, good vibes. I am trying to be hopeful but I need some encouragement and I need to hear that it's normal to feel this way after a loss

Message edited 6/28/2011 12:42:10 PM.

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Any chance your Dr can see you before 9 weeks?

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Congrats, I didn't see your BFP post So happy for you. I imagine its completely normal and to be honest I am half dreading getting a BFP as I too had a missed miscarriage and I know I will be on edge for probably months. I was even thinking of looking into hiring a doppler so I could check the heartbeat myself...but dont know if that is even possible.

Maybe see if the doctor can see you even a few days earlier.

Lots and lots of hugs, sticky dust and prayers to you

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I think it's 10000000% normal to worry.
With that said, I hope the worry eventually goes away so you can really enjoy your pregnancy!! Happy and Healthy!!!

Message edited 6/28/2011 4:00:38 PM.

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I think what you're feeling is completely normal. And to be honest, for me, I was worried the entire time I was pregnant with my second dd. Try to relax as much as you can - I know that is SO much easier said than done.

I know you had mentioned that you had wanted to wait until you were past 9 weeks for your first sono, and it completely made sense to me. But maybe if you are already feeling really worried and anxious, having one sooner might help you.

I truly believe that you, and your baby, will be fine!!

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I think its totally normal to feel this way. Unfortunately this is the feeling most women get after a miscarriage. We will not be able to fully enjoy our pregnancy because of what we've already experienced. Like PP said, cant you see the Dr. earlier than 21 weeks?

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The worrying is totally normal!!!

I had the same exact issues!! everytime I went to the dr appt (I had weekly's bc I was with an RE early on in the preg) I would literally relive the day of that fatal appt where they told me I had a missed miscarriage. And I was petrified it was going to happen all over again.

I know just what you are going through. I can tell you that with each successful appt it does get a little easier. It's just like hitting little milestones here and there. It gets even better once you can feel movements... because now you have something more concrete to rely on and don't have to wait for appts to know that the baby is OK.

What helped me a lot was a heart monitor. I realize it might be too early to use one just yet... but as time goes on.. the anxiety will still be there and when you start getting really freaked out you can just check up to make sure the heart is still beating. This did work in calming me. Esp in the beginning. I only used it when I really needed to. And I never relied on it... if i ever thought something was really wrong... i would check the heart monitor at home to ease my nerves but I also went to the dr or hospital immediately to be monitored.

I can honestly tell you.. that even to this day (i'm 39w2d) I STILL check the TP for blood... even though, like you, I never bled with my MC. It's a fear that never really dissipates. Having been through what you have been through you will of course take those memories and feelings with you and it's understandable to be nervous with any pregnancy. It's sad because being on this board means we are all jaded from the innocence of pregnancy, having seen the other side to it.

Good luck with everything.

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Thank you girls.

I'm really trying to hold out for my 9 week appointment. I have 20 days left to go.

After I miscarried they tested me for everything that causes multiple losses and they found nothing. Even though I only had 1 miscarriage they checked because the genetic testing of the baby came back normal and they were suspicious of that and thought there could be something going on with me that caused the loss. Everything with me came back normal.

Between me already passing the miscarriage panel and having two great betas and high progesterone they are treating me as if everything is okay with the pregnancy and that is why I'm not being seen until 9 weeks.

This is so tough. I'm hoping and praying everything goes well and at some point I can start enjoying being pregnant. Right now I'm on eggshells with my emotions about it.

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Also, the biggest worry I have is over my symptoms. I wish I could just relax and enjoy the moments when I'm not tired or queasy without worrying.

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It is completely normal to worry....throughout the whole pregnancy. I worried the entire time I was pregnant with both my boys and at that point I hadn't had a loss. See if your OB will see you sooner than 9 weeks, but *please* don't go before 7 weeks- very often they can't see anything on a sono before that point.
Congratulations by the way!!!