Discipline Question?

What do you do with a child that just does not listen? If my daughter does not want to do something - there is no way to convince her to do it. If we have kids over & she doesn't want to share a specific toy - there is no way to get her to hand it over without her throwing a tantrum. At school the teacher is constantly telling me that although she is good & plays with other kids nicely, she does not listen to her when asked to do something & her behavior has not improved in this past month at all. The teacher is constantly telling he to work with her at home & she'll work with her at school. I have tried time-outs & taking away privileges but she just doesn't care.....What do I do? She's 3 years old & again, she's usually OK, except for when you ask her to do something she doesn't want to - she's defiant....And when I ask her about her behavior in school she admits that she does not listen & gets very emotional when I constantly talk about it to her & says that she's going to be a good girl - so she knows what she is doing is wrong.

Re: Discipline Question?

I would try reinforcing her for sharing, or listening to the teacher, or whatever it is you want her to do. Go and get her a new toy, a special outing to some place that she likes, anything that she would really like and doesn't normally have.

Then choose something specific you want her to do, something simple, so hopefully she will be successful the first time. Then, let her know what she needs to do and what she will get if she does it. For example, have a play date and tell her, if you play nicely with Jodie and share your toys with no whining or crying, when you are done playing we'll go get ice cream.

Good luck and feel free to FM if you'd like