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A sad vent...
DH and I have been TTC for 2 cycles now. We have been married for 3 years, and due to various reasons, have had to put TTC on hold several times. We were finally ready to begin in November, and couldn't have been more excited.
DH had told me after we got married that his grandfather told him he hoped we had children soon so that he could see them (grandpa has been a bit of a loner since his wife passed away several years ago, and never really did much with his life/had anything to look forward to) before he passed away (he also talked a lot about death). Now that we've been trying, we found out that Grandpa has 6 weeks to live (cancer). I thought it would be really special if we could get pregnant during his last few weeks, and let him know before he passed on. I'm a bit of a believer that sometimes people pass away so that others could be brought into the world, and I was trying to find the silver lining in this whole thing. We wouldn't have told anyone right away besides him.
This morning, I got my period.  I'm fighting back the tears right now as I'm writing this. I have only been trying for 2 months, and I know that's nothing. In the process of TTC, time loses all meaning. However, for DH's grandpa, time has become everything. I'm so hoping that we can get pregnant this month and that he hangs on long enough for us to be able to share that with him. It isn't even about us right now, it's become about us trying to give him one last wish, even though he won't ever get to meet our baby.
Thanks for letting me vent.
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Posted 1/5/12 10:26 AM  |
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Re: A sad vent...
You kind of hinted to this in your post, but maybe grandpa will bring you your baby.
All that said,  and  for you and your family
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| Posted 1/5/12 10:49 AM |
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AngnShaun
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Re: A sad vent...
im very sorry to hear that.
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| Posted 1/5/12 10:49 AM |
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LiveItUp
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I'm so sorry to hear, and it is very sweet of you to want to be able to share news of a baby with him. I'm hoping it happens for you but try not to put too much pressure on yourselves during what is already a difficult time. Prayers for your grandpa and family
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| Posted 1/5/12 11:27 AM |
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TessMike214
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| Posted 1/5/12 11:37 AM |
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jennielee15
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Re: A sad vent...
I just wanted to share that my friends mom was given three weeks to live in June because her cancer metastasized in her brain. Well, she is still alive and kicking! She even started driving again. Now, I know this isn't typical and she is still living with cancer but I thought I would share some hope with you!
some dust for your dream! 
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| Posted 1/5/12 12:25 PM |
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AKD
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Re: A sad vent...
I'm so sorry you're all going through this and hope that your he's not feeling too much pain
Sending you many many !
Message edited 1/5/2012 12:29:08 PM.
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| Posted 1/5/12 12:27 PM |
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MrsKelly
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Re: A sad vent...
i'm so sorry
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| Posted 1/5/12 1:40 PM |
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Thank you all for the sweet responses
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| Posted 1/5/12 5:00 PM |
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Ltdentway99
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Re: A sad vent...
This post makes me so sad about your grandpa.
Please do NOT blame yourself for waiting 3 years to try to get pregnant.
This is what you do. Please read...
I saw on this site that someone posted a grandparent book that you buy online. It is a book of questions to be filled out by the grandparent, so the child could know about grandpa later on in life. It looked really sweet 
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| Posted 1/5/12 5:49 PM |
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shellbebaby
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Re: A sad vent...
Posted by Ellebelle1
This post makes me so sad about your grandpa.
Please do NOT blame yourself for waiting 3 years to try to get pregnant.
This is what you do. Please read...
I saw on this site that someone posted a grandparent book that you buy online. It is a book of questions to be filled out by the grandparent, so the child could know about grandpa later on in life. It looked really sweet
I like this idea. Another idea is to interview him. I did this with a camera and my grandfathers several years ago. My one grandfather passed away suddenly only about a year later, the other one is doing great. I also interviewed my Great Grandmother for a paper I wrote and I am so glad I did because I have all her history written down to pass on someday.
Sorry for everything going on.
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| Posted 1/5/12 6:13 PM |
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CatNYC123
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So sorry to hear about this
agree with the other posters-
6 weeks given does not always mean 6 weeks. I have heard MANY stories where people live longer
keep that in perspective and try not to put too much pressure on reaching that goal "in time".
Im just sharing this with you from 2 years of TTC, we can all think of an "event" that we wanted to get pg before.. it adds a lot of stress to what is already a difficult time for you and dh,
I also want to say that I think its very sweet of you to want to do this for his grandfather and for DH. Really, its a wonderful gesture.
I totally understand where your coming from and Im sorry you're feeling this way-it's totally normal.
I hope you are feeling better soon!
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| Posted 1/5/12 6:56 PM |
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cantwait4baby
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Re: A sad vent...
so sorry to hear
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| Posted 1/5/12 7:21 PM |
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gina409
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Re: A sad vent...
so sorry
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| Posted 1/5/12 8:35 PM |
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butterfly20
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Re: A sad vent...
maybe try preeseed.
i had a relative given 6weeks and he lasted a year. you can never fully tell. but dont blaime youself. 2cycles isnt much time.
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| Posted 1/6/12 12:05 AM |
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Posted by Ellebelle1
This post makes me so sad about your grandpa.
Please do NOT blame yourself for waiting 3 years to try to get pregnant.
This is what you do. Please read...
I saw on this site that someone posted a grandparent book that you buy online. It is a book of questions to be filled out by the grandparent, so the child could know about grandpa later on in life. It looked really sweet
Thank you so much for this suggestion - I ordered the book last night! Grandpa lives out of state, so I had it shipped there, and I am sending out a card today telling him (without giving away what the gift is) that there is no pressure, and that any little bit will mean so much to us, and to our future. I also didn't tell DH that I sent this, so I can't wait for him to see it filled in!
This was a great, thank you again!!!
And thank you again to everyone for your kindness.
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| Posted 1/6/12 7:30 AM |
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