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WWYD, kids birthday party question.
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Lucky
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Re: WWYD, kids birthday party question.
I am confused by your question...you are having a kids party and questioning whether or not you should invite your brother and his children? I think I am missing something or misunderstanding the question.
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WhatNow
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Re: WWYD, kids birthday party question.
I would most definitely invite the brother's kids in these circumstances. Example: DH's brother has 2 kids, one is older, another - our son's age. The yongest one is ALWAYS invited to out son's kiddie party. The oldest is already too old for those and prefers not to come. 
I would think they should bring a gift whether they are invited to the kid's party or just for cake to the birthday boy's house.
And yes, I would be put off if I was the brother whose kids didn't get invited.
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Re: WWYD, kids birthday party question.
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I am confused by your question...you are having a kids party and questioning whether or not you should invite your brother and his children? I think I am missing something or misunderstanding the question.
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Re: WWYD, kids birthday party question.
Posted by greenybeans
No. It's the other way around. We were not invited to our niece and nephews birthday party. I was just wondering if it was the norm not to invite family.
We were invited (even to the kids parties) every year before we had kids. Now that we have kids they don't invite us, or them.
Could it be that they were over the limit with the classmates and figured you would come to the house for cake anyway and the kids will celebrate together there? That's one explanation I could think of.
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WhatNow
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Re: WWYD, kids birthday party question.
Posted by greenybeans
Posted by WhatNow
Posted by greenybeans
No. It's the other way around. We were not invited to our niece and nephews birthday party. I was just wondering if it was the norm not to invite family.
We were invited (even to the kids parties) every year before we had kids. Now that we have kids they don't invite us, or them.
Could it be that they were over the limit with the classmates and figured you would come to the house for cake anyway and the kids will celebrate together there? That's one explanation I could think of.
No. One was a bowling party, the other was at an art & craft place. They had 6-8 kids going from what MIL told me. Her and fil were invited.
Well, then it's just weird and I can't blame you for feeling as you do.
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Re: WWYD, kids birthday party question.
Posted by greenybeans
Posted by Lucky
I am confused by your question...you are having a kids party and questioning whether or not you should invite your brother and his children? I think I am missing something or misunderstanding the question.
No. It's the other way around. We were not invited to our niece and nephews birthday party. I was just wondering if it was the norm not to invite family.
We were invited (even to the kids parties) every year before we had kids. Now that we have kids they don't invite us, or them.
ETA: Not my brother. Dh's brother.
I did send a gift. I was upset though.
Oh, I get it now. I would be upset too! I don't think that's the norm at all.
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Re: WWYD, kids birthday party question.
I would be upset, too. That's odd.
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Re: WWYD, kids birthday party question.
I wouldn't think twice about inviting them - particularly if the kids the same age. I would think the kids feelings would be hurt so I'd make an exception for them.
When they're older, we started splitting school party with family parties - and there are times that we've had 4 GTGs to accommodate their friends, my familiy, DH's family & their godparents.
I'd be hurt but it wouldn't' be fatal. I get that adding other kids to the party - even relatives drives the cost up. Eventually the cousin winds up feeling left out when the school friends are together.
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Re: WWYD, kids birthday party question.
My kids cousins who are 2-3 yrs older than my son are always invited along with their two little brothers who are around my dds age. I do not invite the ones who are 5+ yrs older. The cousins are the most important guests other than siblings.
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Re: WWYD, kids birthday party question.
we invite them to both at our house and the place.
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Re: WWYD, kids birthday party question.
Posted by Lucky
Posted by greenybeans
Posted by Lucky
I am confused by your question...you are having a kids party and questioning whether or not you should invite your brother and his children? I think I am missing something or misunderstanding the question.
No. It's the other way around. We were not invited to our niece and nephews birthday party. I was just wondering if it was the norm not to invite family.
We were invited (even to the kids parties) every year before we had kids. Now that we have kids they don't invite us, or them.
ETA: Not my brother. Dh's brother.
I did send a gift. I was upset though.
Oh, I get it now. I would be upset too! I don't think that's the norm at all.
My sister's daughters are the same age as my brothers son and daughter and when they stopped invited their cousins, I was mad. I am still annoyed at my sister. She showed no effort to make them close and it drives me nuts. I am sorry you are dealing with this. My neices and nephew are now 14 and 16 and not very close.
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Re: WWYD, kids birthday party question.
The only acceptable reason for me to not invite would be distance. If they live more than 45 min-1 hour a way, I think it creates a different scenario.
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Posted by twicethefun
My sister's daughters are the same age as my brothers son and daughter and when they stopped invited their cousins, I was mad. I am still annoyed at my sister. She showed no effort to make them close and it drives me nuts. I am sorry you are dealing with this. My neices and nephew are now 14 and 16 and not very close.
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