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WannaBeAMom11
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How do you not tell people
Im not even 5 weeks and I want to tell everyone. Going to a family party and I have to refrain from saying anything or touching my stomach. It's going to be soooooo hard. Wahhhhhhh.
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Posted 8/26/12 9:30 AM  |
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springsandra
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How do you not tell people
If my great aunt is there, she'll look you in the eye and ask you point blank if you're pregnant. Then what do you do? You can't lie to someone who's like 80! And they can't keep their mouths shut!
My cousin's bar mitzvah became the perfect occasion apparently for her to tell the entire family I was pregnant. I was 8 weeks and we'd just been for our first appointment with the sono and hb the day before so I guess it was ok... It was kinda a relief to have her make the announcement instead of me... (She did it in the whole gossipy "did you hear" way so it quietly went from table to table... so much for my sprite and cranberry drink fooling anyone lol.)
Have fun at the party! If your secret gets out, it'll be ok. 
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| Posted 8/26/12 9:43 AM |
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DreamsofBaby
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How do you not tell people
We found out 3 days before Christmas so we have to get through Christmas eve with the in laws and Christmas day with my family! It was sooo hard!! We told our parents and siblings but not cousins etc. My uncle actually noticed that I was very quiet. I think I was afraid to talk to anyone! You can do it, stay strong!! It is the best feeling to tell people when the time is right and you know for sure everything is going well. Good luck!
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| Posted 8/26/12 10:02 AM |
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dexsmom
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Re: How do you not tell people
It is really hard in the beginning (I told most of my fam right away) but I find it is easier as time goes on.
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| Posted 8/26/12 10:21 AM |
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NYCGirl80
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Re: How do you not tell people
We told our families right away but waited on friends. To me, after TTC for so long, waiting another month or so to tell people didn't seem that hard. I much preferred just to wait and make sure everything with the baby was good.
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| Posted 8/26/12 3:38 PM |
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nancy6485
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Re: How do you not tell people
we didnt tell anyone until 8 week after our u/s, it was excrutiating!
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| Posted 8/26/12 4:05 PM |
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stargazerlily
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How do you not tell people
I had a much easier time than DH. I told my parents at about 8 weeks. I said we couldn't tell his until 10 because I knew what was going to happen.......he told them, and then he and they told everyone. I feel a little uncomfortable that the news is so out there but he was so excited. I personally don't care for attention so it was easy for me to keep it to myself. I can't wait for the baby to come so everyone stops looking at me...haha. (this is not a self esteem thing, i'm just more comfortable as the stage crew instead of the star if you know what I mean)
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| Posted 8/26/12 4:18 PM |
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GoodThoughts
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Re: How do you not tell people
I'm 16 weeks and we still haven't told anyone aside from my immediate family. It's been a rough pregnancy and we don't want to share the news until it's no longer possible to hide.
As for the comment about not being able to lie to an 80 year old: I have lied to older people...lol.
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| Posted 8/26/12 6:35 PM |
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islandersgirl74
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Re: How do you not tell people
We told our parents and siblings right away. But I have to say, for me it was very hard to not say anything to the rest of our family and friends. We were trying for what seemed to long I was just busting. We told everyone else at 10 weeks.
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| Posted 8/26/12 7:08 PM |
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3under3
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Re: How do you not tell people
The first time around we were trying for a while and I knew we were having twins so it was soooooo hard. We told my immediate family a very close friends pretty much right away. Then at 10 weeks started telling extended family and friends.
This time it is easier. I am more scared for whatever reason this time so I really didn't want to tell that many people. Only my immediate family and very close friends know and I am 10 weeks. I plan on starting to tell extended family next week bc my belly is big and people are starting to notice!
Hang in there! If you are really busting let yourself tell one close friend/family member a week and it will make it easier.
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| Posted 8/26/12 7:24 PM |
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gina409
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Re: How do you not tell people
Posted by NYCGirl80
We told our families right away but waited on friends. To me, after TTC for so long, waiting another month or so to tell people didn't seem that hard. I much preferred just to wait and make sure everything with the baby was good.
this..this was our 4th pregnancy..after losing the first and having to tell people we waited on the second and third and for us it is just what we had to do
holding it is was easier than having to tell people again
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| Posted 8/26/12 8:12 PM |
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noworlater
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Re: How do you not tell people
We told everyone as soon as we found out. We tried so hard not to but it was memorial weekend and everyone was around and we were too excited.
It ended up being a very difficult pregnancy and I later wish I waited. It all ended up okay and I now have my healthy baby boy 8 months old but next time I am definitely waiting at least 8 weeks for immediate family and later for others.
Either way it will be fun to tell them when you are ready. congrats!
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| Posted 8/26/12 8:34 PM |
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luvnlife
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Re: How do you not tell people
This is baby # 3 for us.
With DS #1 we told family after our first sonogram at 6 weeks. I had such bad MS and DH wasn't able to help (long story) so I needed help from family.
With DS #2 we told around 7 weeks after our 1st sonogram because again the MS and I wanted help with my first DS.
This time I'm 5 1/2 weeks and feeling pretty good still. Hoping by some miracle I don't have crazy MS this time. Our 1st appointment is at 8 weeks and I'm trying to hold out until then. We just had a family party and it was very hard not to tell everyone but it's only a few more weeks so I'm going to try keep it a secret.
A few of my close friends know because they knew we were TTC. When I get the urge to talk about it I call one of them.
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| Posted 8/27/12 5:19 AM |
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BeachMom
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Re: How do you not tell people
Posted by GoodThoughts
I'm 16 weeks and we still haven't told anyone aside from my immediate family. It's been a rough pregnancy and we don't want to share the news until it's no longer possible to hide.
As for the comment about not being able to lie to an 80 year old: I have lied to older people...lol.
Pretty, much same here. We didn't tell family till i was around 16 weeks. We wanted to wait to 18 for the sono to make sure everything was ok, but we had a big family party that I knew I couldn't hide it at so we wound up telling them at 16 weeks.
We had sooo many complications, recent mc and everything that we just didn't want everyone asking too many questions.
It was actually pretty easy, because in our case we weren't lying. No one would come out and ask if you were pregnant, so not telling them something there not asking about isn't a lie, IMO.
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| Posted 8/27/12 7:05 AM |
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WannaBeAMom11
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Re: How do you not tell people
Posted by BeachMom
Posted by GoodThoughts
I'm 16 weeks and we still haven't told anyone aside from my immediate family. It's been a rough pregnancy and we don't want to share the news until it's no longer possible to hide.
As for the comment about not being able to lie to an 80 year old: I have lied to older people...lol.
Pretty, much same here. We didn't tell family till i was around 16 weeks. We wanted to wait to 18 for the sono to make sure everything was ok, but we had a big family party that I knew I couldn't hide it at so we wound up telling them at 16 weeks.
We had sooo many complications, recent mc and everything that we just didn't want everyone asking too many questions.
It was actually pretty easy, because in our case we weren't lying. No one would come out and ask if you were pregnant, so not telling them something there not asking about isn't a lie, IMO.
Oh no my cousin asked if I was pregnant bc we were at a winery and I wasn't drinking. I just led and said I've been having Crohn's flare ups so I was off the hook. Using that for another family thing in 2 weeks.
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| Posted 8/27/12 7:12 AM |
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EBG10
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Re: How do you not tell people
it was hard.. we didn't tell our parents until after our first sono (between 8 & 9 weeks) & my mother was asking me every other day if i was pregnant
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| Posted 8/27/12 9:42 AM |
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AngnShaun
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How do you not tell people
actually it was not a problem for me... my mom on the other hand... probably told everyone shes ever met.
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| Posted 8/27/12 9:45 AM |
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moonmist09
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How do you not tell people
it wasn't a problem for me. i had a lot of bleeding issues early on during the pregnancy and we were too scared to tell anyone. we told our parents and siblings at 8½ weeks and we told one pair of friends at 13 weeks but no one else knows anything yet and i am 16 weeks now.
I guess when i start to show the jig will be up
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| Posted 8/27/12 10:02 AM |
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Sparrow
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Re: How do you not tell people
I didn't have a hard time either, with either pregnancy. I don't enjoy lots of attention so I actually kinda dislike telling people (outside of immediate family). I also feel like it's a private thing between DH and I and I telling 'everyone' sorta ruins that. We told our parents and siblings within the first week but waiting for everyone else until 12 weeks or longer. I'm 16 weeks and there are still a good number of people who don't know.
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| Posted 8/27/12 10:32 AM |
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ModDot
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How do you not tell people
I am waiting on my 3rd appt to officially come out. We've told people but it's not supposed to be public yet. Unfort. my mother has the biggest mouth in all of creation so we waited (smartly) to tell her at 12 weeks
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| Posted 8/27/12 10:34 AM |
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