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Michi
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Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
I KNOW this is beating a dead horse but I am torn on what to do in this situation. A friend of ours, not super close but more than an aquaintance got married in a destination wedding. We want to send them a gift but I am not sure if I should give them the same amount they gave us at our wedding (200.00) or if sending $100.00 is enough? They are definitely not having any type of wedding party here. Would you send the same amount to them or do you think $100.00 as a congrats on their wedding is enough?
ETA: I don't want to look cheap, but I also feel kinda weird sending them a check for 200.00 when we are not seeing them at any kind of reception or party..
Message edited 9/26/2012 7:27:18 PM.
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Jbon630
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Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
I think 100 is fine.
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| Posted 9/26/12 7:35 PM |
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A3CM
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Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
i would send them something off their registry... i usually only give money if i attend the wedding.
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| Posted 9/26/12 7:37 PM |
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Re: Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
I think $100 is fine.
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| Posted 9/26/12 7:38 PM |
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WannaBeAMom11
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Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
I would send something off registry or something from things remembered
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| Posted 9/26/12 8:12 PM |
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rsquared
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Re: Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
100 is fine.
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| Posted 9/26/12 8:13 PM |
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JME78
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Re: Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
I would give them what they gave you.
I don't think the gift should be dictated by the type of affair or lack of affair.
I would feel weird giving friends a gift for their marriage less than what they gave me for mine.
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gdubs
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Re: Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
Posted by JME78
I would give them what they gave you.
I don't think the gift should be dictated by the type of affair or lack of affair.
I would feel weird giving friends a gift for their marriage less than what they gave me for mine.
Agreed.
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Michi
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Re: Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
I would certainly give them something off their registry but they don't have one! LOL It can never be easy! Thanks for the advice everyone.
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MrsFrizzle
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Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
If you're not invited to the wedding or any type of celebration you're not obligated to buy a gift IMO. If it were me I would send them something off their registry or another sort of gift, something more personal than $$$
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Katareen
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Re: Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
Posted by gdubs
Posted by JME78
I would give them what they gave you.
I don't think the gift should be dictated by the type of affair or lack of affair.
I would feel weird giving friends a gift for their marriage less than what they gave me for mine.
Agreed.
I usually agree, but in this situation there was no celebration the OP was even invited to!
I think $100 is perfect.
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AidansArmy
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Re: Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
$100 is perfect.
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nferrandi
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Re: Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
Posted by JME78
I would give them what they gave you.
I don't think the gift should be dictated by the type of affair or lack of affair.
I would feel weird giving friends a gift for their marriage less than what they gave me for mine.
I may be in the minority, but I don't neccesarily agree. I do believe the type of wedding shoud play a roll. I wouldn't gift the same for a wedding here as opposed to a destination wedding- regardless of what was given to me. I also woud not give the same gift given to me if we weren't going to attend or if there was no party at all.
And just for the record, we've been married longer then almost all of our friends and have given almost everyone MORE then we were given. Does that mean they shoud now give me the difference?
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Sparrow
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Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
I would send $100, I think that's more than generous.
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PhyllisNJoe
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Re: Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
Posted by Katareen
Posted by gdubs
Posted by JME78
I would give them what they gave you.
I don't think the gift should be dictated by the type of affair or lack of affair.
I would feel weird giving friends a gift for their marriage less than what they gave me for mine.
Agreed.
I usually agree, but in this situation there was no celebration the OP was even invited to!
I think $100 is perfect.
Same here. The above statement usually rings true, but for this situation $100 with some well wishes in a card will do the trick. Instead of a check you can do a gift card. Either just a VIsa card or to somewhere they can use together.
If they plan on buying a home in the near future, a Home Depot card is like pure gold lol
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DiamondGirl
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Re: Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
Posted by JME78
I would give them what they gave you.
I don't think the gift should be dictated by the type of affair or lack of affair.
I would feel weird giving friends a gift for their marriage less than what they gave me for mine.
I agree. If you hadn't recently gotten married I would say $100 is fine for a wedding you cannot attend but since they attended your wedding I would match their gift.
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MrsFrizzle
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Re: Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
Posted by DiamondGirl
Posted by JME78
I would give them what they gave you.
I don't think the gift should be dictated by the type of affair or lack of affair.
I would feel weird giving friends a gift for their marriage less than what they gave me for mine.
I agree. If you hadn't recently gotten married I would say $100 is fine for a wedding you cannot attend but since they attended your wedding I would match their gift.
Maybe I misread it....but I dont think she was invited at all.
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Michi
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Re: Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
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Posted by JME78
I would give them what they gave you.
I don't think the gift should be dictated by the type of affair or lack of affair.
I would feel weird giving friends a gift for their marriage less than what they gave me for mine.
I agree. If you hadn't recently gotten married I would say $100 is fine for a wedding you cannot attend but since they attended your wedding I would match their gift.
Maybe I misread it....but I dont think she was invited at all.
They got married on a Cruise, they sent invites to over 200 people (same as u would do at a wedding here at home) and only family went as the price of the cruise was 5K.
So technically yes, we were invited but no one we know actually went. Hence my confusion. I appreciate all the advice everyone and with the mixed responses I feel validated in my own confusion. LOL I dont think there is really a right or wrong answer but I appreciate all the opinions.
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SnickNNick
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Re: Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
Posted by A3CM
i would send them something off their registry... i usually only give money if i attend the wedding.
Agreed!
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moonmist09
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Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
i think $100 is more than fine
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Re: Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
I would give them the same gift they gave me or what I could afford. Even more than they gave me if I was in a better financial position.
It's a congratulations and best wishes gift. Not an "I didn't get fed and watered gift so take less gift."
JMHO
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ANR1211
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Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
I think a lot of times when people have a destination wedding, since the price of going is so high, gifts are not expected. I would give $100 and think that is more than generous.
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jams92
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Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
$100 is totally fine
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BunnyWife
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Re: Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
100 bucks and a thoughtful small gift
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MySunshine
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Wedding Gift Question (dont kill me lol)
$100 is fine
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