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NewMrs7312
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guilt
I work part time and I own a business where we are in our busy season. I feel so guilty when I am at home with my daughter and need to get things done around the house. She is 6 months old and only really cat naps, so I don't have long stretches to get things done. Things around my house keep piling up because I feel so guilty if I'm not engaging with her. Does anyone else go through this? How do you get things done?
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Posted 6/8/14 4:41 PM  |
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alli3131
Peanut is here!!!!!!
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guilt
Get over it quick. I don't care about how my house looks or anything else. As long as we are safe and fed it's all good.
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| Posted 6/8/14 4:46 PM |
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NYCGirl80
I love my kiddies!
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Re: guilt
You'll learn to balance things better, particularly as your baby get older, you don't need to be entertaining all the time. DS is 16 months and is starting to play more on his own. I can sit at my computer and get work done in the same room as him playing. Or I can clean around him playing so I'm still with him, but splitting my time.
That being said, I've also had to become ok with things not being as clean and tidy as I'd like. Again, it's just a balance you'll find.
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| Posted 6/8/14 5:01 PM |
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NervousNell
Just another chapter in life..
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..being a mommy and being a wife!
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Re: guilt
I adhere to the sating, " A clean house is a sign of a wasted life".
Nobody ever died from a dirty house.
Nobody looks back on their deathbed and says , " damn I wish I had vacuumed more"
Message edited 6/8/2014 7:16:46 PM.
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| Posted 6/8/14 7:13 PM |
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jams92
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Re: guilt
Posted by NervousNell
I adhere to the sating, " A clean house is a sign of a wasted life".
Nobody ever died from a dirty house.
Nobody looks back on their deathbed and says , " damn I wish I had vacuumed more"
Ita
I have people over often and at first I always felt the need to have a clean house. I got over that and am ok having toys everywhere and dishes in the sink.
It does get easier as they get older but dd is 16 months and the house is still a mess. But now that she can play in her own and has a set bedtime things can get done
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| Posted 6/8/14 8:13 PM |
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WannaBeAMom11
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guilt
We straighten up as need be but if she's home we are interacting with her. My house isn't spotless but she's happy. We both work ft so we having working parents guilt.
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| Posted 6/8/14 8:33 PM |
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NASP09
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Re: guilt
I clean primarily when DS is asleep. Or if it's really bad I put him in a carrier while I vacuum. But my house is generally messy, but my kid is happy, so I don't really care
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| Posted 6/8/14 9:14 PM |
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NewMrs7312
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Re: guilt
Ok,,I feel better thanks! I think I'm putting too much pressure on myself to maintain everything the way I used to. I feel like there just aren't enough hours in the day!
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| Posted 6/8/14 9:29 PM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: guilt
I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum, I enjoy cleaning and I really can't tolerate when my house is a mess. I don't function in chaos so keeping things clean and organized is a priority for me because it helps me to function better day to day.
Therefore, I learned to just let my kids entertain themselves at times so I could get things done around the house. I also made a cleaning schedule so each day I'm only doing a little bit but that little bit keeps my house neat and organized all week. I straighten up throughout the day as I go back and forth through the house, I clean when they nap, and every night (after they are in bed) I make sure the toys are away, the sink is emptied, and everything is put away so that I start the day fresh.
I just found a way to work around my kids so that my house stays the way I like it. I spend a ton of time with my kids playing and having fun but I also find a a way to make the time to do the things I need to so I can function better. 
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| Posted 6/8/14 9:33 PM |
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melbalalala
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Re: guilt
Posted by Hofstra26
I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum, I enjoy cleaning and I really can't tolerate when my house is a mess. I don't function in chaos so keeping things clean and organized is a priority for me because it helps me to function better day to day.
Therefore, I learned to just let my kids entertain themselves at times so I could get things done around the house. I also made a cleaning schedule so each day I'm only doing a little bit but that little bit keeps my house neat and organized all week. I straighten up throughout the day as I go back and forth through the house, I clean when they nap, and every night (after they are in bed) I make sure the toys are away, the sink is emptied, and everything is put away so that I start the day fresh.
I just found a way to work around my kids so that my house stays the way I like it. I spend a ton of time with my kids playing and having fun but I also find a a way to make the time to do the things I need to so I can function better.
Could have written this word for word. I work PT and on the days I'm home with them, we have a schedule that fits in time for me to clean things up a bit. For example, wake, eat breakfast, mommy cleans while kids play, when Mommy is done she can play with you... (my kids are 1 and 3.5)
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| Posted 6/9/14 9:02 AM |
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IVFmiracle
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Re: guilt
I totally understand your feelings on this matter. I know my attitude isn't the same when my house isn't clean and organized. Everything from dust bunnies to loads of dirty laundry makes my blood boil and then everyone suffers because I am not fun to be around.
I am currently a SAHM so I welcome the 5-6 hours a week where I can just get my chores done, but if I go back to work it has already been agreed upon that we will have a cleaning service come in. This way I can spend time with my DD and don't have to worry about quite so many things around the house evenings and weekends.
I have always liked to clean my way but I know time with my family is more important than the cleaning being done in a specific way.
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| Posted 6/9/14 10:33 AM |
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ml110
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Re: guilt
Posted by NervousNell
I adhere to the sating, " A clean house is a sign of a wasted life".
Nobody ever died from a dirty house.
Nobody looks back on their deathbed and says , " damn I wish I had vacuumed more"
so, so true!!! and I SO needed to read this! I'm a SAHM to a 3.5 year old boy. we have no family close by to take him once in awhile- so hes always around, DH and I get very little time without him. and hes our only child so he wants me to play with him ALL the time, or to take him places to keep him busy. he does go to preschool 2 mornings a week... but that's the only time I get to fit in my "me" time, and get the cleaning/house stuff done, etc. its not enough, and I never get ahead.
BUT after reading that, I realized it doesn't matter. I'd rather spend my time enjoying my son, doing things with him and just enjoying life. the dust bunnies can wait.
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| Posted 6/9/14 2:41 PM |
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srella22
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guilt
spend time with her and try to get over the rest...i work full time and from the moment i get home to the time i leave i do as much with him as I can....my ds is two now so its a little easier to get certain things done because he'll be my "helper" and actually enjoys it...i also got into the habit of cleaning up immediately after finishing something...ie cooking - ill clean as i cook so its no too terrible afterwards....dh also helps me out....you will get into a routine adventually
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| Posted 6/10/14 2:13 PM |
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