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with my wedding registry, this happened alot and then we got phone calls saying "omg i accidentally sent the gift to your house!!" I know macy's automatically checks off the "ship to registrant" box, and I think BBB might do the same

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I agree with the above poster I got like 10 things to my house before my shower and then my aunt completed our registry for us so the week before my wedding I got another 11 boxes of stuff it is quite common most stuff for my shower that was shipped was larger stuff!

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I just bought a gift for a baby shower. I bought the gift online and I almost got it sent to the mommy to be my accident because it was checked off by default. I can easily see how people could do it by accident.

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I hate shopping in store. I am also incredibly lazy. Last bridal shower I went to, I shopped online and sent the gift directly to the bride. Honestly it made my life so much easier. One less thing for me to do that week. I shopped online early and got my pick of gifts. If I had waited like I normally do, I would have been rushing around the morning of the shower. I did not bring a card to the shower, saw no reason. I had enclosed a gift card with the shipment.

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This is what I don't get - aren't many showers a "surprise?" So isn't sending the gift to the house ruining the surprise?

This happened when my sister had her shower and it really upset my Mom. She couldn't understand why people would do this. She felt like people just didn't want to be bothered wrapping or carrying a gift.

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my sisters baby shower is coming up real soon and she has received some gifts to her home. Most were from people who could not attend and a few were from people who bought larger items and didn't want to carry them to the restaurant.

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I imagine there could be a few reasons. Are the four people connected? I could, for example, envision this scenario happening:

Four first cousins are talking and wondering when the snow is going to stop. They say, "Hey, let's ship our gifts in case there's a snowstorm, and we can't make it."

I know that is a very specific scenario, but perhaps something to that effect happened.

It could also be an error. Why not mail them a thank you card now, which, if it is an error, alert them to that error?

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The store has your address listed as the default for shipping, so if someone orders something online from your registry, it will automatically be shipped to you unless they check off that it should be shipped to them. Happened to me last year. I had no idea because I typed in my address for the card information, so I assumed it would be sent to me.

Honest mistake. I don't think your guests are being lazy at all. But if their names are on the packages, I'd call them to let them know the gifts arrived at your house, because they're probably looking for them.

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My NJ shower was yesterday and my local showers in a week and the only gifts sent to my house so far was from people who cannot attend and my godmother whose taking the LIRR out.

But my moms had a bunch shipped to her, both people attending and not attending and they had to consciously put her address in to do that. My mom even had a friend attending bring it over to dinner last month, I don't know what the difference is between bringing it then or to the shower. My moms taking all these gifts to the shower.

But a new trend is to not open gifts at the shower. So maybe these people have been to a few showers like that and figure why bother.

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We had to travel for our shower so many people sent us our gifts in advance. I personally preferred it. It's such a pain to lug everything back and forth. Most people gave us a card at the shower with a smaller gift (stuffed animal, book, etc).

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This happened at my bridal shower with my family who lives in Manhattan. They're used to doing it this way so that the bride doesn't have to figure out how to lug all her gifts home from the restaurant. So maybe your shower guests were thinking along those lines, that it's just easier to have the gift sent to you at your house? It also gets them out of wrapping it and lugging it to the shower location themselves.

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I'd just thank them as normal with a thank you card. who cares if its there, before or after? Its not like you invite them to your shower specifically for gifts but to celebrate your upcoming baby. Gifts are never an expectation in my mind. I think most here including yourself are the same.

Now the OTHER guests who choose to whisper behind their backs how rude it is to show up without a gift la-di-da.. well that will have to be handled by the person who sent the gifts. They can say "i sent mine earlier" or not. You could say 'oh this goes with what so-and-so sent earlier' or not. Its not your responsibility.

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I had one person do this but she was traveling bh mass transit. It's odd they wouldn't just bring it.

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I had a few of the older guests do this so they wouldn't have to carry something heavy to the shower... also some ordered it online & just had it shipped to me instead of to themselves. I had no problem with it! It made things easier for me because it was less to transport home.

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I considered shipping a gift last summer because it would have been easier for me to travel without it. I did attend the party and ended up bring the gift

I did buy the gift at Macys and they give you the option of shipping esp if the couple puts down a mailing address.

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The only thing that comes to mind is, who cares? Maybe I'm weird but I wouldn't have given this a second thought

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If I am coming from out of state I will ship the gift ahead of time and bring a card with a photo of said gift. This way I don't have to lug it around and if the recipient is opening presents she can "show" the gift I gave. No one does surprise showers in our circle of friends and family.

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ive done this a few times when either traveling for showers or buying awkward sized gifts. I always bring a card with a picture of what I bought inside.

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as others have said, i think its because the registry defaults to your address for shipping. But, i also know before i had kids, i hated stepping foot in a baby store so i would always just ship the gifts to the recipient

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Yes! I was wondering the same thing.

My MIL bought all of our furniture so obviously it was all shipped to our house. But I started getting other things...smaller items sent to the house from people who are 100% coming to my shower. I asked a friend about it and she acted as if it's something everyone does. It's really not though! LOL. Never have I done it before or heard of anyone else doing this!

I plan on sending them a thank you when I send them to everyone else. According to my friend, you bring a card with a print out of what you bought, no matter how big or small the items. LOL. OK!

ETA: They were NOT sent to me by mistake.

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Posted by J9-13

Yes! I was wondering the same thing.

My MIL bought all of our furniture so obviously it was all shipped to our house. But I started getting other things...smaller items sent to the house from people who are 100% coming to my shower. I asked a friend about it and she acted as if it's something everyone does. It's really not though! LOL. Never have I done it before or heard of anyone else doing this!

I plan on sending them a thank you when I send them to everyone else. According to my friend, you bring a card with a print out of what you bought, no matter how big or small the items. LOL. OK!

ETA: They were NOT sent to me by mistake.

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I think it's normal. Many gifts were shipped to us from guests who still came to my shower/wedding. So many people do online shopping nowadays that maybe they just wanted it to go straight to you. Also when you're registered and you order something online, it already lists your address to be shipped. So instead of changing the address to be shipped to their own house it's easier to just follow through the registry with your address and be done with it.

The one thing we didn't like was someone who didn't ship the heavy waffle maker but instead brought it to our wedding!