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05mommy09
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Am I overreacting??
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Message edited 2/21/2006 9:01:43 PM.
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Posted 9/21/05 2:16 PM  |
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Re: Am I overreacting??
You are totally NOT OVERREACTING!!! DH and I feel the same way! there is no way we would want to entertain people. Why do people expect this? To me that is soo rude to impose like that on a husband and wife who just had a baby.
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| Posted 9/21/05 2:19 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Am I overreacting??
Dont get me wrong this is not his extended family imposing at all...
This is my MIL making everything about HER family as usual! They may not even be coming...but she sure as he!! is trying to get them here!
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| Posted 9/21/05 2:21 PM |
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CookiePuss
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Re: Am I overreacting??
I don't think you are overreacting at all. You and DH shouldn't be expected to "host" family members from out of town after giving birth to your first child! You are going to be exhausted and adjusting to all the changes going on. You don't need people waking you and the baby up during naps because they are walking around.
Your MIL should have the family members stay with her. That way they can come and visit for a little while and then leave!
Remind everyone to bring you food too...You won't want to cook either.
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| Posted 9/21/05 2:21 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Am I overreacting??
The wont be "sleeping" here... but Im sure them and the 4 children will be here everyday all day!
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| Posted 9/21/05 2:22 PM |
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Crazeddiva
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Re: Am I overreacting??
I do not think you are overreacting at all. You def need time alone with your DH and new baby. I think your MIL is very nervy to think that she can just invite people to your house.
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| Posted 9/21/05 2:39 PM |
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momAGAIN
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Re: Am I overreacting??
I dont think you are overreacting at all. This happened to me when i had my daughter , yes its nice to have visitors but after a while you get tired and want them to leave! Company gets to be a bit much when you have a new baby...good luck 
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| Posted 9/21/05 2:52 PM |
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stepherg
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Re: Am I overreacting??
I don't think you are overreacting at all. Tell them that the Dr. doesn't want children around the baby unless they are a sibling (which they aren't) because most kids carry germs...Also let them know that they must CALL FIRST and if you aren't up to it, then they can't come in.
I had 8 family members here on the day of my arrival home with the baby...they just showed up and were in the driveway when we pulled in. It was VERY overwhelming and I wanted to tell them all to go home, but my DH felt bad that they were trying to be nice. Screw everyone!! It's your time for you, DH and the baby and you will need some time to adjust.
Good luck..hope all works out!
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| Posted 9/21/05 2:54 PM |
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Shelly
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Re: Am I overreacting??
i don't think so at all. I don't want anyone in my house all day (but my mom and MIL) when I have a new baby. If you want to breast feed you don't want an audience, especially kids.
I would talk to your MIL or the BIL and explain that you are so happy that they are coming to celebrate such a special occassion adn you look forward to them spending the Ryan's first few days with him. And you thank them in advance for being so understanding and respectful of your need for privacy. You're sure they remember what an adjustment it is to have a new baby and you have heard horror stories about how in pain and sore you will be for the first few days. You are so happy they will be there for a few hours to visit (like visiting hours at a hospital) and appreciate them giving you and DH the privacy you need. Especially since you will be trying to sleep whenever you can grab some time.
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| Posted 9/21/05 4:50 PM |
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monkeybride
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Re: Am I overreacting??
I don't think you're overreacting. I am having some of the same concerns. I was hoping for some alone time with DH and the baby before we had to "share" her but now its looking like my in laws will be here when she's being born if I don't go into labor soon.
I love my in laws but I think its just a natural instinct to want to be with your husband and baby for a little bit without a parade of people.
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| Posted 9/21/05 4:53 PM |
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Jenziba
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Re: Am I overreacting??
I don't think you're overreacting...I would feel the exact same way you do.
I'm going through something very similar right now...my MIL wants to take off and come stay with us for a week when the baby is born...ummmmm...I'm not so sure I want any overnight visitors...and I don't really need the help...I've got my mom and sisters who live in PA with me...
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| Posted 9/21/05 5:20 PM |
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