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never mind..... I am just done...

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OK, I am a little confused.........he refused the crackers when you offered them at 3, but took them possibly 15 minutes later when your mom offered them?

Honestly, it sounds almost like your pissed that you are not totally in control of the situation, and not necessarily the whole food thing itself.

And isn't Johnny Rockets all fast food?

I know it's tough because DS goes through phases too where it's hard to get him to eat anything super healthy.

I think this is more of just being a young child and not necessarily an eating issue. JMO.

I also think that having a child with special needs IS a family affair, and often different strategies are required to work with them. If you continue to have the thought that "YOU" are in charge (which is how your posts frequently read), you are going to burn out pretty quickly and take out a lot of stuff on family that's not necessarily their fault.

Sorry if this sounds super harsh.

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How do I get my family members...

I understand that you are upset by this but everyone on this board is VERY sympathetic and most of us have gone through all the same or at least sort of the same issues.

Food issues are HUGE with our kids and getting them to eat right is close to impossible but still needs to be taught. I don't know if you work or if you are home with your son but maybe you need to be more strict with what you leave out for him to eat. Put everything in portions. Don't leave the whole can of crackers out, put them in 1/2 can baggies. If you are leaving your son with someone then plan out every single thing he needs to eat during the day with the exact portions. If he eats he eats, if he doesn't then he doesn't and then you can deal with it when you get home.

We had issues when DD was smaller with choking and things needed to be certain textures and sizes for her to eat. She would ask for things that she would choke on and people would give them to her not knowing. I ended up never leaving her with anyone because no matter how much they loved her they could not follow the rules. For the first 5 years of her life she was never without me for more than 2 hours at a time. You need to tell them again the rules and if they do not follow through then do not leave your son with them.

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It sounds like there are bigger issues going on than just having a special needs child.

Perhaps you should talk to someone face to face and not depend on people on a message board to always agree with you.

I also think the PP made some good recommendations.

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I will talk face to face with you if you want.

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I wasn't talking about me.

I remember some of your posts in the past and it seems like you have a lot on your plate.

I meant someone professional, like a therapist or someone who runs a support group.

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Having a child with severe feeding issues is extremely stressful, especially when family is more of a detriment than a help. I speak from experience here.

Hopefully we can continue to use this board for help and advice rather than ridicule.

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