How do you deal with certain questions from people

Easter is coming up and I'm going to see a lot of my family. I know I'll be sad because this is when we would have announced my pregnancy. I'm dreading for anyone to ask me if we want to have another child (I have a 16 month old)
I am okay with talking about my loss but I'm not sure how to approach this, I don't want to make anyone feel bad for asking or for it to seem like I'm looking for some grand sympathy, but I don't want to pretend it didn't happen either. How do you talk to people about it?

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I don't think there is any right or wrong way to approach it. If you feel like you are at a place where you are ok to talk about it, then you should do that.
For me, I would be ok with sharing about my loss if anyone were to ask about having a baby and then follow it up with a positive outlook going forward. I think that will help people from feeling bad about asking and show them that while you were obviously sad about it, you are keeping your spirts up.

How do you deal with certain questions from people

I don't have any children, but most of my family know about my losses, and my grandmother dealt with IF back when she was trying (took her 3 years to get preggo with her first, then popped out 4 in 5), so I really don't get a lot of questions... I just typically drink .... A lot.

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I think you should just answer them in whatever way makes you comfortable. If they don't like your answer, well too bad on them for asking such a personal question.

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We visited my ILs 2 weeks after my later loss to meet my new niece -- trip planned before I was pregnant/before I MC and it was when we planned to announce. I had my DH tell his family about our loss in advance because I wanted them to be sensitive knowing it would be a very difficult time for me (especially under the specific circumstances) and because I didnt want to field nonstop questions about when we would be having another, which is what happened the last time we were around a lot of his family a few months earlier. Nobody acknowledged my loss at all which was a little weird but better than the alternative and they talked about all of my DH pregnant HS friends in front of me which was a bit difficult for me but I drank A LOT of wine and made the best of it.

I mc again the day before thanksgiving. At thanksgiving one of my cousins commented on how amazing my DS was and made a comment along the lines of when are we going to have another? I knew she meant well and didnt have the heart to make her feel bad, so I just said "not yet" and made a big show of gulping down the rest of the wine I was holding

Edit: I have become a lot more open about my losses as time has gone on. But still depends on the person, circumstances in which it comes up, and a lot of other factors

Message edited 3/31/2014 10:53:16 AM.

How do you deal with certain questions from people

I cant take the i feel bad for you look so i only told my inlaws they are good at changing the subject and i didnt tell anyone else with the exception if my cousin who i tell everything to. She is also pregnant and due soon which i am incredibly happy about so i dont want my family to feel akward talking about her and the baby in front if me. I plan on starting my easter (also was going to be our big reveal day) with a mimosa follwed by lots of deep breaths and prayers to god for what i do have.