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LuckyStar
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Telling Friends
Hi ladies! I wanted to get an outside opinion on this because I can't decide what to do...
I have 2 best friends who do not know I'm preggers. I love them both to death, but both of them, especially one in particular have really big mouths. I am not comfortable with the whole world knowing yet and I am 99.9% sure this one friend will be telling anyone who has ever met me. Even telling her not to say anything will only ensure she will begin the news with "she doesn't want anyone to know yet, but....."
The 3 of us are having dinner this week. I want to tell them but I don't want this getting out. I'm 14 weeks today though and I'm not sure how much longer I can hide it from them. Quite honestly, I couldn't really blame them for being hurt if I wait much longer- I'd be upset if they hid something like this from me (though I know when to shut up).
Sorry, this ended up being kind of long. Anyone want to give an unbiased opinion?
Thank you, as always
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Posted 6/23/15 11:33 AM |
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JDubs
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Re: Telling Friends
If you are not ready for everyone to know then I would not tell them. They shouldn't get mad/be upset at you for this especially if you are not comfortable with letting anyone know yet.
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Posted 6/23/15 12:02 PM |
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jessnbrian
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Telling Friends
I agree. This is no one's choice but your own, and everyone is ready at different points. We announced to "everyone" by 16 weeks, but I know plenty of people who wait until 24 weeks, after the anatomy scan.
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Posted 6/23/15 12:44 PM |
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Re: Telling Friends
Don't tell them if you're not comfortable with everyone knowing. There's NOTHING wrong with keeping it secret and your friends should be understanding of that. With this pregnancy I had told my mom and sisters early on because they can keep a secret. MIL, on the other and, who I am VERY close with cannot. When she gets excited, she talks to people. It was torture to not tell her what was going on (especially since I needed her to watch DD during secretive Dr appointments. lol). I was ready to tell everybody once 1st trimester ended, so I made sure she was the first to be part of that reveal and she was so happy for me. Totally understanding of why I didn't say anything earlier.
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Posted 6/23/15 3:54 PM |
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MrsD121011
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Telling Friends
If they are blabbermouths even though you love them keep it hush hush until you are ready for the world to know.
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Posted 6/23/15 3:57 PM |
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NYCGirl80
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Just tell them right before you "go public." But at 14w, you may be ready for everyone to know anyway.
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Posted 6/24/15 9:27 AM |
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