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mommy2be716
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Re: MIL vent/question.. UPDATE on pg 2
Posted by LiveItUp
Posted by mommy2be716
OMG it gets worse... I went to the place my mom booked for my shower to discuss the menu, and my MIL asked to come. We assumed that meant she was going to offer to help, but instead she took over the appt and inquired about having her daughter's (my SIL) bridal there THE WEEKEND BEFORE mine.
My shower is in May, due in July. Her daughter's wedding is in Sept. I don't understand why the shower needs to be four months early???? Luckily, she was not a fan of the price at the place and they did not have the date available... My mom is now even more upset that she came, made it about her child's shower, and still did not offer any help!
Wow, so tacky and rude! Sounds like she only went with you in the hopes they'd give her a discount for her daughters shower.
Yeah that's exactly what she did. My mom is really annoyed, and I am just so disappointed and embarrassed in my MIL. I want to remain neutral on both sides, but it's impossible to at this point. She has had numerous opportunities to express her excitement/want to help us out, and has continually proven that she is just all about herself and her family.
I think that if she doesn't offer any help at all, my mom plans to call her and suggest that she cut down her list because it is just too expensive to pay for all of those people.
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b2b777
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Re: MIL vent/question.. UPDATE on pg 2
Posted by LiveItUp
Posted by mommy2be716
OMG it gets worse... I went to the place my mom booked for my shower to discuss the menu, and my MIL asked to come. We assumed that meant she was going to offer to help, but instead she took over the appt and inquired about having her daughter's (my SIL) bridal there THE WEEKEND BEFORE mine.
My shower is in May, due in July. Her daughter's wedding is in Sept. I don't understand why the shower needs to be four months early???? Luckily, she was not a fan of the price at the place and they did not have the date available... My mom is now even more upset that she came, made it about her child's shower, and still did not offer any help!
Wow, so tacky and rude! Sounds like she only went with you in the hopes they'd give her a discount for her daughters shower.
WOW this woman sounds like a piece of work. At this point i would have DH say something to her, about how is embarrassed by her behavior.
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mrsg121314
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Re: MIL vent/question.. UPDATE on pg 2
Posted by mommy2be716
OMG it gets worse... I went to the place my mom booked for my shower to discuss the menu, and my MIL asked to come. We assumed that meant she was going to offer to help, but instead she took over the appt and inquired about having her daughter's (my SIL) bridal there THE WEEKEND BEFORE mine.
My shower is in May, due in July. Her daughter's wedding is in Sept. I don't understand why the shower needs to be four months early???? Luckily, she was not a fan of the price at the place and they did not have the date available... My mom is now even more upset that she came, made it about her child's shower, and still did not offer any help!
This is just tacky. Part of me can't help but wonder if she went and asked just to see if your mom was exaggerating about the price per person or something. It's just ridiculous.
I did find out, through my mom, that my MIL wants to buy the furniture for the nursery. However... our nursery furniture just consists of the crib since we are just refinishing the dresser we already have. I still didn't get a confirmation from my mom that MIL is contributing $$$ but I do know my mom is putting her name on the invite.
I hope your mom puts her foot down and tells MIL to cut her list or cough up the cash. -- Obviously a lot nicer than that --
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JDubs
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Re: MIL vent/question.. UPDATE on pg 2
My mother paid for my shower but MIL did buy our crib. I know that my coworker who recently threw a shower for her daughter told the MIL that she could only afford up to a certain amount of people because the MIL wanted to invite all of her friends so she said this is what I can do, if you want to contribute for them then you are welcome to invite them... although I know this may be uncomfortable for some to bring up. If its really bothering you guys then I think its up to your DH to bring this up to his mom, like hey mom would you be able to help out with the favors, etc.
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FirstMate
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Re: MIL vent/question.. UPDATE on pg 2
Posted by MrsG823
My MIL bought a gift off of my registry--it was about $100. She did absolutely nothing special for me or my dd--DH just shrugged it off so at least your DH acknowledges his mother's behavior is unexpected.
This for me as well. She actually just gave me a gift card because there was nothing left that she "wanted" to buy - even though some big ticket items were left on the registry.
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| Posted 2/2/16 2:02 PM |
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JME78
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Re: MIL vent/question.. UPDATE on pg 2
I just would not worry about it. You can't control other people's behaviors so its not worth stressing about.
I went into my first pregnancy knowing that we chose to get pregnant so it was on us to provide everything. Yes we got gifts, but by not having any expectations, it was nice to be surprised and appreciative of it all.
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| Posted 2/2/16 6:10 PM |
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2BadSoSad
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Re: MIL vent/question.. UPDATE on pg 2
My MIL split with my mom and bother MIL and SIL went to my moms to help with CP's favors, etc. Then my MIL threw me a 2nd surprise shower upstate with her family who couldn't make it down to mine. My parents bought the furniture.
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