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Re: A selfish and greedy question for you:

I would say yes, his parents treat us equally, but that's because they put an equal amount of zero thought into what they are going to buy us.

As for my parents, they definitely spend more money on me than on JT, however, they still spend a ridiculous amount of money on JT. I told my mom she spends too much on the two of us, but she doens't want to listen.

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yes.

My MIL & FIL usually give us a very generous couple's gift (GC to Ruth's Chris, money towards our cruise, etc)

and BILs/SILs usually geet us a couple's gift too (GC for a restaurant) or stuff that usually costs the same for both of us.

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My parents and sister are much more generous towards Rich than his family is to me.

They're just cheap people....why shop at Bloomies when you can shop at Sears kinda people.

Yeah, its a little annoying. I always end up returning everything anyway. One year, I lost some weight so she bought me an XS sweater....WHAT? I was an XS at birth, and never again. Last year, she realized that the XS wasn't a good idea, so she bought an XL. And I couldn't even return it, because she bought it in MARCH!

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I'd say yes...both sets of parents treat us equally...

my parents usually get us together gifts that we can use (gc to places to shop or eat because they know we can't afford it) and DH parents do some together gifts and then seperate gifts....sometimes those are useless or dumb and others are from our lists (last year I got the sizzix machine and the xyron machine)

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My parents treat us equally. For years, when I was single, I always got more gifts than my brothers because my mom would get an equal amount of $$ for each kid, but it would be split among my brothers and their spouses. My mom hasn't been well the last couple years, so we now get gift cards. Last year DH and I got gift cards for equal amounts of $$.

In DH's family we do secret santa so I only buy one gift for whichever member of the family I choose. It's easier that way. I had my SIL and DH had his mom this year.

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On a side note, my mother has been known to wrap empty boxes just so my sister and I feel like we have an equal amount of gifts She's going crazy this year because even though she spends an even amount of money on us, she bought my sister and her husband a new china hutch for their kitchen, and that was it, but I wanted clothes, so she's freaking out that my sister has nothign to open on Christmas Like we're 5 or something.

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Posted by prncssrachel

On a side note, my mother has been known to wrap empty boxes just so my sister and I feel like we have an equal amount of gifts She's going crazy this year because even though she spends an even amount of money on us, she bought my sister and her husband a new china hutch for their kitchen, and that was it, but I wanted clothes, so she's freaking out that my sister has nothign to open on Christmas Like we're 5 or something.

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Well, I've already been warned that starting next year we'll get NOTHING and the baby will get EVERYTHING. I'll be opening quite a few empty boxes next year

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Posted by prncssrachel

Well, I've already been warned that starting next year we'll get NOTHING and the baby will get EVERYTHING. I'll be opening quite a few empty boxes next year

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After thinking about it, my mom is the best, makes sure DH and I are taken care of. He is one of her kids now and she makes sure he has as much as my brother and I under the tree. My dad, being that he's in Florida, just sends us a check, for both of us. DH'd family, they are a little weird. It changes every year, one year they treat me equal to DH, the next year I get less, then last year I got more than him...I guess it depends if I was a good DIL/SIL each year!!

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yes on all accounts

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no, my fmaily doesnt treat him equally.

yes, his family treats us equally

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yes, both of our families treat us equally

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i think my fil's are more generous to me then my parents are to fh.

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yes, they treat us equally. They are always so good to us

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My parents treat my DH like he was their own son. Tons and tons of gifts...new clothes, coats, gift certificates, cologne. My FIL is very generous and my MIL is unpredictable. You never know what you're going to get.

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Posted by Diane

yes, they treat us equally. They are always so good to us

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My mothers goes crazy for him, his mother hardly buys anyone a gift
Also, when he was little, he never believed in Santa, he never even knew who he was
Which is very weird IMO....

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my parents treat us pretty equally

my IL's don't -- i get more in quantity

boosh gets the better quality

all adds up

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My in-laws are usually fair in that DH and I either both get cruddy gifts or good gifts!!

It often is that we get a big gift that DH wants though - like he already told me that his parents are getting "US" a computer dump drive this year - I was like - hope you enjoy your gift, being that I didn't even know what it was!!

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In the past, it's always been unequal with my IL's, I don't know if that will change this year since we're married...

My mom has given us about equal since we've gotten engaged, and my dad does the same (mostly because this caused a huge issue with my mom, and my step-mom with my grandmother giving MUCH MORE to my dad than her DIL).

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We are both the youngest of 6 and get 1 gift each, from his parents and 1 each from my mom (dad is deceased). I don't exepct or want any more than that.

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Yes DH's parents are totally equal with us but we usually just get money because we never know what we want but for birthdays and such we both get the same amount as well. They treat me as if I was their own which is a great feeling. I wouldn't like to be made to feel like I wasn't a part of their family. They are the same way with their son in law.
My mom is on a very fixed income so she tries to do something for both of us within what she can afford but she does everything she can to make DH feel like part of my family.