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Danamz
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Re: Opinions on this one please
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Message edited 4/14/2012 8:07:29 PM.
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Posted 12/5/11 10:15 AM  |
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kimbalina
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Re: Opinions on this one please
I would not go or give a git for a 3rd shower. In no way would I host one either.
I can understand a SMALL sprinkle if it is a few years inbetween and a different sex for the 2nd baby. But to have a 3rd shower is just too much. I certainly would never do a registry either.
Yes all babies should be celebrated, but I don't think that means having another full blown shower (or sprinkle for #3).
I would be giving a gift when the baby is born to celebrate it's birth.
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| Posted 12/5/11 11:21 AM |
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jellybean78
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Re: Opinions on this one please
I don't understand why this is such a big deal. IDK maybe because I'm Hispanic we throw showers for each kid. Granted the first shower is the biggest but each other pregnancy gets a smaller shower. Maybe it's just me but I would buy a gift regardless if it's your 1st kid or your 10th kid so I don't see what the big deal is. It's a party...if you're not paying for the party then whats the issue? If it's really someone you are close to wouldn't you buy them a gift regardless of the number of kids they have anyway? So whats the difference of buying them a gift and giving to them say at the hospital then at a party?
ETA: Wait why were you asked to host a shower? Sorry but thats pretty ballsy. I have no problem with multiple showers but the person hosting and throwing them should be the person whose idea it was. If I were you I would just say no you can't host but you will be happy to attend.
Message edited 12/5/2011 11:55:36 AM.
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| Posted 12/5/11 11:53 AM |
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MrsMo
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Re: Opinions on this one please
Posted by Danamz
Posted by MrsMo
Posted by MelToddJulia
My mom gave me a 3rd shower, this baby was a total surprise and I gave everything away to friends from my other pregnancies, my DD is 6 and my son is 3 1/2, so I did need new things. My shower was small only very close friends and family. I don't think theres anything wrong in celebrating each birth, if you don't like it then don't go!
ETA: I had a registry too, with somethings on it that I really needed!
ITA! I dont understand why ppl get so offended about having showers for subsequent pregnancies, especially when others throw it for u. Of course i dont see the point in it being as extravagant as the first, but the bottom line is that you will always need new things for new babies so why not. I actually grew up accustomed to showers for every baby.The norm in my culture
I edited my original post so as not to offend, plus I didn't think anyone else was going to respond.
I was actually asked to host someone's 3rd shower.
The family gave the first one, then asked another friend to host the second (which she did everything for), now they are asking me...
In my culture this is not the norm and my opinion is that it is excessive.
I don't get "offended" by other people throwing them, and for the 3rd time mom-to-be who could blame her for accepting.. who wouldn't want to be showered with gifts for each kid?
BUT I am not big on the idea of hosting a 3rd time shower, or even attending one.
Please don't confuse this with celebrating every baby, and giving a gift when the baby is born, which I think is nice... I just do not like being asked (or asking others) to purchase big items or any items off a registry for each kid... of course there are some extenuating circumstances.
I understand some of you are not bothered by the whole idea and if you have 3rd, 4th, etc. showers yourselves that is fine, but I'm sure it's not expected right?
And I'm sure you wouldn't be offended by others who don't want to partake or would rather not host it for you - right?
No I dont think it should be expected and i agree with the previous poster that mentioned that it should be someone volunteering to do it for you. I wouldnt throw myself or actually ask someone to throw me one.
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