6 millionth spinoff to SAHM

Ok...I need someone to shed a light as to why it's bad to be a working Mom????

Here's why I ask... My Mom worked. She was AMAZING! She was there for us anytime we needed her regardless of working 20 miles away for a big corporation. She worked for us...to put food on the table, a roof over our heads. She helped with homework, she cared and guided us through EVERYTHING. I'd like to think I turned out Ok!

BUT...My MIL feels it's HORRIBLE to be a working Mom. Now...just so you know...she worked...
When I told her that I would be going back to work once we had children she just about had a heart attack...no kidding. She proceeded to tell me how both of her Daughters are SAHM...Ok...good for them.

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Posted by lorich

Ok...I need someone to shed a light as to why it's bad to be a working Mom????

Here's why I ask... My Mom worked. She was AMAZING! She was there for us anytime we needed her regardless of working 20 miles away for a big corporation. She worked for us...to put food on the table, a roof over our heads. She helped with homework, she cared and guided us through EVERYTHING. I'd like to think I turned out Ok!

BUT...My MIL feels it's HORRIBLE to be a working Mom. Now...just so you know...she worked...
When I told her that I would be going back to work once we had children she just about had a heart attack...no kidding. She proceeded to tell me how both of her Daughters are SAHM...Ok...good for them.

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Tell her you'd love to be a SAHM if she's willing to subsadize your family. Idiot!

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I answered you on the spinoff thread Eva Luna started

Message edited 10/11/2006 10:38:18 AM.

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I don't know, Lori. I agree with you, there is nothing wrong with it, and in many cases beneficial to the family.

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As a working Mom I think we rock

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i don't think it's bad to be a working mom. I was fortunate enough to quit my job and be a sahm for 5 years after my 2nd dd was born. when i got divorced i had no choice but to go back to work and school classes at night to catch up on technology,I think you just do what you have to do and keep a good attitude and thats what matters most.

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I definitely don't think it's horrible, but it takes someone special to do BOTH well. I, personally, have had two bosses that were both very successful women, but they both had 2 children each and they neglected their children...their careers were more important to them and their children suffered from it.

I definitely think it's "doable" but it takes a special kind of person that understands how to balance their career and being a mom.

To me (and there are many, many studies that prove the point) - IF you can afford to stay home it is more beneficial to your children.

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I dont think its bad at all. But I personally just want to be home to see every aspect of my kids growing up because I remember my mom there with me 24/7.

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Posted by Stacey1403

As a working Mom I think we rock

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I can go both ways on this.

I really do not know if I want to be a working mom or a stay at home mom yet. I will follow my heart when the time comes.

I do have to say that, as much as I missed my mom at times, I loved that my mom was a working mom. She just happened to be a great example for us kids, especially myself and my sister.
One of the reasons for this is that, for the most part, I grew up in a very unstable household and her working provided me with a great sense of stability and comfort when times were rought. It also was a source of income when my dad was out of work. My take is a little bit different though, because my mom was the breadwinner (as opposed to my dad) for most of her marriage.

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I would love to be a stay at home mom for a few years but unfortunately, It is not in the budget. I will be going back to work but my child will be watched be family when I am at work

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they say you bond better with the babies and you are there to see everything

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Posted by Stacey1403

Posted by MrsPorkChop

they say you bond better with the babies and you are there to see everything

I don't think is true at all. I have never seen a child in day care who wasn't so in love with both of their parents. You just make the most of the time you have when you are at home

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Great Article!

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I don't know why it's seen as a bad thing by others.

Not everyone can stay home nor would they want to.

I think being happy to see your kids and spenging time with them - quality time - is best.

I see the whole bonding point, but I'm not talking SAHM when the baby's an infant...most of us would get at least 12 weeks through FMLA.

I mean when it's a 3 year old...at that point they should be in school anyway. JMO.

One of my "friends" is a SAHM and she's always stressed...and their money sit is tight. Yes, they have smart kids...but at what cost?

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The SAHM Myth

Many psychologists and parents are concerned that the time mothers spend away from their babies while at work diverts the ability to be sensitive to their babies' needs and to provide cognitive stimulation to their children. However, a study has proven this theory wrong, revealing whether or not mothers worked during their child's first three years of life had no effect on their child's social and intellectual development.

These findings bear great significance, for more than half of American infants have mothers who are employed at least part-time during their child's first year of life.

Deflating the Myth

To draw this conclusion, researchers analyzed 24-hour diaries of time use from more than 1,000 mothers of infants. Videotaped observations of mothers interacting with their babies--to measure how sensitive mothers were to their children's needs--were also examined, and mothers' homes were visited to observe the quality of the home environment.

Data showed:

While working mothers spent less time with their infants than nonemployed mothers, they compensated for it by spending more time with their children on weekends and less time on other activities (i.e. housework, outside organizations, etc.).

Mothers who spent more available time with their babies (whether employed or not) were slightly more sensitive and provided higher quality home environments.

Mothers' personalities, beliefs and family circumstances were more critical predictors of their parenting than time.

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I just don't know how I could possibly be a mom with my job! I am exhausted as it is...I feel like I would be being a mom half-@ss and doing my job half-@ss too! I'd like to be a working mom...But I work late, come in early, take work home with me...

Anyone with me?

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I see nothing wrong with being a working mom at all. My mom went back to work part-time when I was in elementary school and then full time when I was in junior high/middle school. And I think I'm fine. I think it may have made me even more independent. I think it's a personal choice and what works for one family may not work for another. I am planning on staying home as long as I can (the baby's due 11/4), but I don't think I'll be a bad mom if I do end up going back to work.

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