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61 year old gives birth to twins
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Posted 11/10/12 5:08 PM  |
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stinger
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Re: 61 year old gives birth to twins
Good for her and him!
I do hope that the children remain healthy...2 lbs each at birth?? But that's the risk she took.
I already have children, so by 61 I hope and am looking forward to my kids being out of the house and to be a grandma. LOL
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| Posted 11/10/12 5:13 PM |
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61 year old gives birth to twins
I feel as though it is not fair to those kids. I hope she is a healthy woman and can live a long time to care for and love them
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| Posted 11/10/12 5:15 PM |
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Re: 61 year old gives birth to twins
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I feel as though it is not fair to those kids. I hope she is a healthy woman and can live a long time to care for and love them
i agree. these kids will be young when she kicks the bucket or will be too old to enjoy her kids childhood...its not fair. Im sorry but just because you can have kiids at that age doesnt mean you should. Why didnt she have kids when she was younger?
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| Posted 11/10/12 6:15 PM |
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Re: 61 year old gives birth to twins
the thought crossed my my mind that it could be selfish to give birth simply to fulfill a personal dream of being a mother and then not be around long for the kids. However, she could live another 40 or more years...and I could die tomorrow before i hit 30 leaving behind a son less than 2 years old...nobody knows. Kudos to her for living in the moment. We don't know what provisions she has in place should she die. I'm sure the kids would be taken care of in the event the mother or father dies
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| Posted 11/10/12 6:20 PM |
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61 year old gives birth to twins
I think that's a little too old
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| Posted 11/10/12 6:24 PM |
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Re: 61 year old gives birth to twins
Posted by MrsMeloyellow
the thought crossed my my mind that it could be selfish to give birth simply to fulfill a personal dream of being a mother and then not be around long for the kids. However, she could live another 40 or more years...and I could die tomorrow before i hit 30 leaving behind a son less than 2 years old...nobody knows. Kudos to her for living in the moment. We don't know what provisions she has in place should she die. I'm sure the kids would be taken care of in the event the mother or father dies
I agree. I also wonder why instead of having a baby why didn't she adopt an older child? There are so many kids who aren't infants who need families
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| Posted 11/10/12 6:26 PM |
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Re: 61 year old gives birth to twins
Maybe bc I am a infertile myself but I say good for her
The article says they had been trying via ivf since 1992 so not like this came out of nowhere
And the old hey why not adopt it said they were refused bc of age
I am sure those babies will be very loved
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| Posted 11/10/12 6:42 PM |
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Re: 61 year old gives birth to twins
I say they are all truly blessed !
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| Posted 11/10/12 6:46 PM |
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Re: 61 year old gives birth to twins
i don't think it's fair to the children...
im 26 and my parents aren't even near 60 yet
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| Posted 11/10/12 6:49 PM |
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Re: 61 year old gives birth to twins
Posted by evrythng4areason
i don't think it's fair to the children...
im 26 and my parents aren't even near 60 yet
But if you had a child and something happened to you, would your parents raise the child? I think there are a lot of active, healthy 60 something year old grandparents that are actually guardians of young children out there.
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| Posted 11/10/12 7:21 PM |
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61 year old gives birth to twins
My immediate reaction was that it was selfish and 61 is way too old to become a mom. However, after reading the article I change my mind. It's not like she decided one day out of the blue to have babies -- she's been trying for 10 years! She tried to adopt, but was declined. And for those who say why didn't she have them younger -- maybe she wanted to wait until she was in a good marriage to have kids and she married late too. I think everyone who wants to be a mother should have an opportunity. I always wanted to have the experience of carrying a child and if she wants that experience, I don't think she should be denied just because of age.
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| Posted 11/10/12 7:30 PM |
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Re: 61 year old gives birth to twins
Posted by stinger
Posted by evrythng4areason
i don't think it's fair to the children...
im 26 and my parents aren't even near 60 yet
But if you had a child and something happened to you, would your parents raise the child? I think there are a lot of active, healthy 60 something year old grandparents that are actually guardians of young children out there.
I'm 32 and my parents aren't even 60. If god forbid something happened to me and DH, even though my parents would be more than capable at this point, my baby would go to my sister. Sure my parents could live another 50 years but odds are my sister will out live them and why risk putting a child through that twice?
I mean, good for them fufilling a dream but I told DH when we got married that I would be willing to try to have children up to a certain age. Ideally I would like my children out of the house and on their way to building their own lives by the time I retire. Personally I think it's too old but that is just my opinion. I hope this woman and her husband live a very long and healthy life and are able to enjoy watching their twins grow up.
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| Posted 11/10/12 7:34 PM |
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Re: 61 year old gives birth to twins
Posted by gdubs
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Posted by evrythng4areason
i don't think it's fair to the children...
im 26 and my parents aren't even near 60 yet
But if you had a child and something happened to you, would your parents raise the child? I think there are a lot of active, healthy 60 something year old grandparents that are actually guardians of young children out there.
I'm 32 and my parents aren't even 60. If god forbid something happened to me and DH, even though my parents would be more than capable at this point, my baby would go to my sister. Sure my parents could live another 50 years but odds are my sister will out live them and why risk putting a child through that twice?
I mean, good for them fufilling a dream but I told DH when we got married that I would be willing to try to have children up to a certain age. Ideally I would like my children out of the house and on their way to building their own lives by the time I retire. Personally I think it's too old but that is just my opinion. I hope this woman and her husband live a very long and healthy life and are able to enjoy watching their twins grow up.
I understand what you're saying. But things change for women when they are unable to have a child. I may say I would never do IVF because there is risk there, but who knows if I was unable to conceive I may have gone that route. It's like anything where we should "never say never". But I think this woman's case is a rare one!
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| Posted 11/10/12 7:40 PM |
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Re: 61 year old gives birth to twins
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Posted by gdubs
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Posted by evrythng4areason
i don't think it's fair to the children...
im 26 and my parents aren't even near 60 yet
But if you had a child and something happened to you, would your parents raise the child? I think there are a lot of active, healthy 60 something year old grandparents that are actually guardians of young children out there.
I'm 32 and my parents aren't even 60. If god forbid something happened to me and DH, even though my parents would be more than capable at this point, my baby would go to my sister. Sure my parents could live another 50 years but odds are my sister will out live them and why risk putting a child through that twice?
I mean, good for them fufilling a dream but I told DH when we got married that I would be willing to try to have children up to a certain age. Ideally I would like my children out of the house and on their way to building their own lives by the time I retire. Personally I think it's too old but that is just my opinion. I hope this woman and her husband live a very long and healthy life and are able to enjoy watching their twins grow up.
I understand what you're saying. But things change for women when they are unable to have a child. I may say I would never do IVF because there is risk there, but who knows if I was unable to conceive I may have gone that route. It's like anything where we should "never say never". But I think this woman's case is a rare one!
You are absolutely right that when having a child on your own becomes difficult a woman's outlook can change. Some may decide to try IVF or other fertility treatments, some may look into surrogacy or adoption and others may say if it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be. There is no way of knowing until you're in that position. This woman obviously wanted children badly enough that she tried into her 60's. I think it's a matter of knowing yourself and knowing your body and it's limitations and knowing what is right for your lifestyle. If she and her husband are in good health and can care for these babies then this is great. If their health is questionable and they did this just to fulfill a dream then I think it could be seen as selfish. For me, personally, this would be too old but my situation is very different from theirs...
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| Posted 11/10/12 7:54 PM |
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I personally think this is very selfish and wrong. Yes, she could live another 40 years but the odds are not in her favor. Even if she does, it's not likely that they will be a healthy and or capable 40 years.
As a pp mentioned, it would have been much more appropriate to adopt an older child who is in need of a loving family. I hope for the children's sake that she does have a good number of quality years left to at least help them through childhood and the teen years.
My mom is not even 60 yet, in great health and I would be nervous to name her as guardian should DH and I pass away solely due to her age. 
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| Posted 11/10/12 8:10 PM |
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Re: 61 year old gives birth to twins
Imo, incredibly selfish and short sighted. Those poor kids....
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| Posted 11/10/12 8:15 PM |
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61 year old gives birth to twins
*shrug* it's not something I would do, but I'm happy for her and her husband.
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| Posted 11/10/12 8:29 PM |
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61 year old gives birth to twins
my dad fathered me when he was nearly in his 50s.............
I don't think he was selfish............I dont feel "cheated" or hold it against him.........just offering another perspective..
perhaps I am biased.
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| Posted 11/10/12 8:38 PM |
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Re: 61 year old gives birth to twins
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Posted by evrythng4areason
i don't think it's fair to the children...
im 26 and my parents aren't even near 60 yet
But if you had a child and something happened to you, would your parents raise the child? I think there are a lot of active, healthy 60 something year old grandparents that are actually guardians of young children out there.
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| Posted 11/10/12 8:40 PM |
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I think it's awesome  
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| Posted 11/10/12 10:09 PM |
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IDK, my parents were here for a few days while they didn't have power and its the first time they saw my routine with the kids from wake up to sleep time. After the kids were in bed my dad said to me "Its quite a routine you have here. That's why you need to be young to have kids. I don't know how people my age do it. I mean you have to do what you have to do but..." I just think raising twins is a challenge in itself for a woman in her 20s or 30s.
Even notwithstanding that she will most likely die while kids are young, i think the kids will find it difficult that their parents are so much older than all their friends parents. Everyone will always assume they are the grandparents. I can't imagine that is easy.
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| Posted 11/10/12 11:06 PM |
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Re: 61 year old gives birth to twins
I think it's easy to say "why don't they just adopt.. " or to disprove of their choices if you are not the one in it. I'm sure for a couple experiencing infertility, they were AWARE of the option to adopt. I'm sure by choosing this path, they did it with the thought that it was the best one for them at the time.
Besides that, it's not like adoption is a quick fix either. Along with it comes the grieving process of not carrying OR having a biological child. As someone who was on the path to surrogacy for a year, I can tell you that coming to terms with either of these things is not easy! (although my child would be biologically mine) .. Adoption is so much more than just waking up one morning and deciding it's what you want to do. It's a grueling process.. I know someone who lost 2 babies in the process because one birth mother changed her mind and the other had a still birth. This was after they paid ALL the prenatal fees and got nothing in return.
Long story short - Good for them!!
eta: What disgusts me more is young girls who give birth in bathroom and throw their babies in the trashcan. These people want to give their babies a loving home ... I'm sorry, I can't look down on that!
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Re: 61 year old gives birth to twins
Posted by PennyCat
I think it's easy to say "why don't they just adopt.. " or to disprove of their choices if you are not the one in it. I'm sure for a couple experiencing infertility, they were AWARE of the option to adopt. I'm sure by choosing this path, they did it with the thought that it was the best one for them at the time.
Besides that, it's not like adoption is a quick fix either. Along with it comes the grieving process of not carrying OR having a biological child. As someone who was on the path to surrogacy for a year, I can tell you that coming to terms with either of these things is not easy! (although my child would be biologically mine) .. Adoption is so much more than just waking up one morning and deciding it's what you want to do. It's a grueling process.. I know someone who lost 2 babies in the process because one birth mother changed her mind and the other had a still birth. This was after they paid ALL the prenatal fees and got nothing in return.
Long story short - Good for them!!
eta: What disgusts me more is young girls who give birth in bathroom and throw their babies in the trashcan. These people want to give their babies a loving home ... I'm sorry, I can't look down on that!
100% agreed!!!
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| Posted 11/11/12 7:10 AM |
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Re: 61 year old gives birth to twins
Posted by gdubs
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Posted by evrythng4areason
i don't think it's fair to the children...
im 26 and my parents aren't even near 60 yet
But if you had a child and something happened to you, would your parents raise the child? I think there are a lot of active, healthy 60 something year old grandparents that are actually guardians of young children out there.
I'm 32 and my parents aren't even 60. If god forbid something happened to me and DH, even though my parents would be more than capable at this point, my baby would go to my sister. Sure my parents could live another 50 years but odds are my sister will out live them and why risk putting a child through that twice?
I mean, good for them fufilling a dream but I told DH when we got married that I would be willing to try to have children up to a certain age. Ideally I would like my children out of the house and on their way to building their own lives by the time I retire. Personally I think it's too old but that is just my opinion. I hope this woman and her husband live a very long and healthy life and are able to enjoy watching their twins grow up.
You're a much more eloquent writer than I 
In essence though, this is what I believe also. Growing up, my sister and I were always told that if something happened, my aunt was listed as my legal guardian-not 1 of my four grandparents who were alive until after I became a legal adult. My sister is 8 years younger than me, and as soon as I turned 18 I was listed as her guardian should something ever happen to my parents-even though I still have 3 grandparents living.
DH and I will most likely do the same one day-we both have siblings who will be listed as our children's guardians.
I've known people who had "older" parents growing up, and most of them were more limited in what they could do with their children than the younger parents were-I look at my parents now and wonder how they could ever keep up with a rambunctious toddler full time, 24/7.
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