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Otherme
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
I certainly don't expect gifts if anyone comes to my house - and knowing our friends i don't think it would even occur to most of them 
However, if i go to the trouble of coordinating a party where we're supplying food/drinks etc., it would be nice if people asked if they can bring anything. I do think it depends on what you're used to and how you were brought up. Some people have manners and some don't
The only parties i usually bring a gift to is a wedding/engagement party/shower or housewarming party. With bday parties it depends on what invite says
my motto is.. when in doubt, bring wine. never fails!
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
Definitely not, having the people that i love come together for a celebration is enough gift.
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| Posted 8/14/08 3:53 PM |
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JessInCA
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
Posted by LaurenExp
The only party that I'd "throw" where I would "expect" a gift would be a wedding. And I don't have expectations on what that gift should be at all...but I would expect that someone would bring something.
However, ANY OTHER TYPE OF PARTY, I wouldn't expect gifts.
ITA!
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| Posted 8/14/08 3:55 PM |
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MrsPorkChop
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
i always bring something for the host...wine or an item i was asked to bring by the host.
if its a birthday ill bring a present.
im always thankful to the people the do bring something when i throw a party- flowers, wine, chocolates or dessert...its all very nice to get
i dont look for gifts but they are a nice gesture.
what DOES piss me off is if a couple comes to my house, bring nothing, then drinks me out of a house and home more than a normal guest - like someone drank almost a whole bottle of grey goose on their own -THAT pisses me off -
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| Posted 8/14/08 4:05 PM |
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Ophelia
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
Posted by MrsPorkChop
what DOES piss me off is if a couple comes to my house, bring nothing, then drinks me out of a house and home more than a normal guest - like someone drank almost a whole bottle of grey goose on their own -THAT pisses me off -
same exact thing happened to me.
I made a sober person take his asss to the store to replace it.
I kid thee not. 
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| Posted 8/14/08 4:07 PM |
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Terry34
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
I'd never go to a party empty-handed, and I've been offended if people show up at mine without at least offering to bring some kind of food/wine etc. I just think it is impolite. I guess I'm old fashioned.
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| Posted 8/14/08 4:08 PM |
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DRMom
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
Posted by Ophelia
do you expect to get a gift?
a lot of the frustration about big event parties seems to come from having to worry about shelling out so much dough...so I am curious where the expectation comes from.
do you get upset when someone DOESN'T give you a gift?
do you feel ANY gift is good enough? (a bottle of wine etc) or do you expect $$ for certain things...expect people to "cover their plate"?
I'm with you. But I don't think most people feel this way. My DH and I paid for our wedding with a tiny bit of help from family. We didn't expect to make it back or anything like that.
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| Posted 8/14/08 4:09 PM |
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Ambersmom
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
I don't ever expect gifts. Actually I feel embarrassed when people give me stuff
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| Posted 8/14/08 4:09 PM |
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isabelle2137
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
I believe in bringing something if someone is hosting. Wine, flowers, etc
Birthday parties, engagement parties, weddings = a gift - money, toys, etc
However, one of my biggest pet peeves is the whole concept of "cover the plate". It is not my concern what venue you choose to host your wedding/christening/bar mitzvah....
I give the same if the event is in your backyard or at the Ritz-Carlton.
ETS - I realize people believe different things and were raised differently. If you come to my home with nothing, I'm still 100% happy to have your company!!
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yankinmanc
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
No way jose, I throw a party because I want to feed people!!! (I show love through food, can you say dysfunctional and overweight)
I am embarassed when people bring me gifts!
If I went to someones house, I would always bring something, be it something I baked, a bottle of wine, flowers, something. But I don't necessarily expect it. But if you are talking about something like that, rather than a gift gift...yes, I would expect it. My in laws came this weekend with NOTHING and I was annoyed, she tried to buy me flowers while we were out and I wouldn't let her (passive aggressive much)
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| Posted 8/14/08 4:28 PM |
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NinaLemon
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
I don't ever expect presents, for any event, ever. I honestly (and I'll probably be bashed here) but I honestly roll my eyes whenever I hear someone complain about not getting a gift or a big enough gift or so and so came to the wedding and didn't give us anything....
I invite people because I love them and want to see them, not for gifts. I love to give people gifts, but I also would never put myself into debt to give a gift out of obligation. I give because I want to, not because I have to.
Sorry this is just a huge pet peeve of mine.
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| Posted 8/14/08 4:37 PM |
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KvsGrl
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
Posted by Tilde
I am old school. I would NEVER EVER go ANYWHERE empty handed and I have to say that I am still a little shocked when other people do.
I wouldn't say that I get upset, I will just say that I am just surprised that people do that.
ITA! Even if it is brunch for no reason, I offer to bring OJ!
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| Posted 8/14/08 4:39 PM |
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TheLorax
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
No way! The only kind of party where I expect guests to bring something is one that is specified at BYOB (but that is not an event party, more of just a party to party).
If someone ever brings anything, I am always shocked at how nice that is.
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| Posted 8/14/08 4:40 PM |
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
if its an event.. meaning invitations were sent.. gifts IMHO should be brought.
my mother taught me to NEVER go anywhere empty handed, even if it means a bottle of wine. so if we're invited over for dinner somewhere, the first thing that comes out of my mouth is what can i bring.
what baffles me is when there are certain people your family always gives gifts to, and pretty generous ones and they come to YOUR event with nothing.. tell how that is normal!!
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| Posted 8/14/08 4:40 PM |
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leighdvm
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
Posted by Slightly-Taller
if its an event.. meaning invitations were sent.. gifts IMHO should be brought.
my mother taught me to NEVER go anywhere empty handed, even if it means a bottle of wine. so if we're invited over for dinner somewhere, the first thing that comes out of my mouth is what can i bring.
agreed
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HeatherRose
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
nope. never. a gift is simple that a gift. its not a ticket to my party.
ETA: I don't go to someone's house when i get a formal invite (even if the invite says no gifts) and walk in empty handed, I think its tacky. I always bring at the least a bottle of wine/baked good or a plant
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skew
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
unless it is an invitation type of gtg (birthday, housewarming, wedding, shower) i would not expect nor would i bring a "gift". when invited to someone's house for dinner or casual gtg, i ALWAYS will bring something (food, drink) but do not expect the same in return.
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| Posted 8/14/08 4:50 PM |
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Superkat
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
I don't expect gifts at all. Sometimes I would like to say "no gifts necessary" on invites but that seems a little cheesy too. I appreciate my friends generosity but I don't expect it at all.
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| Posted 8/14/08 4:50 PM |
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Ophelia
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
Posted by HeatherRose
nope. never. a gift is simple that a gift. its not a ticket to my party.
I love this.
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| Posted 8/14/08 4:50 PM |
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
Here's the thing
If I'm hosting a random GTG at my place - I don't expect a gift, or you to bring anything
When I hosted my 30th b-day party, I really wanted to say "no gifts" - but I knew I would be ignored, so I didn't mention it. There was one person who showed up with nothing - I wasn't offended, but I did kinda  - so I guess in that sense maybe I was expecting something.
When I host something for my kids, (birthday party, christening, etc.) - it's important that they come and enjoy the day, but at the same time, I've shelled out plenty for family members' kids, so some reciprocation would be nice, and I might if they showed up empty handed
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| Posted 8/14/08 4:56 PM |
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Kissy331
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
I don't expect a gift but whenever I am invited to any type of function, I never go empty-handed..
With that said, I would not be insulted or mad if someone came to my party without a gift...
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| Posted 8/14/08 4:58 PM |
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Jackie24
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
Posted by Tilde
I am old school. I would NEVER EVER go ANYWHERE empty handed and I have to say that I am still a little shocked when other people do.
I wouldn't say that I get upset, I will just say that I am just surprised that people do that.
ITA 100% i was always brought up to come with SOMETHING!
I actually love when people put more thought and effort and less money into things like a bottle of wine etc.
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| Posted 8/14/08 5:33 PM |
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rojerono
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
For a regular party? Like a dinner party or a 'TGIF' dinner or something like that? I don't expect anything except that you show up and have a good time.
But for a wedding or a party celebrating an important event, I do expect a gift.
My definition of gift is loose for me. Give me a card, a word of thanks, congratulations, thank me for inviting you or tell me I did a good job or that you appreciate my efforts.
I honestly and SINCERELY do not need to be given a big gift or money or anything physical. I expect friendship - not things.
ETA: I always bring a gift when I go to a party. Because I love giving gifts.
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headoverheels
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
no - honestly i think it's odd when i get a gift if i throw a party because all i (normally) care about is eating good food and getting drunk!
like i said in my other post, i was shocked when just about everyone showed up to our e-party with a gift. i didn't know people did that! i had never been to an e-party before so i just had no idea.
the only time i think gifts are expected are for birthdays, weddings and showers. i just don't think to give a gift otherwise
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| Posted 8/14/08 5:46 PM |
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imagin916
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Re: A BE HONEST spinoff...if you throw a party ANY KIND OF PARTY IMAGINABLE
I would not go to dinner or a party at someone's house without offering to bring something, that is just the way I am. Would I expect people to bring food to my house? Not really, but it is a nice gesture.
I wouldn't necessarily think a gift is necessary for a get together at a bar or something for someones birthday, but I do think the following events call for some sort of gift, or at least a card.
Weddings, Bar/Bat Mitzfahs, Baptisms, Communions, Bridal showers, children's birthday party, engagement party.
IMO, and sorry to offend anyone, I think if you show up to one of these things empty handed, not even with a card, its rude. There are inexpensive gifts like picture frames or even a CD/DVD that can be given if the person cannot afford an expensive gift. There are toys at the dollar store for a child's birthday party that can be given, kids love opening gifts, they can care less where its from.
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