After having DC- did that change your views for your parents

I always thought my parents were so strict because they didnt want me to have fun. Now I know that they were just trying to protect me and my sisters. I never gave them the credit they deserved, and I only fully understand that now after having DS.

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Not in terms of strictness. I understood it was for our benefit that they didn't want us sneaking out of the house at 2am.

But now, in terms of fear of what could happen, I COMPLETELY get it.

I also "got" that my parents loved us. I mean I always knew it but when I had a child, I understood just how much they did love us. While I hope it isn't for loong time, I can't imagine seeing my own child come full circle & have their own children.

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I remember the exact moment, it was right after I had DD. I was in the recovery room looking at DD and thought to myself "My poor parents, how could I have treated them so badly?"

I always knew they loved me, but it wasn't until that moment I realized what they must have gone through when I was going through my rebellious period.

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Re: After having DC- did that change your views for your parents

I never realized how truly incredible my mom was until I became one myself. I said to her-- if I can be half of the mom to my kids that she was to me then I've done a good job

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Yes! I put my mom thru h e l l my senior year in HS. If Genevieve ever tries anything like that, god help her!


I dont think I'll ever be half as good of a mom as mine was. But I do take after her with one thing - the yelling

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I always appreciate my parents but I do even more so after having my own kids

--how did they have 3 of us in a small apt?

--how did parents with little education raise a daughter who went to law schoo, a son who has an MBA and a son who is studying to be a vet?

--how was every xmas spectacular with little money?

--how did they do this all with love?

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Re: After having DC- did that change your views for your parents

I appreciate everything they did for us as children even more now that I am a mom myself.

Re: After having DC- did that change your views for your parents

I remember being in the hospital when I had my son and thinking that I finally knew just how much my mom loved me. She died when I was ten and although I always knew she loved me, the feeling I got after my son was born was overwhelming. I often think about how hard it must have been for her to get sick, know she was dying, and know that she would have to leave me.

I feel like I know I had something in common with my mom, too.

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Honestly, it made me even more upset with them. The love for my child is so overwhelming, it makes me understand even less why they treated me the way they did. And still do.

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Yep......I was a little firecracker in my teen years and I wish my parents were here today so I could tell them how sorry I am for being so difficult then....Its amazing how becoming a mother has changed my outlook on how much my parents loved me and the sacrafices they made to give me a good childhood ..

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Definitely! My parents were strict, constantly tried to control who I was friends with, pushed academics, etc. I now realize that they just wanted the best for me and protect me.

When I was growing up, I just thought they were overbearing and unreasonable.

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Re: After having DC- did that change your views for your parents

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A little....I mean, growing up I was the goodiest of the goody two shoes, so I didn't put them through too much pain.
But I have a totally new respect for them having 4 kids in 4 1/2 years, moving into a new house right after my youngest brother was born, working opposite shifts to make ends meet...etc.
I always knew I had incredible parents....and I remember them telling us how they were doing things differently than their parents did...correcting those mistakes. And now it's my turn to take the good from them and correct what I don't want!
By the time Lily has grandchildren, someone should have figures this whole parenting thing out!

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a little... i think its more like why would they have done that........

they seemed to do things that were a bit more embarasing.

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When I was younger I never understood why I wasn't allowed to do certain things OR why I "had" to do certain things. NOW that I am mom....I totally get it!!!!

I had the best childhood and my parents were and still are unbelievable!! They both came from Italy and my dad made sure he made something of himself so he could provide for his family. I can only pray that my kids love,adore and respect DH and I the same way I do my parents!!