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SweetTooth
I'm a tired mommy!
Member since 12/05 20105 total posts
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Lauren
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Re: Allowance
no, if I want to buy something, I am going to buy it. I would never let DH have that kind of power over me.
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2PreciousBlessings
The Perfect Pair
Member since 5/06 19861 total posts
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Best Wife & Mommy
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Re: Allowance
Nope. We do not give each other allowance. We spend whatever we want because we are responsible enough to monitor ourselves.
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| Posted 9/25/06 5:47 PM |
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dandr10199
Grace is growing up too fast!
Member since 10/05 11561 total posts
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Dina
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Re: Allowance
Posted by Hi-Fi55
we both have agreed to an equal amount that we both get each month to do what we please with. The rest of the money - after a certain amount gets put into savings, is for the house (bills, food, cars, etc.) and things we do together.
Same here. Plus, with a 4.5 month old, we both are responsible with our $$. In the past I was not responsible with our $$ and maxed out our credit cards like 5 years ago. I had an "allowance' then. I guess I deserved to be treated like a baby because at the time, I betrayed DH's trust by spending way more than we can afford and I was acting like an immature brat. I would hide my purchases and just be defensive about what I bought. Now, I have earned his trust back and we have an agreed equal amount that we both get each month.
Message edited 9/25/2006 5:53:53 PM.
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| Posted 9/25/06 5:52 PM |
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munchkinbugs
My little loves!
Member since 1/06 8093 total posts
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Lisa
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Re: Allowance
No...but I keep in mind that there are two of us now and I have to think more about saving.
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| Posted 9/25/06 5:58 PM |
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stickydust
Now a mommy of 2!!!
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Re: Allowance
No, but I actually wish we each had an "allowance". I am not great with money and DH is the total opposite and even though he doesn't limit me I rather just have a preset amount I know I can spend on whatever I want.
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| Posted 9/25/06 6:10 PM |
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mrsv
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Member since 7/06 2969 total posts
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lol
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Re: Allowance
absolutely not.... i buy what i want when i want as does dh.. we are both adults.
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| Posted 9/25/06 6:12 PM |
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
Member since 5/05 31871 total posts
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Jennifer
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Re: Allowance
Posted by MrsTC
Does anyone's DH give them an allowance? Like how much they can spend on clothes, etc in a month?
This is our #1 argument. We dont have an allowance now but he wants to start this... 
ABSOLUTELY NOT
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| Posted 9/25/06 6:28 PM |
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TheLorax
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Member since 2/06 5581 total posts
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Re: Allowance
no - we both know what our bills are and budget our spending accordingly
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| Posted 9/25/06 6:45 PM |
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
Member since 5/05 31871 total posts
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Jennifer
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Re: Allowance
I am actually shocked people do this kinda thing
ask for money or an "allowance"
I find it degrading..
I would never ask my DH for money nor would he as me..
we spend our money as we see fit
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| Posted 9/25/06 6:47 PM |
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Moehick
Ready for the sun!
Member since 5/05 30339 total posts
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Properly perfect™
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Re: Allowance
An allowance!! Get the F out of here...that stopped when I was a kid and I don't expect it to start up again...ever!
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| Posted 9/25/06 6:47 PM |
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saraH
happy birthday sweet kate!
Member since 5/05 16555 total posts
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I know that God exsists, I held her in my arms...
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Re: Allowance
hell no, and i don't think he would ever mention it.
he's my dh, not my dad.
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| Posted 9/25/06 6:48 PM |
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azoodie
Member since 8/05 8377 total posts
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Team SEXY BACK
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Re: Allowance
I think I'm in the minority. While we combine our money and everything is shared, we only get 20 bucks each per week for whatever. Any other purchases we always discuss with each other first. We're trying to save money and if we don't give ourselves a limit we never would.
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| Posted 9/25/06 7:25 PM |
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No - we are both very responsible so thats not needed. Maybe your DH really means that he wants to start a budget as opposed to an "allowance'?
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| Posted 9/25/06 7:28 PM |
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
Member since 5/05 31871 total posts
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Jennifer
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Re: Allowance
Posted by azoodie
I think I'm in the minority. While we combine our money and everything is shared, we only get 20 bucks each per week for whatever. Any other purchases we always discuss with each other first. We're trying to save money and if we don't give ourselves a limit we never would.
you get 20 bucks to spend on WHAT?
anything over 20 dollars you have to confer with your DH about?
I mean don't you put more than 20 in your gas tank ?
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| Posted 9/25/06 7:29 PM |
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BabyBoy
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Member since 5/05 4189 total posts
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Tom
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Re: Allowance
Posted by Redhead
Posted by azoodie
I think I'm in the minority. While we combine our money and everything is shared, we only get 20 bucks each per week for whatever. Any other purchases we always discuss with each other first. We're trying to save money and if we don't give ourselves a limit we never would.
you get 20 bucks to spend on WHAT?
anything over 20 dollars you have to confer with your DH about?
I mean don't you put more than 20 in your gas tank ?
not everybody buys a new outfit, shoes, nails, hair every single week.....
heck, i can't even remember the last time i physically went to the store and bought a new shirt...
prehaps instead of saying an allowance, its more of a budget and putting away extra money for a greater cause such as a car, house, savings, paying off high intrest credit, etc.....
20 dollors can go a long way as long as you know how to use it.... the problem with the world is, some people don't know how to use it, then they wonder why they are so in debt paying 25% intrest fee's
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| Posted 9/25/06 7:32 PM |
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TheInfamousOTG
Waiting for Lil' M....
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Re: Allowance
Hell no!! Bri can buy whatever she wants!
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| Posted 9/25/06 7:34 PM |
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azoodie
Member since 8/05 8377 total posts
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Re: Allowance
Posted by Redhead
Posted by azoodie
I think I'm in the minority. While we combine our money and everything is shared, we only get 20 bucks each per week for whatever. Any other purchases we always discuss with each other first. We're trying to save money and if we don't give ourselves a limit we never would.
you get 20 bucks to spend on WHAT?
anything over 20 dollars you have to confer with your DH about?
I mean don't you put more than 20 in your gas tank ?
20 dollars cash. that is just for during the week. gas is separate that is just counted as a bill. for example he gets the paper, i'll buy lunch etc. we save money by bringing our lunch every day. we consult each other for basically any purchase we make outside of this 20 dollars. i'm a grad student so money iisn't exactly growing on trees right now. before we got married we were HUGE spenders. this sort of budgeting really works for us.
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| Posted 9/25/06 7:36 PM |
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
Member since 5/05 31871 total posts
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Jennifer
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Re: Allowance
Posted by BabyBoy
Posted by Redhead
Posted by azoodie
I think I'm in the minority. While we combine our money and everything is shared, we only get 20 bucks each per week for whatever. Any other purchases we always discuss with each other first. We're trying to save money and if we don't give ourselves a limit we never would.
you get 20 bucks to spend on WHAT?
anything over 20 dollars you have to confer with your DH about?
I mean don't you put more than 20 in your gas tank ?
not everybody buys a new outfit, shoes, nails, hair every single week.....
heck, i can't even remember the last time i physically went to the store and bought a new shirt...
prehaps instead of saying an allowance, its more of a budget and putting away extra money for a greater cause such as a car, house, savings, paying off high intrest credit, etc.....
20 dollors can go a long way as long as you know how to use it.... the problem with the world is, some people don't know how to use it, then they wonder why they are so in debt paying 25% intrest fee's
who said anythign about buying new outfits, shoes or nails?
but IMO 20 really doesn't get me back and for to work FOR THE WEEK
actually it wouldn't even get me back and forth for more than 2 days
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| Posted 9/25/06 7:36 PM |
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
Member since 5/05 31871 total posts
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Jennifer
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Re: Allowance
and people can budget all they want..
great
i am a saver myself
BUT I WOULD NEVER EVER HAVE TO CONFER WITH MY DH IF I HAD TO SPEND 30 ON SOMETHING
i am not a 5 year old learning the responsibilities of money
i am an adult and act as such
and MY DH knows that if i am spending money...than i need to do so
i do not have to confer with him
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| Posted 9/25/06 7:39 PM |
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azoodie
Member since 8/05 8377 total posts
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Re: Allowance
Posted by Redhead
and people can budget all they want..
great
i am a saver myself
BUT I WOULD NEVER EVER HAVE TO CONFER WITH MY DH IF I HAD TO SPEND 30 ON SOMETHING
i am not a 5 year old learning the responsibilities of money
i am an adult and act as such
and MY DH knows that if i am spending money...than i need to do so
i do not have to confer with him
it's not about being an adult or being a child. it's a about respect. if we each get the same amount of money a week and i want to go buy new clothes, i feel he should know i'm going to make this purchase. just like if he wants to buy a new video game he'll tell me he is. it's not so much asking permission, it's about communication.
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| Posted 9/25/06 7:41 PM |
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
Member since 5/05 31871 total posts
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Jennifer
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Re: Allowance
so is the 20 just strictly leisure purchases?
or is it a budget you use for everything?
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| Posted 9/25/06 7:42 PM |
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suvenR
designer mutt
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Re: Allowance
I should put DH on an allowance. 
Seriously, we have no financial restraints on each other.
I think it's because we've teetered back and forth for a long time on which one of us made more money. so, we never had that kind of "I make more than you" dynamic where 1 person would try to control the finances.
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| Posted 9/25/06 7:43 PM |
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Redhead
You Live, You Learn
Member since 5/05 31871 total posts
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Jennifer
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Re: Allowance
i just can't imagine having to confer with my DH is i bought a skirt for 40 dollars
to me...that just isn't an adult..
i would feel like a little kid telling my mommy that i want to buy make-up
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| Posted 9/25/06 7:44 PM |
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azoodie
Member since 8/05 8377 total posts
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Re: Allowance
Posted by Redhead
i just can't imagine having to confer with my DH is i bought a skirt for 40 dollars
to me...that just isn't an adult..
i would feel like a little kid telling my mommy that i want to buy make-up
20 bucks is just 20 bucks! for every day sort of things.
i don't know your situation, but you are probably having a hard time understanding what we do because you have not been in our situation. we don't deny ourselves things we want or need we just talk to each other about it. you can call me us little children all you want. but it works for us, we pay our bills, we have our savings and we are happy.
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Bri
I Love You to Pieces!
Member since 5/05 9919 total posts
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Brianne
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Re: Allowance
We do not put one another on an allowance but there is just an unspoken agreement of what unreasonable spending is between us. We do not discuss every purchase we make because we both know how we should and should not be spending money . . .
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