| Posted By |
Message |
| Pages: [1] 2 3 4 |
cdunn
Cold go away
Member since 10/05 1265 total posts
Name:
Caroline
|
Am I wrong or right
My son has a friend over. They along with my DD are playing down the road with some other kids. I tell my DH I going to a cvs. He says to me that I should be here for the play date and not go run off and do things!! Excuse me??!! And I should ask him first! Excuse me??!! I told him I can do has I please and don't need his persmisson and that he's an adult and can help out. Who's out of line here?? Am I missing something?? Tia
|
Posted 1/21/18 1:44 PM  |
| |
|
Long Island Weddings
Long Island's Largest Bridal Resource |
LiveItUp
Love my babies!
Member since 8/11 4096 total posts
Name:
|
Am I wrong or right
Would need to know the ages of the kids. Depending on the age, there should definitely be an adult watching them, but if your dh is home, he should be able to do it if you have to run out.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 1:49 PM |
| |
|
cdunn
Cold go away
Member since 10/05 1265 total posts
Name:
Caroline
|
Re: Am I wrong or right
They are 9 and 11. And yes both of us at home. If he weren't home I wouldn't be going out. But according to him since I planned the play date I should stay at home. Very unfair and controlling.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 1:56 PM |
| |
|
BargainMama
LIF Adult
Member since 5/09 15657 total posts
Name:
|
Am I wrong or right
I personally would not leave to run an errand when my kids have someone over for a playdate. I would probably be annoyed if I sent my DD to a friend's house, and the mom left. But, playdates for us are usually arranged through the moms..not the dads.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 1:56 PM |
| |
|
BargainMama
LIF Adult
Member since 5/09 15657 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by cdunn
They are 9 and 11. And yes both of us at home. If he weren't home I wouldn't be going out. But according to him since I planned the play date I should stay at home. Very unfair and controlling.
I agree with your husband on this one. You set up the playdate, you shouldn't leave to run errands
|
| Posted 1/21/18 1:57 PM |
| |
|
LSP2005
Bunny kisses are so cute!
Member since 5/05 19458 total posts
Name:
L
|
Re: Am I wrong or right
If my child is at someone else's home, I expect the parent to stay at their home, just as I would stay at my home when I have kids over. I would send my husband out to cvs before I would go out if I had a play date over.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 1:59 PM |
| |
|
MsSissy
xoxoxo
Member since 3/07 39159 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Am I wrong or right
I don't see an issue with you running to the store. It's CVS not the mall.
And their father is home. Im sure he's more than capable of keeping an eye or ear out on the kids.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 2:01 PM |
| |
|
RainyDay
LIF Adult
Member since 6/15 3990 total posts
Name:
|
Am I wrong or right
I see both sides. If you were the one to have set up the play date then I agree with your husband. However, you were running a quick errand and a parent was still home.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 2:08 PM |
| |
|
longislemom
LIF Adult
Member since 8/06 912 total posts
Name:
|
Am I wrong or right
I set the play date = I would stay home.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 2:14 PM |
| |
|
hmm
Sweet
Member since 1/14 7993 total posts
Name:
|
Am I wrong or right
op stated THEY are playing down the road, so the kids are not playing inside your home but outside DOWN the street?
or did I read it wrong.
If outside/inside you can go to the store esp if your spouse is home
Just wondering, for those that say it matters which parent set up the play date. Why does it matter, as long as an responsible adult is home
Message edited 1/21/2018 2:24:41 PM.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 2:22 PM |
| |
|
mommy2B3
2 boys 2 girls!!!!
Member since 7/08 3324 total posts
Name:
M
|
Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by BargainMama
I personally would not leave to run an errand when my kids have someone over for a playdate. I would probably be annoyed if I sent my DD to a friend's house, and the mom left. But, playdates for us are usually arranged through the moms..not the dads.
Agree. You set up the play date, so you assumed the role of responsibility, but I don’t see a problem if you asked your DH to take over and he wanted to.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 2:35 PM |
| |
|
GoldenRod
10 years on LIF!
Member since 11/06 26792 total posts
Name:
Shawn
|
Re: Am I wrong or right
I often arrange a lot of DC's play dates, but no matter who arranges them, as long as one of us is home, it doesn't matter who goes out and runs errands.
And when DC go to friend's houses, I don't care which of the parents are at the house, regardless of who arranged the play date.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 2:42 PM |
| |
|
mrsrainbow
LIF Adult
Member since 1/17 1465 total posts
Name:
|
Am I wrong or right
These answers are so absurd! A parent is home - what difference does it make if she goes to CVS? She’s not leaving for hours! The mother is required to stay because SHE arranged the play date? A parent would have an issue if the husband was there instead? Absurd.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 2:47 PM |
| |
|
jaysee00
LIF Adult
Member since 3/06 1647 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Am I wrong or right
I feel like I see both sides of this too. Usually if I knew I had to run a quick errand, I just give that parent a heads up at drop off. Like, I might have to run out quick but my husband will be here. Just to give them the heads up.
It’s not wrong to do though.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 3:23 PM |
| |
|
|
|
Am I wrong or right
If I set the play date I would be home, I wouldn’t want my kids going to someone’s house thinking their friends mom was watching them and then it’s really the dad, what if I don’t know the dad?
|
| Posted 1/21/18 3:28 PM |
| |
|
AngnShaun
Sisters
Member since 1/10 21015 total posts
Name:
Ang
|
Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by mrsrainbow
These answers are so absurd! A parent is home - what difference does it make if she goes to CVS? She’s not leaving for hours! The mother is required to stay because SHE arranged the play date? A parent would have an issue if the husband was there instead? Absurd.
this!
|
| Posted 1/21/18 3:32 PM |
| |
|
cdunn
Cold go away
Member since 10/05 1265 total posts
Name:
Caroline
|
Re: Am I wrong or right
The kid and his family know my husband.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 4:09 PM |
| |
|
cdunn
Cold go away
Member since 10/05 1265 total posts
Name:
Caroline
|
Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by mrsrainbow
These answers are so absurd! A parent is home - what difference does it make if she goes to CVS? She’s not leaving for hours! The mother is required to stay because SHE arranged the play date? A parent would have an issue if the husband was there instead? Absurd.
Now if you could tell my DH this, this would be helpful. 
He arranges play dates and goes places and I don't bark about it.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 4:12 PM |
| |
|
ChilisWife
God Bless America
Member since 5/05 3572 total posts
Name:
A.K.
|
Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by TwinMommyToBoys
If I set the play date I would be home, I wouldn’t want my kids going to someone’s house thinking their friends mom was watching them and then it’s really the dad, what if I don’t know the dad?
I agree with this, I know a lot of moms but I'd like to at least meet the father before I leave my 9 year old daughter with him. What if I need to check on her or she needs to speak to me and only the mom has my contact info? Also, I wouldn't want my child that young playing alone down the street. Maybe I'm overprotective. That's why I try to do play dates at my own house.
That being said I have left my kids with the "dad" many times when I have met the dad and know the dad and have spoken to him before. And my husband is often home alone with kids for play dates if the kids parents have met/spoke with/know my husband.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 4:12 PM |
| |
|
Adri
Joy!
Member since 5/05 3116 total posts
Name:
A
|
Re: Am I wrong or right
Unless your DH was doing something extremely important or urgent that doesn't allow him watch out the kids while you run your errand, I don't get why he doesn't step in and help you. Yes, I think it is very controlling, regardless of whom arranged the playdate. For me, it is about helping each other.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 4:25 PM |
| |
|
cdunn
Cold go away
Member since 10/05 1265 total posts
Name:
Caroline
|
Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by Adri
Unless your DH was doing something extremely important or urgent that doesn't allow him watch out the kids while you run your errand, I don't get why he doesn't step in and help you. Yes, I think it is very controlling, regardless of whom arranged the playdate. For me, it is about helping each other.
Thank you understanding my point of view.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 4:27 PM |
| |
|
Katareen
5,000 Posts!
Member since 4/10 7180 total posts
Name:
Katherine
|
Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by ChilisWife
Posted by TwinMommyToBoys
If I set the play date I would be home, I wouldn’t want my kids going to someone’s house thinking their friends mom was watching them and then it’s really the dad, what if I don’t know the dad?
I agree with this, I know a lot of moms but I'd like to at least meet the father before I leave my 9 year old daughter with him. What if I need to check on her or she needs to speak to me and only the mom has my contact info? Also, I wouldn't want my child that young playing alone down the street. Maybe I'm overprotective. That's why I try to do play dates at my own house.
That being said I have left my kids with the "dad" many times when I have met the dad and know the dad and have spoken to him before. And my husband is often home alone with kids for play dates if the kids parents have met/spoke with/know my husband.
Exactly this. I have no problem with my kids being left with the dad, as long as I know/trust the dad, and my child feels comfortable with them.
|
| Posted 1/21/18 5:12 PM |
| |
|
itsagoodlife
LIF Adolescent
Member since 8/15 619 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by mrsrainbow
These answers are so absurd! A parent is home - what difference does it make if she goes to CVS? She’s not leaving for hours! The mother is required to stay because SHE arranged the play date? A parent would have an issue if the husband was there instead? Absurd.
Totally agree with this.
It’s not like the kids are being left alone with no adult.
IMO your DH is being ridiculous
|
| Posted 1/21/18 5:33 PM |
| |
|
MsSissy
xoxoxo
Member since 3/07 39159 total posts
Name:
|
Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by cdunn
Posted by mrsrainbow
These answers are so absurd! A parent is home - what difference does it make if she goes to CVS? She’s not leaving for hours! The mother is required to stay because SHE arranged the play date? A parent would have an issue if the husband was there instead? Absurd.
Now if you could tell my DH this, this would be helpful.
He arranges play dates and goes places and I don't bark about it.
 are you friggin kidding me?! He's got some set!!
So did you go to the store?
|
| Posted 1/21/18 5:41 PM |
| |
|
PearlJamChick
No one sings like you anymore.
Member since 7/10 9264 total posts
Name:
Petticoated Swashbuckler
|
Re: Am I wrong or right
Posted by mrsrainbow
These answers are so absurd! A parent is home - what difference does it make if she goes to CVS? She’s not leaving for hours! The mother is required to stay because SHE arranged the play date? A parent would have an issue if the husband was there instead? Absurd.
WORD!
|
| Posted 1/21/18 5:51 PM |
| |
|
| Pages: [1] 2 3 4 |
