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LuvMy2Girls
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Re: Another husband Question
Posted by MrsSchwags
my husband is very involved and does everything I do. we take turns a lot.
Same with us.
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GoldenRod
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Re: Another husband Question
I don't get home until dinner time, so DW does the vast majority of day to day stuff. I'll give them baths once in a while, I've changed several hundred diapers over the years, I'll feed DD (she's getting pretty good at feeding herself, so we don't do a lot of feeding any more). I play with them quite a bit. I always put them to bed. I read (or get read to) DS right before bed.
On the weekends, I take DS to karate, and I help out in his class. I do as much as I can with DC, assuming I don't have to fix something around the house (usually something that one of DC broke...   )
I would definitely consider myself very hands-on with my kids, and I wouldn't want it any other way.   
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| Posted 2/19/08 9:02 PM |
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Heather617
My Babies
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Re: Another husband Question
Other then feeding ( I BF) DH helps alot.
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| Posted 2/19/08 9:04 PM |
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Tine73
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Re: Another husband Question
Posted by Melbernai
I am lucky to have a great husband in that area...
he plays with her EVERY night...
can completely hold his own if I am sick or am out one night...
I would say that we are equal. I am lucky to know that if ever I am out of commission my DH can just step right in.
I feel the same way. We both work full time at busy, stressful jobs and commute to NYC so we are playing on an even field. The only thing I do more than him is cook.
I can't imagine being with someone that didn't help out at all. If I was a SAHM, I would expect him to help out when he got home from work to give me a break and some support.
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| Posted 2/19/08 9:26 PM |
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DUCKS2001
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Re: Another husband Question
My Dh does:
PJ time
changes her diaper
plays with my DD
I BF so he cant do that but feeds her when i pump
changes her cloths if I ask
cleans the house for me
My DH is very helpful (and I take advantage of it a little too much sometimes)
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| Posted 2/19/08 10:01 PM |
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my3boys
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Re: Another husband Question
Under the age 2 ah NOTHING. He only changes diapers if I'm not home so he has no choice. He is very nervous with them as babies but he does a lot with my older son (10) and my middle guy is going on 3 and he just started taking him places by himself. Therefore I do pretty much everything but I can't really complain because he does sooo much other stuff for me.
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| Posted 2/19/08 10:09 PM |
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leighla
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Re: Another husband Question
We have a schedule.
We split the hours evenly as far as who is "in charge".
However I will say that the times when I am "in charge" he's usually still at work or on the computer and I'm by myself.
When he's "in charge" I'm running the bath for him, getting the binky, taking the hand off so he can do things, etc.
So I would say it's 60-40 me.
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| Posted 2/19/08 10:13 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Another husband Question
As a baby, zero.
Now, things are a lot better.
Today, they went to the library together. Then they bought a new pair of sneakers.
Came home, I went to the gym, Leo fed Josh a snack.
I made dinner and went out. Leo gave Josh a bath and cleaned my entire apt! I am in shock.
He is rarely ever home, so this was definitely a great day.
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| Posted 2/19/08 11:35 PM |
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gottaluvmusik
Just the 4 of us
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Re: Another husband Question
dh does EVERYTHING.... I am not exactly the most domestic mother so he helps a whole bunch!
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| Posted 2/19/08 11:38 PM |
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LSP2005
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Re: Another husband Question
Solid Feeding and diaper changes we are 50-50. (I still BF DS). Playing we are about 60 ME-40 DH. DH never gives DS a bath. That is my job, BUT DH dresses DS after the bath so I can clean the bathroom. In general I have a very helpful DH. We generally try to split chores 50-50. Oh one thing DH does is put DS to bed almost every night. I have a wonderful DH and feel really blessed.
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| Posted 2/19/08 11:38 PM |
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FeliciaDP
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Re: Another husband Question
Dh is very helpful...will do just about anything in terms of DS. The only two things that he does NOT do is change diapers or dress DS...the diaper part is obvious ( ) and the dressing part is because I have the squirmiest kid EVER and I'm pretty much the only one who can trick the kid into letting me dress him since he'd rather run around naked
I am a SAHM so I do most of these things myself all day; the only thing that is "Daddy's Job" is bathtime every night. It's their way of bonding in the evenings when DH is home from work, and they both love it 
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| Posted 2/19/08 11:43 PM |
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4monkeys
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Re: Another husband Question
My husband can be left with all 3 kids with no warning, and be perfectly fine to pick up where I left off.
HE's done it all, juggled a zoo of three monkeys, feeding, baths, tv time, etc.
He knows how much work it is and is COMPLETELY my tag team partner.
he's awesome  
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| Posted 2/20/08 12:22 AM |
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GenLCSW
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Re: Another husband Question
Posted by MrsSchwags
my husband is very involved and does everything I do. we take turns a lot.
same here
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| Posted 2/20/08 5:34 AM |
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rojerono
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Re: Another husband Question
Posted by jules
How much do your husbands help you with the raising of your child/ren?
And i mean the day to day stuff as well.
Feeding?
Bathing?
Activities?
Diaper Changing?
When the boys were babies, Rob and I both shared all duties. I mean we would joke about changing stinky diapers like "Oh Mommy - Robbie has a present for you.." but he had no problem doing anything for the kiddies.
Now that they are older, I find that more and more is on my plate almost exclusively. And I actually take some of the blame there.
I used to 2nd guess a lot of his actions. For example - he'd say "I bathed the kids." and instead of thank you, I would ask what shampoo he used, did he make sure they got behind their ears, did they have lotion after the bath, did he brush their hair or just towel dry it, etc... it drove him nuts.
The result is that the a lot of the day to day stuff falls to me at this point. I check homework, I supervise bathing, I buy clothes, I lay out their clothes, I set the menus.. He does it if I am not around - but he avoids it if I am there to peek over his shoulder and question him.
Rob is still awesome though. He is a very active dad when it comes to playing with them, reading to them, snuggling them, etc. I get home 3 hours after he does and he makes sure they have their after school snack, change out of school clothes and tell him about their day, etc... He has no problems being alone with them on weekends if I have something else to do. And when I went to Vegas last year he did it all.
When we are both with the kids it is a complete team effort. I check the homework - but Rob makes sure it is done when I get home. I cook supper - but if Noah is whining about not liking hamburgers, Rob reminds him that no dinner means no dessert.
I love us.
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my3bugs
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Re: Another husband Question
DH helps with it all when he is home. Diaper changing, feeding, playing, putting to bed, waking up at nights, etc. I honestly couldn't imagine him not wanting to help (not that anyone loves diaper changing or waking up at night) but it is all part of the job.
Message edited 2/20/2008 7:02:26 AM.
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GoldenRod
10 years on LIF!
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Re: Another husband Question
I just want to say that I'm glad to see these threads about Dads that help out and spend time with their DW and DC. There are too many threads here about how DH doesn't help, doesn't participate, etc.
See, we're not all useless immature children.... 
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| Posted 2/20/08 7:40 AM |
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: Another husband Question
My husband is very much involved with everything. He LOVES to bathe to Ella, change her diaper, feed her, read to her, and he sings to her and play with her alot.
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| Posted 2/20/08 7:42 AM |
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Little-J-Mommy
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Re: Another husband Question
I have to say, my DH is awesome. He gets Jack up in the morning, prepares breakfast for grandma to give him before he goes to work (I leave before DS gets up). I get into a car that's running, warm and with a cup of Dunkin Donuts in the cup holder
I get home usually around the same time if not after DH and we do everything together from that point on. I'm really VERY lucky!!!! Now if we could just perfect our communication skills with each other...
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| Posted 2/20/08 8:54 AM |
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JoCaCoLa
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Re: Another husband Question
DH does everything with me. We are a complete team, and sometimes he even takes on more than me.  Being pregnant with DC#2 and home all day with DS he really makes it easy on me, even after a full day at work. He loves being involved.
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| Posted 2/20/08 9:00 AM |
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Re: Another husband Question
As a SAHM, I do most of the daily stuff. But when he comes home in the late afternoon, he does everything. He is the one who bathes her at night also. On the weekends, I don't even think I change a diaper. He's my prince.
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betty
My boys
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Re: Another husband Question
He helps with everything with DS except he has never given him a bath. After I bathe him DH will sit in the bathroom with him but he's never actually done the bathing.
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| Posted 2/20/08 9:10 AM |
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yankinmanc
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Re: Another husband Question
My husband does all of the above, he is awesome!! I wouldn't trade him in!
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| Posted 2/20/08 9:23 AM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: Another husband Question
DH and I both work outside of the home during week.
Right now it's his busy season so he only really gets to see Lucas for a few minutes some mornings and on Sundays. But when he isn't travelling he still helps out a lot. When he gets home (usually around 9 or 10) he doesn't even get changed...he rolls up his sleeves and helps me finish whatever has to get done so that we can both get to bed at the same time.
When busy season is over our routine changes and we switch off drop off/pick up and sometimes we both go together. He gets home earlier so we split the tasks equally and take turns putting DS to sleep. He also takes time off work for doctor's appts and sick days during that time since I save mine for when he absolutely can't.
Feeding: Mostly me but if I need to do something or I am out...he will do it.
Bathing: I give DS his bath in the tub but if he goes straight to bed when we get home or if he has an accident...DH will take him in the shower in the morning.
Activities: I coordinate most of the playdates but DH will spend time with him playing. He is also going to be the one to go to swimming with him (he looks better in a bathing suit  )
Diaper Changing: We both do this equally.
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LisaI
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Re: Another husband Question
should I answer??? not much! or atleast not as much as 'I' would prefer... He does what he can, but can he do more, absolutely!
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| Posted 2/20/08 9:24 AM |
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nylisa
My Children
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Re: Another husband Question
Posted by MrsSchwags
my husband is very involved and does everything I do. we take turns a lot.
mine does too but it is hard since he works the midnight shift and usually tries to get in a nap after dinner before getting ready for work.
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