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My DH helps out a lot. He plays with the kids, will do the dishes after I cook, throw in a load of laundry if I ask, did feedings when they were babies, etc. He can totally handle the kids on his own and gives me time to myself if I need a break. He's the best!

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Dh helps with feeding sometimes and he plays with her all the time

everything else I do, bathing, rocking, diapers, etc

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He's involved in everything with DDs. I really can't bathe them without him and as soon as he comes home, if I am feeding them, he wants to do it. He's very involved and he wouldn't have it any other way.

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I am very, very lucky. He is so involved with my children from the day they were born. Sometimes, he does way more than I do.

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He helps with pretty much everything and he has been given the job of bath guy bc ds just likes to stand in the middle of the tub now and I can't hold him securely.

He has no choice but to help though I work full time.

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Sometimes my DH does more than I do.

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DH does it all and loves it. He says everyday, "I love being a dad." I knew he would be a great father, but I had no idea how much joy it would bring me to see him just hug and love our DD. I admit though I laugh when he dresses her and stuff because she never matches completely and he does things in such a guy way.

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He gets Ryan dressed 75% of the time in the morning and gives him his nebulizer treatment while I get breakfast ready. Sometimes we switch roles but he always helps in the morning. He will do bed/bath if I'm not around but usually I do it (he will if I ask). He does grocery shoppng and will do laundry too. He changes diapers and plays with Ryan every chance he gets. All of this has increased signifincantly from when he was an infant.

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My kids are older but I can tell you what he did and does now.

Feeding?-we took turns feeding the kids as babies. Now he cooks if I need him too and will help clean up after.

Bathing?-never had a problem bathing the kids as babies, he usually gives the baths and starts the showers for both

Activities?-takes dd to her activities every week, brings kids to birthday parties.

Diaper Changing?-always helped changing diapers.

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For DD's first year, DH was working on an MBA and working long hours. When he was home, he wanted to relax so he didn't do that much.

I am still nursing, so he doesn't give bottles.

DD can be challenging to feed and messy as well, so DH doesn't do that much either.

DH can't deal with messy diapers so he passes her to me for those.

DH bathes her if supervised.

He's getting better and more involved now that she is walking but sometimes I wish he was willing to split it with me.

What he DOES do is come to the "rescue" at parties and social events. He lets me relax and enjoy. Unfortunately this makes everyone think that he is the best dad but they don't see him at home.

As far as other chores, I do the laundry and clean most of the house. He vacuums, pays bills and takes out trash (after I nag him that it smells and I can't take it out with the baby)

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we are completely 50-50...there isn't one thing DH won't do. Diapers, bathtime, waking up, cooking, feeding...he does it all and always. I mean, I have to go in the den at night between 7:15 and 7:45 pm so he can cuddle with her on the couch (otherwise she would want to lay with me )

That's why I married him.

It boggles my mind that some men think they should get a medal for hanging out/doing the right thing with their kids.

We split weekend days on who gets to sleep in, trade off on bathtimes, making her lunch...even nights that we get to go out with friends. It's a partnership, but I have always felt that is what parenthood should be. I know I shouldn't feel lucky, but I do.

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Totally 50/50.

I leave the house before he and she even wake up, so he handles getting her ready for school, breakfast, and dropping her off.

When we both get home from work, we spend equal time with her, or, he'll cook, while I play with her.

I'd say it's fairly equal when it come to preparing her meals, diapering, changing clothes, etc. He takes her to many of her doctor appointments, and we toggle our days off to stay at home with her when she's sick.

We switch days on the weekend for sleeping in - I let him sleep in on Saturdays and he lets me sleep in on Sundays.

The *only* inequity is that he's uncomfortable bathing her, but when I'm giving her a bath, he's always tidying up the house. And, I take off early on Fridays because her school closes early. Not because he can't do it, but I prefer spending the time with her by myself - it's our bonding time.

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My husband is the breadwinner, and I am the MOMMY ... in every sense of the word. He does little to nothing.