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I hate the fact that everyone asks when the baby's coming?

I hate that people ask what are you waiting for?

I hate the assumptions that people make that making a baby is so easy to do.

I hate that this month DH had the flu during my fertile week so I am out this month.

To everyone here and tons of for us all!

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Posted by Megs4

Also, my best friend is pregnant and I am thrilled for her but she gets pregnant on the first try, every time, and I feel like she can't relate to my efforts and frustration, making it hard to talk to her lately.

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Posted by BigSmooch

Posted by Megs4

Also, my best friend is pregnant and I am thrilled for her but she gets pregnant on the first try, every time, and I feel like she can't relate to my efforts and frustration, making it hard to talk to her lately.

I am having a hard time with my best friend too. Different situation though. My best friend still lives at home with her parents so as you can imagine our lives are very different now that I have a husband, a house and want to start a family. She can't relate to anything in my life anymore and at times she can be very insensitive. She has a good heart but she is clueless. She can't understand the hurt of a miscarriage and she doesn't understand how badly I want to be pregnant again. She just can't relate at all. I feel like I have no one.

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Posted by MySunshine

Posted by BigSmooch

Posted by Megs4

Also, my best friend is pregnant and I am thrilled for her but she gets pregnant on the first try, every time, and I feel like she can't relate to my efforts and frustration, making it hard to talk to her lately.

I am having a hard time with my best friend too. Different situation though. My best friend still lives at home with her parents so as you can imagine our lives are very different now that I have a husband, a house and want to start a family. She can't relate to anything in my life anymore and at times she can be very insensitive. She has a good heart but she is clueless. She can't understand the hurt of a miscarriage and she doesn't understand how badly I want to be pregnant again. She just can't relate at all. I feel like I have no one.

I know it's not the same thing, but you have US. We understand and we're here for you

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I hate that I went to a family party this month and they all asked THOSE questions.

Give me some space people!

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Posted by BigSmooch

Posted by MySunshine

Posted by BigSmooch

Posted by Megs4

Also, my best friend is pregnant and I am thrilled for her but she gets pregnant on the first try, every time, and I feel like she can't relate to my efforts and frustration, making it hard to talk to her lately.

I am having a hard time with my best friend too. Different situation though. My best friend still lives at home with her parents so as you can imagine our lives are very different now that I have a husband, a house and want to start a family. She can't relate to anything in my life anymore and at times she can be very insensitive. She has a good heart but she is clueless. She can't understand the hurt of a miscarriage and she doesn't understand how badly I want to be pregnant again. She just can't relate at all. I feel like I have no one.

I know it's not the same thing, but you have US. We understand and we're here for you

Thank you

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to all!

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I hate that now that DH and I are on the same page as far as TTC that now our finances are totally screwed up and I feel awful for wanting to have a child now.

I hate how DH will say, don't worry honey - it will all work out, if we waited until we were financially sound we would NEVER have kids. Its just so easy for him to dismiss things.

I hate how I can't stop worrying about everything and this is only our 2 month TTC.

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I feel the same way as everyone else does. All of your posts brought me to tears...maybe because I am just hormonal but it's also because they made me feel that I am not alone

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What I hate the most most most is the not knowing! If somehow, someway, I could just KNOW that I will have children someday this would all be so much easier. I am a week away from my surgery (to remove my cyst and endo) and the not knowing how bad it is is killing me!

I tried to talk to DH about this sinking feeling I would not have a baby I have had for years (way before I ever knew about my condition). As much as I wanted children I felt in my heart I would just never get pregnant. I tried to chalk it up to just being fear but now that this is going on I am SO scared it was my intuition all along. DH is oblivious to what I am saying.. He keeps asking if I think I either made myself get endo or if I think I am psychic?? I guess men are oblivious to the whole intuition concept. I just keep hoping and praying in my case I am wrong..

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It seems like right aftre DH and I got enagaged....literally everyone around us got pregnant.

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I hate the fact that I hate the fact that sometimes fertile people annoy me

I hate the fact that DD is 3.5 and everyone around us that had a baby around the time I had DD is already pregnant with #2 or already has #2 and I feel left out


Just recently DD started telling me she wants a baby...a little brother...I told her I'm trying but it breaks my heart to hear her ask me over and over again

I hate the fact that a certain evil IL I know is pregnant even though she can't handle the kids she already has and was adamant about not having more kids.

I hate the fact that I've been married 11 years and have struggled a number of them with fertility. If you asked me 11 years ago when I got married where I would be now and I would have thought for sure I would have been done having kids....I guess God had other plans.

I hate the fact that I will never be one of "those" couples that just gets pregnant sharing the same soap especially when everyone else around me seems to be coming right off of the fertile boat

BUT on a bright note I love the fact that when I do get my BFP the feeling inside me will be that of overwhelming joy and love....that my heart will not sink at the thought but leap at the fact that I will become a Mommy again.

I'm also blessed to have an extremely understanding and supportive DH and family who will be just as happy as me once I do get my BFP.

I'm also lucky to have this site and all the great ladies on here and IF who support each other, cry with each other and are happy when someone graduates. That is priceless

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I hate that every time I open facebook, someone new has posted a picture of their uterus with a baby in it. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for every last one of them but I'd like to be one of them.

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I hate when people say "it was so unexpected". Dude, you have sex without protection and guess what...you CAN get pregnant

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Posted by Megs4

Everything everyone said... but lately my biggest gripe is that in my office of 24 people, 3 couples are expecting, and upon the most recent announcement everyone comes rushing over to me saying "Get going!" or "Be careful it's contagious!" etc.

This summer it will be one year for me - I had hoped to be the first to announce in my office, but now would be thrilled to be the fourth... It's torture here these days.

Also, my best friend is pregnant and I am thrilled for her but she gets pregnant on the first try, every time, and I feel like she can't relate to my efforts and frustration, making it hard to talk to her lately.

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I hate that i now dread POAS. And I hate that even *IF* I do one day see a BFP, I will feel more afraid than anything else.

My problems pale in comparison to a lot of ladies on here, so thanks for letting me be a part of the group vent.

Hugs and baby dust to everyone on here!!

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Ladies!

I hate:

that I can't be normal and just TTC like a normal person.

that I now need to take meds so my immune system will chill the heck out and stop attacking my eggs, DHs sperm and our possible embryo

that there is still a chance I have clotting issues that were never checked and I'm not being treated for

that my tubes could possibly be re-blocked by now

that my insurance company are a bunch of jerks

that even if I do get a bfp, I can't even be happy about it like a normal person because I'll have to take meds and intralipids for 12 weeks and live in fear that it wont stick

that I see people complaining about mundane crap that really isn't that big of a deal. Walk in one of our shoes and you will see things differently.

ETA- that certain people in my life seem to think that just because you are married that you must be ttc and if you aren't pregnant by now then it's b/c you don't want kids and you are selfish, otherwise you would have adopted by now

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Among other things, this has been bothering me the MOST. That my MIL has been telling DH, BIL's, SIL that something just seems different about me and that she is 100% convinced I'm pregnant and has been saying this since February. I'm not pregnant, I am trying and I dont appreciate you telling everyone I'm glowing or she just sees something different. It makes me so angry, just leave me be and stop assuming, no one even told you were are TTC so it's all in your head.

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First of all, Gina, thank you so much for this. We all need it!

And secondly, my heart goes out to everyone here. At least we have each other!

OK....

I hate that after 11 months of trying I finally get a BFP and miscarry within a few days.

I hate that now every time I see a ClearBlue Easy digital test I want to cry/get nauseous.

I hate that my stupid cycles are so long and sometimes unpredictable.

I hate that I can't be happy for my friends/co-workers when they are pregnant. I want to be a better person!

I hate that my dr. acts like I'm overreacting and it's no big deal.

I hate that DS is going to be 2 next month and I thought he would have a little brother/sister by now (or at least one in the oven!)

I hate that I wrote this many things that I hate. I sound so whiny and ungrateful.

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I hate going to family party's and having my mom ask, EVERY time....

"So...... what are you drinking?".

STFU.

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Gina, I'm still praying for you and Christina and Laurie every day. Its so unfair that its taking so long but you ladies were meant to be mommies and it will happen! xoxo

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I agree with every single one of these posts. It is hard not to feel all of these things you know?

But I will add one thing. I hate that I was so careful for so many years NOT to get pregnant. I never really lived on the edge, I was too paranoid you know? I hate birth control so used condoms and was always so careful. Well where is my da*n reward? And I am healthy, eat good, work out, save money, etc - I am ready to provide for a child and nothing so far except a miscarrage, ugh.

Also I hate hearing in the news about someone who "threw their baby out" or "beat their child" or crackheads who get pregnant and cant get off the drugs. Why do these people get babies but we dont?