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momtimes2
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Are you a shoes on or off household?
I think it is incredibly rude to ask a guest to remove their shoes. We most of the time go shoeless in the house but the kids sometimes forget to do it as soon as they walk in, I honestly dont care either way. I kick my shoes off after work and put on slippers. I would be extremely put off if someone asked me to remove my shoes at their home. I want my guests to feel comfortable
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jessnbrian
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
Posted by momtimes2
I think it is incredibly rude to ask a guest to remove their shoes. We most of the time go shoeless in the house but the kids sometimes forget to do it as soon as they walk in, I honestly dont care either way. I kick my shoes off after work and put on slippers. I would be extremely put off if someone asked me to remove my shoes at their home. I want my guests to feel comfortable
Can I ask why you think it's "incredibly rude" to ask a guest to remove their shoes? If this is your culture and your lifestyle why would you consider this rude? We aren't asking you to remove your shoes at your own house, but if you are coming into my house and I ask, "Hey would you mind removing your shoes?", why am I being rude?
I'm honestly finding so many of these comments so offensive, I'm so shocked people would find it "so rude" to be asked to take your shoes off! I get finding it weird or odd, especially in a party situation (which is a completely different instance), but come the eff on!
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| Posted 5/6/15 2:46 PM |
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FirstMate
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
On! And I absolutely hate it when people ask me to remove my shoes in their house. Especially when I'm blindsided and don't have socks on or a pedicure.
Message edited 5/6/2015 2:56:06 PM.
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momtimes2
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stephanie
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
Posted by jessnbrian
Posted by momtimes2
I think it is incredibly rude to ask a guest to remove their shoes. We most of the time go shoeless in the house but the kids sometimes forget to do it as soon as they walk in, I honestly dont care either way. I kick my shoes off after work and put on slippers. I would be extremely put off if someone asked me to remove my shoes at their home. I want my guests to feel comfortable
Can I ask why you think it's "incredibly rude" to ask a guest to remove their shoes? If this is your culture and your lifestyle why would you consider this rude? We aren't asking you to remove your shoes at your own house, but if you are coming into my house and I ask, "Hey would you mind removing your shoes?", why am I being rude?
I'm honestly finding so many of these comments so offensive, I'm so shocked people would find it "so rude" to be asked to take your shoes off! I get finding it weird or odd, especially in a party situation (which is a completely different instance), but come the eff on!
it's an opinion, relax!!! why are you taking this so personal. MY opinion is that it is rude, it is not something I would ever do, nor would anyone I know. maybe someone else who thinks it is rude can explain it better, it is just my opinion.
some people are not comfortable taking their shoes off in someone else's home, I take mine off not due to the dirt factor (that is why God invented vacuums and mops) but moreso for the comfort factor, I prefer to slip on my slippers after a long day at work. I want my guests to be comfortable in my home and obviously a lot of people in general are not comfortable with that (as seen in this post). if they want to take their shoes off, fine, if not, that is also fine.
Message edited 5/6/2015 3:00:37 PM.
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| Posted 5/6/15 2:57 PM |
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momtimes2
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
Posted by FirstMate
On! And I absolutely hate it when people ask me to remove my shoes in their house. Especially when I'm blindsided and don't have socks on or a pedicure.
be prepared to explain exactly why you hate this - lol
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| Posted 5/6/15 2:57 PM |
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jessnbrian
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Are you a shoes on or off household?
Wow, well... when you tell someone that you find their culture "incredibly rude" it is VERY offensive, DO NOT tell someone to relax. Yes, it's an opinion, and your opinion offended me. I am asking why you find it so rude.... I find it interesting that you can't explain why you find it so rude. I explained why I ask people to remove shoes when they come into my house.
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| Posted 5/6/15 3:00 PM |
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momtimes2
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
Posted by jessnbrian
Wow, well... when you tell someone that you find their culture "incredibly rude" it is VERY offensive, DO NOT tell someone to relax. Yes, it's an opinion, and your opinion offended me. I am asking why you find it so rude.... I find it interesting that you can't explain why you find it so rude. I explained why I ask people to remove shoes when they come into my house.
IT IS MY OPINION, that's it, it is weird to ask a guest to remove their shoes. if it is a cultural thing, then more power to you - I will never be a guest at your home so who cares what I think. Why are you zoning in on my post when SEVERAL other posters said it was rude too?????
I don't know how else to explain my point, and since this seems to be a sore spot for you, I will leave well enough alone. nothing else needs to be said, you have your opinion, I have mine. period!!!
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| Posted 5/6/15 3:02 PM |
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momtimes2
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Are you a shoes on or off household?
this topic always causes drama, along with dogs in stores and breastfeeding...ahh, good times!!!
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| Posted 5/6/15 3:04 PM |
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jessnbrian
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Are you a shoes on or off household?
I was asking in general to ALL people who called it rude. I, personally, found your response and initial post to be very offensive, which is why I quoted it in the first place. I was honestly asking for an explanation from ANYONE who considered it rude.
Message edited 5/6/2015 3:08:09 PM.
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stinger
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
Shoes off for me and my family. I dont like dog shit treading inside.
When most people come over they usually take their shoes off especially when they see a shoe basket with ours right by the door.
However I dont "make" anyone. I see it as respect for entering into ones home. I would take them off at someone elses home if thats what they want.
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| Posted 5/6/15 3:07 PM |
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jessnbrian
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
Posted by stinger
Shoes off for me and my family. I dont like dog shit treading inside.
When most people come over they usually take their shoes off especially when they see a shoe basket with ours right by the door.
However I dont "make" anyone. I see it as respect for entering into ones home. I would take them off at someone elses home if thats what they want.
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| Posted 5/6/15 3:08 PM |
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momtimes2
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stephanie
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
Posted by jessnbrian
I was asking in general to ALL people who called it rude. I, personally, found your response and initial post to be very offensive, which is why I quoted it in the first place. I was honestly asking for an explanation from ANYONE who considered it rude.
Sorry if you felt offended. not my intention, of course
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| Posted 5/6/15 3:08 PM |
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LuckyStar
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Are you a shoes on or off household?
Generally shoes off, but I do not ask guests to remove their shoes because I hate having to do it at other people's homes. I oblige, obviously, but I don't like having to do it ESPECIALLY in the summer when I'm not wearing socks. I hate being barefoot and it makes me uncomfortable but not my house, not my rules.
In a party setting, I think asking guests to remove shoes is inappropriate. If I were dressed up for an occasion and was asked to stand around barefoot I would be very annoyed.
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| Posted 5/6/15 3:08 PM |
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jessnbrian
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
Posted by momtimes2
Posted by jessnbrian
I was asking in general to ALL people who called it rude. I, personally, found your response and initial post to be very offensive, which is why I quoted it in the first place. I was honestly asking for an explanation from ANYONE who considered it rude.
Sorry if you felt offended. not my intention, of course
I appreciate that. I understood that, which is why I was honestly asking for explanations. No one I know has ever expressed issues with removing shoes, so I really wanted to know why it would be considered rude. 
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JME78
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
I think it is rude to care more about your carpets and floors than the comfort of a guest you invited into your home.
I do not feel comfortable being barefoot in someone else's home.
Also as much as you don't want people tracking stuff in to your house, I don't want to put my bare feet all over someone else's house.
Also some people have foot issues and need the support of a shoe.
Also I think its incredibly weird to go to a party and get dressed up and then everyone is standing around barefoot in dresses and suits.
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jessnbrian
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
Posted by JME78
I think it is rude to care more about your carpets and floors than the comfort of a guest you invited into your home.
It's not a carpet issue, it's cultural. And when you have an infant crawling around the floors, you don't want the street grossness to be what he's picking up. If someone said, I'm not comfortable that's one thing, but to simply ask for it?
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| Posted 5/6/15 3:17 PM |
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jessnbrian
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
I have to add, I am reading this and hearing myself get so upset and offended by the comments, and I really cannot for the life of me figure out why it upsets me so much! I think I need another vacation! 
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| Posted 5/6/15 3:20 PM |
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momtimes2
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
Posted by jessnbrian
I have to add, I am reading this and hearing myself get so upset and offended by the comments, and I really cannot for the life of me figure out why it upsets me so much! I think I need another vacation!
 
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| Posted 5/6/15 3:22 PM |
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JME78
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
Posted by jessnbrian
Posted by JME78
I think it is rude to care more about your carpets and floors than the comfort of a guest you invited into your home.
It's not a carpet issue, it's cultural. And when you have an infant crawling around the floors, you don't want the street grossness to be what he's picking up. If someone said, I'm not comfortable that's one thing, but to simply ask for it?
I have a toddler. We wear shoes in the house. He is fine.
Why put your guests in that position? It may be your culture but I wouldn't insist that my friends that keep kosher eat ham.
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| Posted 5/6/15 3:22 PM |
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momtimes2
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
Posted by jessnbrian
Posted by JME78
I think it is rude to care more about your carpets and floors than the comfort of a guest you invited into your home.
It's not a carpet issue, it's cultural. And when you have an infant crawling around the floors, you don't want the street grossness to be what he's picking up. If someone said, I'm not comfortable that's one thing, but to simply ask for it?
that's the thing though, I do not think anyone would say "I am not comfortable" after being put on the spot (I know I wouldn't - I would oblige but feel weird) - I never want me guests to feel weird.
I also think that most people, if they see everyone with their shoes off would ask "hey, do you want me to take my shoes off"? in that case, it is not rude to respond "yes please" - kwim?
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| Posted 5/6/15 3:23 PM |
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jessnbrian
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Jessica
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
Posted by JME78
Posted by jessnbrian
Posted by JME78
I think it is rude to care more about your carpets and floors than the comfort of a guest you invited into your home.
It's not a carpet issue, it's cultural. And when you have an infant crawling around the floors, you don't want the street grossness to be what he's picking up. If someone said, I'm not comfortable that's one thing, but to simply ask for it?
I have a toddler. We wear shoes in the house. He is fine.
Why put your guests in that position? It may be your culture but I wouldn't insist that my friends that keep kosher eat ham.
It's not insisted, it's just asked for. Like I said earlier, DH is Chinese, it's part of their culture, you simply do not wear shoes in a house, it's considered dirty, but there are, of course, exceptions.
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| Posted 5/6/15 3:24 PM |
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jessnbrian
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
Posted by momtimes2
Posted by jessnbrian
Posted by JME78
I think it is rude to care more about your carpets and floors than the comfort of a guest you invited into your home.
It's not a carpet issue, it's cultural. And when you have an infant crawling around the floors, you don't want the street grossness to be what he's picking up. If someone said, I'm not comfortable that's one thing, but to simply ask for it?
that's the thing though, I do not think anyone would say "I am not comfortable" after being put on the spot (I know I wouldn't - I would oblige but feel weird) - I never want me guests to feel weird.
I also think that most people, if they see everyone with their shoes off would ask "hey, do you want me to take my shoes off"? in that case, it is not rude to respond "yes please" - kwim?
Yeah, the 2 big baskets of shoes sitting at the front door are usually a big tip off for people  There are people I never ask, I have never asked my grandpa (or grandma when she was still around), and for parties/events, you're cleaning the house afterward anyways, so who cares.
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| Posted 5/6/15 3:26 PM |
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jessnbrian
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
Posted by momtimes2
Posted by jessnbrian
I have to add, I am reading this and hearing myself get so upset and offended by the comments, and I really cannot for the life of me figure out why it upsets me so much! I think I need another vacation!
Seriously, you'd never know I just spent 3 days in Boca... Maybe this is the breakdown I keep saying I'm due for.
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| Posted 5/6/15 3:27 PM |
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PaddysGirl
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Are you a shoes on or off household?
Upstairs shoes off. That's where my dd is most of the time. Downstairs shoes are fine.
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CookiePuss
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Re: Are you a shoes on or off household?
Posted by jessnbrian
Posted by momtimes2
I think it is incredibly rude to ask a guest to remove their shoes. We most of the time go shoeless in the house but the kids sometimes forget to do it as soon as they walk in, I honestly dont care either way. I kick my shoes off after work and put on slippers. I would be extremely put off if someone asked me to remove my shoes at their home. I want my guests to feel comfortable
Can I ask why you think it's "incredibly rude" to ask a guest to remove their shoes? If this is your culture and your lifestyle why would you consider this rude? We aren't asking you to remove your shoes at your own house, but if you are coming into my house and I ask, "Hey would you mind removing your shoes?", why am I being rude?
I'm honestly finding so many of these comments so offensive, I'm so shocked people would find it "so rude" to be asked to take your shoes off! I get finding it weird or odd, especially in a party situation (which is a completely different instance), but come the eff on!
I'm not the OP but I completely agree with her and I am always put off to be asked to remove my shoes when I enter a home.
Why do I find it rude you ask? Because it makes me feel incredibly uncomfortable to be barefoot or go in my socks in someone else's home. I think it's reasonable to assume I may keep my shoes on in someone's home if I'm invited in the house. I hate walking around in bare feet and it grosses me out to walk around in bare feet.
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