Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

I'm starting to get a little upset. I guess it isn't like I thought it was going to be. Are your kids close with the aunts and uncles?

Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

my sis and her DH yes very close
My husbands side- not so much

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My brother sees the kids about once a month or so. He really loves them.

My DH's side of the family- his sister has never met any of my 3 kids, and his brother we see only a couple of times a year, they have no idea who either of them are.

Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

dh only has 1 brother and i have 1 sister, so they are very close with his bro and his wife, we are their dds godparents and they are godparents to one of my twin girls, we are close to my sis and her dh but they don't live near us so they don't know them as well, as my dds get older i plan on doing skype and frequent phone calls and visiting as often as permits, i want them to be close with their aunts and uncles especially since they have so few

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Not so much, on both sides. Mostly just holidays, special events, and infrequent get togethers. My children don't really know their aunts/uncles. It's not what I expected or hoped for at all

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I only have 1 sibling and he lives in MD - so maybe 3-4 times a year? They have 3 kids and DD is super close to them though and talks about them all the time.

DH's has a brother and half-sister that are on LI and pretty close, and they still only see the kids maybe once a month, more like once every 2 months. They are both single, no kids of their own.

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Yes, they see their aunt and uncles a lot. They are very lucky to have such involved family.

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My DH side---yes we see them at least 1x a week. We go to events for each other (gymnastic shows, preschool events etc) we are all really close.

My side not so much...we see them for b-days, or other events and they know their anuts and uncles and love to see them, but its not that often we see them.

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Which Aunts & Uncles?

Because my aunt is like her 'grandma' basically. She's SUPER involved. I mean MEGA, SUPER DUPER. She lives there in the summer and comes home only on weekends. (as in right now). I rarely buy AJ clothes, Auntie buys them.

Uncle buys her uniform shirts for school. She adores him and he adores her. My aunt is 72 and her husband is 50.

My twin brothers adore her too to the point of jealousy between the two of them. She loves Uncle Danny and calls and leaves him voicemails to say "I love you and miss you" he will stop and make webcam calls for her. She's 3, hes 21. You understand how cool that is?

My sister is in WA with her own baby girl. But she likes all AJ photos on Facebook, asks about her and cares.

My older brother treats her like a little buddy when we see him. Rare

His sister adores her and spoils her when she sees her (not often).

His brother likes her but well he's a guy LOL

She's scared of my other Uncle and Aunt, I dont know why. The rest of the Granduncles, Grandaunts, 2nd/3rd cousins etc, she's meh about. All 6 of my grandparents are gone.

ETA: NO aunt or uncle (aka my sister or 4 brothers, his sister or brother) lives in Town or in State.

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The 'Aunts' and 'Uncles' that are the most involved in my sons life are our friends, not family. Go figure.

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Dh has a sister, I have a brother. Both are DS's favorite people!
He sees his aunt at least once a week. She runs around with him and they have dance parties, which he loves!
He sees his uncle (who is only 18yrs old) twice a week or more depending on my class schedule. They play ball, wrestle, and just behave like guys. DS refuses to leave the house unless his uncle walks him to the car and straps him into his carseat.

overall, DS is a very lucky kid!

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My kids are super close to my sister. She treats them as if they were her own, and they adore her. DH has a brother and a sister and our kids rarely see them even though they don't live too far.
I've learned you are going to have the family that's involved in your child's life and take an interest and you will have the family members that sadly don't give a damn!

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My daughter is only 8 days old, but based on how involved we are with our nephews and niece, I imagine that my DD will be very close with her aunts and uncles. My sister and family live on SI and are dying to come back to see her. I am very close with her and her boys. DD's other aunts and uncle all live within 10 minutes of us, and we do a lot of family things, so I expect a lot of involvement. I'm sorry you've been disappointed.

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My siblings yes...my Dh only brother nope, my son wouldnt know him if he fell over him

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DH is the oldest of 5, and we all live in the same town and see each other pretty frequently, but out of those we are only only close with DH's brother, his wife, and their kids. Meaning we see everyone else at family functions often, but don't choose to socialize with them otherwise.

I am the oldest of three. My sister is like a second mom to my kids, and I am the same with her DD. We are all extremely close. My brother barely knows my kids.

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My siblings...pretty close. My DD sees my sister & her kids about once a month (would be more if we lived closer) and my brother probably once every other month

My BIL she has met two or three times.

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Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

I am extremely close with my sisters kids and she is with my twins like seeing each other twice a week sometimes more and the days we don't visit we FaceTime.

My single brother sees them every other week

My married brother not so often maybe once twice a month

Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

My kids are the closest with DH's brother and his wife. Ther close with DH's other siblings and my brother and SIL, but they have this bond with DH's brother an his wife that's unbelievable!

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My sister and her husband and kids adore my son. They lead very busy lives with the kids' involvement in competitive swimming but I would say that DS is very close with them. They make a big fuss over DS .

I have a cousin who doesn't live nearby but his child is like a cousin to DS.

DH has 2 siblings and while we loved their kids, the parents have treated DH in a way that we will never be in touch again. Their loss.

So basically, 1 aunt and uncle that DS is close with, but there is other family around (my aunt and uncle, my cousin, etc.).

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my sister and I aren't talking...... so there's no involvement there(basically started shortly after ds was born). eta- when my sister had her kids first I was involved plenty.

dh's brother is around alot for ds......he isn't married & kids yet.

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Posted by Momma2Be

Not so much, on both sides. Mostly just holidays, special events, and infrequent get togethers. My children don't really know their aunts/uncles. It's not what I expected or hoped for at all

Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

My sister and brother - very close.

My DH has one sister and we only see her once in a blue moon.

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my brothers and DH brother are oos ~ the relationship is not what I thought it would be.

We are more involved with DH's brother more than my family but we are in the same place married and having children so we try to see each other a few times a year with visits/vacations. Plus we have the cousins skype.

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My sister is very involved. My dh is an only child