Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

My brother & sister are very involved and I am the same way with my nephews all on my side. My sister lives OOS, but, we see each other once a month! We try our best to make that happen. She comes to L.I. or we go to MA.

My BIL & SIL live OOS and we don't see them much. When we do, they are great with the kids.

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

My brother (not a father) always checks in on "the little guy".

DH's brother (who is a father) and SIL never calls or asks how his Godson is doing, ever.

DH's sister left the family so she doesn't count.

DS's Godmother is my best friend and she is the best "Aunt" a baby can ask for.

We live out of state so it's hard to see each other often but even if we still lived on LI, I'm positive the relationships would be the same. I'm actually very upset with BIL and SIL.

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

My brother sees my girls about 3-4 times a week. Sometimes he stops by for just a little bit and we usually do Sunday dinner. My older dd loves her uncle John! He spoils them and he's the fun guy to be around! My dh has a brother an sister they come by once every 3-4 months. My dd doesn't really know them. She doesn't know them by name or anything. They are busy with their lives and I don't think they love spending their time with an active toddler and a newborn.

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

they are very very close with DD. however we live in the same house as 2 of them!!

for the first 5 months or so they were a little scared cause she was a preemie and sooo little so they weren't as hands on. now that she is bigger and has developed her personality a bit more they are all about her. just for reference though two of them are young (18 and 20) and the other turns 30 this year. none are married or have kids, DD is the first baby within the inner circles of our family. they are all Dhs brothers and sisters since I'm an only child.

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Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

My sister lives OOS (NJ) with her DH and 3 kids. We see each other at least once a month. I would say were are involved in each others lives/family as much as possible.

DH has a sister and brother who are both married. They live close and are super involved. DHs brother and wife are darn near obsessed with my kids and I consider ourselves so lucky to have them as part of our extended family.

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

DS is 3 months. SIL is very involved, but she has kids around the same age. My own sister is not involved at all, and often doesnt even want to hold him, but has no kids.

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

My sister us pretty involved, but we live next door to each other do she doesn't have a choice! Both of my DS idolize her dd and we see them at least 2 times a week. My DH brother and sister are much less involved then I expected them to be. In the rare occasion I ask for their help, they won't necessarily say no. But they rarely make an effort to see the boys on their own. My bil has babysat 1 time in almost 6 years. My SIL has twice taken my older one to do something- not the younger one.

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

They are close with my sister and her husband. DH's brothers live in Florida so my kids don't see them often.

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Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

I thought my BIL would be more involved. It hurt at first but now I'm used to it. I don't think he realizes. My cousin (like a sister) lives far away but is very involved in every way she can be! I have another cousin who is like a great uncle to my DDs and is super duper involved (came with us on an 8 night disney cruise). People show me how much they care and I've learned that the "title" a person gets in life is earned more than given by relationship. That is why my DDs have aunts and uncles who aren't my siblings!

Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

We have 4 brothers between the both of us and they are VERY involved in my DDs lives. All 4 see them about 2-3x/wk on average, sometimes more.
I also have very close friends that my daughters consider "Aunt or Uncle" as well. They also see them multiple times a week. I love it!

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

my sister and her DH live up the block from us---and we're both extremely involved in our kids lives.
My brother is 19yo and he adores his nieces as well.
DS' sister and brother in law are not as involved, but they're trying

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

My brothers and BIL are close/involved with my kids and try to see them once a month even though we are all OOS from each other. My SIL (married to my brother after my kids were born) wants nothing to do with my children. They live OOS. My brother comes to see our family without her. I hope one day to have a better relationship but I am not holding my breath as I have reached out more times than I can count. At this point she needs to decide whether or not to have a relationship with us.

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

We each have a brother, both single but with serious GFs.

My BIL lives 15 minutes from us now and sees them pretty much every weekend.

My brother lives in Boston and sees them 2-3 times a year. I'm pretty disappointed about that.

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

DH has two sisters. One lives with his mother and we see them every single week. The other we see as often as we can.

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

My sister watches DS when i work so shes very involved w him as is her DH. He doesnt really see his uncle/Godfather from DHs side but i wish he did. Hes single and busy alot but i dont let it bother me.

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

My sister is very involved. She lives about an hour away but sees the kids about twice a month and loves them very very much.
My brother and his wife live in DC but I know they love the kids alot too. They make special visits up here just to see the kids. They come as much as they can and like to spend all their time up here with the kids. Its great...SIL is pregnant now with her first so I am excited that the cousins will be close even though they live a couple hours away.
DHs side is different because they all live overseas and there are lots and lots and lots of them. so my kids are like a dime a dozen in that family! lol.. I mean, they love them and enjoy seeing them but because of the distance its not like they are super close, doting aunts and uncles.

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

My BFF, their godmother, yes. She is very close to them, and they love her.

Our brothers are not involved with our kids at all. They suck.

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

They are as involved as they can be living so far away (about 600 miles). My sisters adore my kids, always want to see them and spend time with them, and usually have a gift when we see them.

My SIL is a sweet girl but she's very young (25) and is as involved as her work, school, internship and social life allow her to be! When we are home visiting we don't see her all that much but I really think that's just because she's so busy. She's very good to the kids though, especially now that they are older - she is scared of babies

I have to say, they are all way more involved than I think I would be. I love my kids, I like my friends' kids, but I'm not a *kid* person per se.

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

my sisters and brothers... very involved. the kids see them a lot. i am very close with my family and my mom watches them 3 days a week so everyone in my family sees them a lot.

DH's family different story. sil lives in florida so not really involved at all, although it would be nice because our kids are the exact same ages almost to the day. DH's brother... great guy, but we just don't see him a lot. his wife though, works at the daycare where the kids go part-time, so she sees them a good bit, but we don't really hang out. weird, right? she sees them without me. lol don't get me started on FIL (MIL is passed). he very rarely sees them. DD was praying the other night and said, God bless Pop-Pop (my Dad). I said God Bless Grandpa for DH's dad and she was like but I already said God Bless Pop-Pop.. She was so confused! He's a nice guy, but just doesn't make the effort.

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

My brother lives 10 minutes away and sees her MAYBE once every 3 months..

His sister lives in Chicago and has seen her WAY more then my brother has.

My brother never bought her a gift or anything, sometimes i feel like i Have to force him to come over to hang with her. And whenever he does.. my daughter cries, because she doesn't know who he is.

Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

DH and I both come from big families. My DD has about 15 aunts and uncles. Out of that there are about 8 that are involved in her life. But 3 of those live far away so they can't be around as much as we would like.

My family is much closer than DH's to our DD and that's just fine by me. Because I'd rather have quality than quantity! My brother sees her usually 1x a week or more and my sister about 1x a month because she lives in Queens and we were in Suffolk. I'm extremely close to my brother's kids so we try and get them together as much as we can since they love their little cousin!

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

My brother and SIL and my sister see DS once a week on average, sometimes more, sometimes less, but they are very involved. DH is one of four so there are six aunts/uncles total on that side of the family and a large amount of first cousins. I would say we see them 2x a month, BUT we talk through phone, texting, and facebook pretty much every day. So we are all kept very involved in each others lives even though we don't see each other all the time.
My 3 best friends are also "aunties" to my DS and the two who have fiances are "uncle". They are also very involved, my one BFF is here once a week to spend time with us.

Re: Aunts and uncles. How involved are they in your kids lives?

Some yes and some no. Many are far away and they skype constantly. However, my sister is close and barely sees him.