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Mimi25
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Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
I recently had a discussion with a friend who made a comment that has me very curious. This pertains to those who have been married and have had children.
Do you think those who have had babies or been married before should get a baby and/or bridal shower?
Her feeling was if you know you are planning on having more children, you should keep the stuff you have to re-use. Now what if you didn't plan on it, but it happened and you don't have a lot of the "necessities". Would you be wrong in wanting or liking a shower? Or what if you had a child 3,4,5 years ago and it's a different sex? I don't think I'd expect one, but my personal opinion is each child is a blessing and I would throw one for a friend/family etc regardless of how many they've had, even if it's only for the necessities.
I know it can get tricky with Bridal showers, but what's your feeling on that?
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Lisa
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
I dont believe in "sprinkles"...showers for 2nd 3rd or 4th babies!! 
I know someone that has 5 children...all pretty close in age and has had HUGE showers for each of them. She keeps the stuff from her other kids and sells off the stuff that she gets that is new... that is just wrong!!!
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
I know everyone is different on this---but in my family and my experience....a baby shower was usually only thrown for the first baby only.
However if there was a large age gap between kids sometimes another shower was thrown.
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| Posted 9/8/08 3:22 PM |
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dandr10199
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
Posted by MrsPJB2007
I know everyone is different on this---but in my family and my experience....a baby shower was usually only thrown for the first baby only.
However if there was a large age gap between kids sometimes another shower was thrown.
Same here.
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| Posted 9/8/08 3:46 PM |
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MrsPorkChop
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
i can understnad a suprise "sprinkle" where the person did not reguster but the child is a different sex and people buy thme clothes accessories etc.
but a fully planned big shower for a second baby, im totalyl against
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| Posted 9/8/08 3:48 PM |
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neener1211
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
In our family, you get one to a customer. This is more than enough IMO.
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eroxgirl
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
In my family you get one baby shower and that's it. Even though we're not sure we'll have a second child, I told DH we're saving all of DD's gear for 3 years 'just in case.'
I am not opposed to a second shower if there are 5 years or more in between children though. By that time a lot of baby equipment no longer meets federal regulations and you'd have to replace it whether you wanted a shower or not.
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| Posted 9/8/08 3:53 PM |
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Shelly
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
Baby showers: I am not a fan of them. It may be cultural, but I didn't have one. I feel like its a handout for gifts, and then people expect a gift when the baby is born.
As for bridal showers, I had one. If I had it to do over, I probably wouldn't. I had an engagement party a year before my wedding, which was so special. My friends and family all coming together and meeting one another before the wedding.
But I really don't think that I would have another shower if I got married again.
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Stefanie
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
I don't think there is anything wrong with celebrating another child by having a shower/sprinkle. I'm having another one next week. My son is 3 and I'm having another son.
I guess I broke all the rules...
My thoughts....if you don't want to come...you don't have to!
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| Posted 9/8/08 3:58 PM |
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
Posted by Shelly
Baby showers: I am not a fan of them. It may be cultural, but I didn't have one. I feel like its a handout for gifts, and then people expect a gift when the baby is born.
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I don't think people expect a gift when the baby is born. At least I didn't. But I also think a shower only for the 1st kid, unless the kids are more than 5 years apart.
I think if it is the brides first wedding and the grooms second she deserves a shower. Maybe a smaller one if it is her 2nd wedding. DH once told me, of course so and so should have another shower you can't expect her DH to eat off of another man's china.
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Jenn627
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
Posted by Stefanie
I don't think there is anything wrong with celebrating another child by having a shower/sprinkle. I'm having another one next week. My son is 3 and I'm having another son.
I guess I broke all the rules...
My thoughts....if you don't want to come...you don't have to!
I agree. I wouldn't have a sprinkle - but I certainly wouldn't hold it against someone. I love showers of any sort.
Unless I didn't like them, then I'd probably call them greedy.
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| Posted 9/8/08 4:19 PM |
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
Posted by MrsPJB2007
I know everyone is different on this---but in my family and my experience....a baby shower was usually only thrown for the first baby only.
However if there was a large age gap between kids sometimes another shower was thrown.
same here
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
Posted by MrsPJB2007
I know everyone is different on this---but in my family and my experience....a baby shower was usually only thrown for the first baby only.
However if there was a large age gap between kids sometimes another shower was thrown.
Same here.
I would also expect that if it's a second bridal shower, the couple would show some discretion & it should be more of a celebration party than a full on bridal shower.
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| Posted 9/8/08 4:26 PM |
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Tany
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
I'm not against it, whatever makes anyone happy, im no one to judge.
In the future, when im blessed to have another child, i would have one.
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| Posted 9/8/08 4:27 PM |
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KvsGrl
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
I think if you are having a shower strictly for the gifts, it is not appropriate at any time. Granted, people bring gifts, but I would hope the spirit of the shower is to celebrate the special occassion. I would not register for a second child...
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Gertyrae
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
IMO -
Baby shower for the first baby only - unless they are more than five years apart.
Bridal shower for one wedding only. If someone is getting married a second time, they should have everything they need to live together. I can, however, understand a bridal shower for a second wedding if one or the other hasn't been married before.
I really think that showers have gone from being a celebration of an upcoming event to a gimme session. I hear so much about people being disappointed at what they got or didn't get and/or talking about how much they got as opposed to being happy that a group of people got together to celebrate and spend the day with them.
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
Posted by MrsPJB2007
I know everyone is different on this---but in my family and my experience....a baby shower was usually only thrown for the first baby only.
However if there was a large age gap between kids sometimes another shower was thrown.
Same here. Though I do have a friend who had showers for all three pregnencies and I have to admit, the thought of at least getting some new stuff for the new baby is nice.
I wasn't around for her first shower (this is one of DH's friends and we weren't together when she was PG) but I was around for the second and third. They weren't big, just in her sister's house with some friends and family - no favors or anything and like I said, I have to admit, it was nice.
So actually, I'm not really sure where I stand on this!!!
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Beth
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
I see nothing wrong with having mutliple baby showers
I would buy a gift for the baby regardless
if you don't want to go- don't go
but I don't see my friends enough to complain about a PARTY!
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
I'm surprised that so many ppl are against more than 1 shower or only have 1 shower no matter how many kids the mother has. I wish more people were like you! lol
I was once invited to a baby shower for the 3rd and then a 4th baby!  (I didn't know the Mom for the first 2 kids - but she had showers for them too)
it is totally rediculous!
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
Posted by Beth1210
I see nothing wrong with having mutliple baby showers
I would buy a gift for the baby regardless
if you don't want to go- don't go
but I don't see my friends enough to complain about a PARTY!
if it's a close friend I agree - any excuse to see them is great + I would buy a gift for the baby anyway.
but for people I barely know - or people at work w/multiple kids - enough.
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JennZ
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
Posted by Gertyrae
IMO -
Baby shower for the first baby only - unless they are more than five years apart.
Bridal shower for one wedding only. If someone is getting married a second time, they should have everything they need to live together. I can, however, understand a bridal shower for a second wedding if one or the other hasn't been married before.
I really think that showers have gone from being a celebration of an upcoming event to a gimme session. I hear so much about people being disappointed at what they got or didn't get and/or talking about how much they got as opposed to being happy that a group of people got together to celebrate and spend the day with them.
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
i think one big shower for the first child is plenty!!
i would never expect a sprinkle or a 2nd shower...
but presents are always welcome
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| Posted 9/8/08 8:09 PM |
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JenniferH
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
Posted by neener1211
In our family, you get one to a customer. This is more than enough IMO.
Same in our family...and I agree...although I wouldn't mind it if someone threw me a second shower... 
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| Posted 9/8/08 8:11 PM |
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MichLiz213
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
My family threw my mom two baby showers. One when she was pregnant with me and one when she was pregnant with my 2nd brother. She had my first brother a year and two weeks after me, but there is a 6 year gap between my two brothers.
I guess it's whatever the family decides. It's always nice to celebrate.
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| Posted 9/8/08 8:14 PM |
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Mimi25
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Re: Baby/Bridal Showers (not sure this belongs on this board)
Wow. I have to admit I'm surprised that so many people are against it, but on the other hand, I can understand why.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this one!
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