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ThreeforTea
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Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
I like wish lists...makes my life easier as the one shopping. I know what to get without going crazy. I don't see what the big deal is.
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
Posted by forevermylilgirls
I like wish lists...makes my life easier as the one shopping. I know what to get without going crazy. I don't see what the big deal is.
The big deal is that it is apparently listed under "tacky" in the LIF rule book of etiquette. It's somewhere in between the chapters of icicle lights and not handwriting thank you cards  .
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| Posted 9/24/13 9:38 AM |
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
I just want to clarify something. I like wish lists. I make wish lists. I think putting the entire list in the body of an online invitation is tacky, not the list itself. The invite didn't simply have a link to the wish list, but actually had the list written out.
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| Posted 9/24/13 9:39 AM |
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ThreeforTea
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
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Posted by forevermylilgirls
I like wish lists...makes my life easier as the one shopping. I know what to get without going crazy. I don't see what the big deal is.
The big deal is that it is apparently listed under "tacky" in the LIF rule book of etiquette. It's somewhere in between the chapters of icicle lights and not handwriting thank you cards .
ahhh ok! lol
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| Posted 9/24/13 9:46 AM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
Posted by Jax430
I just want to clarify something. I like wish lists. I make wish lists. I think putting the entire list in the body of an online invitation is tacky, not the list itself. The invite didn't simply have a link to the wish list, but actually had the list written out.
Aaaahhhhhh.................I will admit, I read the OP wrong. I thought the link or the info for the list was on the evite, NOT the actual list written out. That's pretty ridiculous. Again, I have zero problem with a wish list (as I've stated) buuuuuuuut I would not write the list out on the invite. That just makes the invite/evite look cheap and tacky. There is a tactful way to include the info on an invite and writing the whole list out is definitely not it. 
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KwaaksNest
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Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
I love wishlists especially for kids you don"t really know that well..i think its a great idea even if you don"t get something off the list you know what they are into and what sizes they are...its very helpful
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Bridex100
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Jax430
I just want to clarify something. I like wish lists. I make wish lists. I think putting the entire list in the body of an online invitation is tacky, not the list itself. The invite didn't simply have a link to the wish list, but actually had the list written out.
Aaaahhhhhh.................I will admit, I read the OP wrong. I thought the link or the info for the list was on the evite, NOT the actual list written out. That's pretty ridiculous. Again, I have zero problem with a wish list (as I've stated) buuuuuuuut I would not write the list out on the invite. That just makes the invite/evite look cheap and tacky. There is a tactful way to include the info on an invite and writing the whole list out is definitely not it.
you did understand the post. The link for the wish list was featured in the body of the evite along with general description of what the child is into, sizes, etc.
Just to clarify my position, I am totally fine with wish lists. I just didn't like it featured in the invitation itself. The bulk of the guests who will be attending are classmates and new friends. This actually offended many people and I usually don't get bent out of shape about this sort of thing.
Giving a wish list to a grandparent, godparent, aunt, old childhood friend, etc to me is totally fine. I personally don't think it is ok to give a wish list to someone who didn't ask for one to a classmate or someone you have only known for a very short period of time.
Obviously from this post, it appears that half the people think it is great and the other think it is tacky.
eta: I should probably add that most of the gifts are in the $50-400 range. Maybe the list is for out of town family. It was circulated to all her new friends/acquaintances of which she offended many.
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
Posted by KwaaksNest
I love wishlists especially for kids you don"t really know that well..i think its a great idea even if you don"t get something off the list you know what they are into and what sizes they are...its very helpful
This! 
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| Posted 9/24/13 10:32 AM |
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ThreeforTea
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Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
I am confused..sorry. Was the link or the actual list on the invite?
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| Posted 9/24/13 10:34 AM |
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
Posted by forevermylilgirls
I am confused..sorry. Was the link or the actual list on the invite?
Link as well as description of items the child is into and sizes.
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| Posted 9/24/13 10:35 AM |
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Hofstra26
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Jax430
I just want to clarify something. I like wish lists. I make wish lists. I think putting the entire list in the body of an online invitation is tacky, not the list itself. The invite didn't simply have a link to the wish list, but actually had the list written out.
Aaaahhhhhh.................I will admit, I read the OP wrong. I thought the link or the info for the list was on the evite, NOT the actual list written out. That's pretty ridiculous. Again, I have zero problem with a wish list (as I've stated) buuuuuuuut I would not write the list out on the invite. That just makes the invite/evite look cheap and tacky. There is a tactful way to include the info on an invite and writing the whole list out is definitely not it.
you did understand the post. The link for the wish list was featured in the body of the evite along with general description of what the child is into, sizes, etc.
Just to clarify my position, I am totally fine with wish lists. I just didn't like it featured in the invitation itself. The bulk of the guests who will be attending are classmates and new friends. This actually offended many people and I usually don't get bent out of shape about this sort of thing.
Giving a wish list to a grandparent, godparent, aunt, old childhood friend, etc to me is totally fine. I personally don't think it is ok to give a wish list to someone who didn't ask for one to a classmate or someone you have only known for a very short period of time.
Obviously from this post, it appears that half the people think it is great and the other think it is tacky.
Oh ok. I thought maybe after seeing the other post I read yours wrong. lol
My guess, because it is classmates and new friends maybe the host thought it was especially helpful if she included wish list info since nobody knows her child well. I can understand why one might be a little put off BUT I would try and let it roll. It's not the worst offense and ultimately, it will help to make your shopping a little easier since you don't know the little kid well. 
I know you mentioned you might not go but think of that little kid all excited about their birthday party. How sad it would be if few showed up because people were offended by something his/her mom did on the invite. I just think of my own DD, my heart would be broken if hardly anyone showed up to her party. KWIM? I hope you go when all is said and done.
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Bridex100
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Jax430
I just want to clarify something. I like wish lists. I make wish lists. I think putting the entire list in the body of an online invitation is tacky, not the list itself. The invite didn't simply have a link to the wish list, but actually had the list written out.
Aaaahhhhhh.................I will admit, I read the OP wrong. I thought the link or the info for the list was on the evite, NOT the actual list written out. That's pretty ridiculous. Again, I have zero problem with a wish list (as I've stated) buuuuuuuut I would not write the list out on the invite. That just makes the invite/evite look cheap and tacky. There is a tactful way to include the info on an invite and writing the whole list out is definitely not it.
you did understand the post. The link for the wish list was featured in the body of the evite along with general description of what the child is into, sizes, etc.
Just to clarify my position, I am totally fine with wish lists. I just didn't like it featured in the invitation itself. The bulk of the guests who will be attending are classmates and new friends. This actually offended many people and I usually don't get bent out of shape about this sort of thing.
Giving a wish list to a grandparent, godparent, aunt, old childhood friend, etc to me is totally fine. I personally don't think it is ok to give a wish list to someone who didn't ask for one to a classmate or someone you have only known for a very short period of time.
Obviously from this post, it appears that half the people think it is great and the other think it is tacky.
Oh ok. I thought maybe after seeing the other post I read yours wrong. lol
My guess, because it is classmates and new friends maybe the host thought it was especially helpful if she included wish list info since nobody knows her child well. I can understand why one might be a little put off BUT I would try and let it roll. It's not the worst offense and ultimately, it will help to make your shopping a little easier since you don't know the little kid well.
I know you mentioned you might not go but think of that little kid all excited about their birthday party. How sad it would be if few showed up because people were offended by something his/her mom did on the invite. I just think of my own DD, my heart would be broken if hardly anyone showed up to her party. KWIM? I hope you go when all is said and done.
I did decline but there was a large fall festival the same day. If it was a friend or a classmate we knew somewhat well, I would probably have still gone. Our kids love birthday parties.
We have attended and have thrown a lot of birthday parties and most all gifts given/received are in the $20-25 range if it is not from a family friend or family member. It was just off putting to assume we are going to spend $50 on a gift for a child I don't even know.
It looks like a lot of people have actually declined. Not sure if it is the wish list and/or the other families also prefer to do some other fall activity the same weekend.
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Hofstra26
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
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Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by Hofstra26
Posted by Jax430
I just want to clarify something. I like wish lists. I make wish lists. I think putting the entire list in the body of an online invitation is tacky, not the list itself. The invite didn't simply have a link to the wish list, but actually had the list written out.
Aaaahhhhhh.................I will admit, I read the OP wrong. I thought the link or the info for the list was on the evite, NOT the actual list written out. That's pretty ridiculous. Again, I have zero problem with a wish list (as I've stated) buuuuuuuut I would not write the list out on the invite. That just makes the invite/evite look cheap and tacky. There is a tactful way to include the info on an invite and writing the whole list out is definitely not it.
you did understand the post. The link for the wish list was featured in the body of the evite along with general description of what the child is into, sizes, etc.
Just to clarify my position, I am totally fine with wish lists. I just didn't like it featured in the invitation itself. The bulk of the guests who will be attending are classmates and new friends. This actually offended many people and I usually don't get bent out of shape about this sort of thing.
Giving a wish list to a grandparent, godparent, aunt, old childhood friend, etc to me is totally fine. I personally don't think it is ok to give a wish list to someone who didn't ask for one to a classmate or someone you have only known for a very short period of time.
Obviously from this post, it appears that half the people think it is great and the other think it is tacky.
Oh ok. I thought maybe after seeing the other post I read yours wrong. lol
My guess, because it is classmates and new friends maybe the host thought it was especially helpful if she included wish list info since nobody knows her child well. I can understand why one might be a little put off BUT I would try and let it roll. It's not the worst offense and ultimately, it will help to make your shopping a little easier since you don't know the little kid well.
I know you mentioned you might not go but think of that little kid all excited about their birthday party. How sad it would be if few showed up because people were offended by something his/her mom did on the invite. I just think of my own DD, my heart would be broken if hardly anyone showed up to her party. KWIM? I hope you go when all is said and done.
I did decline but there was a large fall festival the same day. If it was a friend or a classmate we knew somewhat well, I would probably have still gone. Our kids love birthday parties.
We have attended and have thrown a lot of birthday parties and most all gifts given/received are in the $20-25 range if it is not from a family friend or family member. It was just off putting to assume we are going to spend $50 on a gift for a child I don't even know.
It looks like a lot of people have actually declined. Not sure if it is the wish list and/or the other families also prefer to do some other fall activity the same weekend.
Yea, I would agree..........$50 is a lot. I generally spend $20-25 on a classmate party. When I do my Wish Lists I always make sure to include things from as low as $8-10 and up. This way there is something for everyone's price point. If she just included more expensive items, that Wish List was certainly not well thought out.
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
I also DESPISE it b/c I think the principle of it is rude, obnoxious and presumptious and teaches kids all the wrong things about receiving a gift.
although, I will admit that it makes life easier for the gift giver
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
i woudln't mind this. It makes buying a gift so much easier. I know what I get the kid will like.
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Jax430
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
Posted by Bridex100
Posted by forevermylilgirls
I am confused..sorry. Was the link or the actual list on the invite?
Link as well as description of items the child is into and sizes.
Oops, I read it as the actual list being included, hence my strong response. Sorry for the misunderstanding! I'm still not a fan of sharing wish list info unless someone specifically asks, and I won't put the info in my DD's invitations, but I think it's fine to have one when asked directly for ideas.
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| Posted 9/24/13 12:32 PM |
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
The idea of one is fine, to have on hand for family and close friends if they ask what to get. However if i was making one for my child, i would probably chose the items on there myself and not have the kid involved in picking any of it since it just leads them to expect certain things for their birthday and potentially be disappointed if they don't get any/all of it.
I don't have a big family, and up until now, haven't really been invited to tons of kids parties. So to go to a store or online and pick out a cute item for a kid doesn't seem that big of a deal to me that i'd be annoyed if i didn't have a list to follow. But i suppose if i was going to many a year, i'd prefer a list to choose from.
I would probably not include it on an invite, but have it done for anyone that asks.
And for the OP - $50 and up gifts on the list you got?? whoa, that is what is presumptuous and tacky IMO.
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SweetSarj
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Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
At first I'd probably be annoyed it was sent with the invite. But honestly it would make things so much easier! One of the hardest things is shopping for bday presents for children ages 5+. There are so many things they are into and not into.
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| Posted 9/24/13 1:18 PM |
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Jugglemom
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
While I do not do wish lists I do not necessarily disagree with them and can see them as especially useful for family. I would never direct friends or classmates to a wish list as I think it would put many people off and is a little presumptuous. And it DEFINITELY should not be on the invite - I think that is just bad manners. If you are going to have a lit just direct people to it when they ask.
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lucky1007
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
I wish more people would do this...especially for kids because you never know what they want/need what they're into.
I have a first birthday party this weekend for someone we're not super close to and I have no idea what to get!
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Jenn627
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
I'm not a fan. But I'm also of the "TYs should be hand-written" mindset.
I actually LIKE thinking of gifts. If I'm really having trouble, I get a GC or I ask.
I'm a hypocrite though b/c I registered for my bridal and baby shower and it's the exact same thing. I didn't want to, but I did anyway b/c it's the "norm".
It seems wish lists are becoming the norm as well.
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WannaBeAMom11
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Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
The $50-$400 is tacky. There should be more inexpensive items.
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| Posted 9/24/13 9:10 PM |
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Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
who are these people you roll with ??? 
yeah..that's nuts. and not having cheaper items (like PP said) is insanity
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| Posted 9/24/13 9:17 PM |
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
I would feel awkward doing it but I would love for people to do this. I always end up giving a gc because i stress that the child will have the gift i picked out, or they will exchange it (and thats annoying for them)
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| Posted 9/24/13 9:33 PM |
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Bridex100
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Re: Birthday evite with amazon wish list embedded in invitation
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who are these people you roll with ???
yeah..that's nuts. and not having cheaper items (like PP said) is insanity
Most people we are friends with are not like this at all.
I did attend a bridal shower with only very pricey items on the registry recently and then there is this wish list. I think all other showers, weddings and parties follow normal protocol, etiquette and tact.
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